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writes:I have been with my bf for over a year now, i can honestly say that he is the love of my life and I'm his.we get on really well and share the same sense of humour and values there is just one small problem that I can't seem to let go and it is now causing a rift. he hasnt told his family about me..!!!He is in the forces and no longer lives near his ex and his children and even further away from his parents and siblings so I do understand that when he does go up to see them for a weekend logistically its difficult and also because he only goes up once or twice a month he wants time alone with his kids. I have met all his friends and his work colleauges and I even have a pass to his camp so I can come and go as I please during the week to see him so I'm sure there is no other relationship going on behind my back. But now its coming up for christmas again and I will be on my own with my children as he is going up to see his..When I have broached the subject before he tells me that I will meet them one day and that he has even told his elderly parents about me, I'm not sure I believe this as he never mentions me by name when he is on the phone to them..I really dont know if I should push the issue or just let it develop naturally but last year when we had only just met and I spent christmas on my own I did not think that I would be in the same boat this year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2011): I personally would say this is not ok with me. I would want to spend holidays with my so and family whenever possible. For the first year that would be understandable but for two years and maybe next year, it's not. Is that what you really want? You have to make your needs known or they will never be met. Something is off here, why keep you completely isolated from his entire family?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 I guess he just has his own private life away from his children and he doesn't want the both of them mixed together. Either way it just looks like he is not ready to tell his children about you just yet. Yes off course that will hurt you. I guess you just need to give him some time if you are willing to. Tell him how you feel about spending this Christmas alone. Tell him how it makes you feel, but also let him try and explain it to you about how he feels. Ask about the future get some answers. Good luck.
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