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writes:Hi everyone, I posted a question last year regarding the very same problem that I still have now. I was grateful for the extremely useful advice I received and certainly took it on board.To recap, for the past two years I have gradually fallen for one of my work colleagues and I believe he has feelings for me too which he refuses to admit.It somewhat came to a head at our Christmas office do last Friday. We both got very drunk and were making very obvious eyes at each other all night. Then he comes up behind me, puts his arms round me in a very affectionate way, kissing me on the cheek and asks 'hows my favourite boss.' I respond accordingly by holding his arm and telling him how much I value him.Throughout the evening, this was instigated by him and him alone; I was of course fully conscious of my strong feelings for him and was taken aback by his forwardness, even when his boyfriend turned up.The following Monday upon trying to speak to him about what happened (in a roundabout way), it became obvious to me that this was nothing more than a bit of fun on his part and something he probably does regularly when he gets drunk. (he has mentioned to me before he snogs his friends when he goes out with them).Problem is it has left me incredibly hurt and confused. I also have a boyfriend, as he does. Difference is, he's in a monogamous relationship, whereas I have an open relationship with mine. My feelings for him are not just merely physical, I am with love with him full stop.My question is, is it best to just forget this happened and try to get over my hurt in my own time and way or do I confront him with this and risk all sorts of consequences. I have a feeling I already know the answer but I would welcome any advice that you can give on this.
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