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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i was with my girlfriend for two years, and she broke up with me for someone else in june. since then, though, we remained friends, but it eventually led to her telling me she still had feelings for me. it's been a roller coaster ride ever since. she's extremely confused, which has really confused me, as well. one minute, i'm the love of her life, the next, she completely retracts from me, and she just doesn't know what she wants.i told her i thought she needed to take a step back and just be single for a while. that she needed to figure out what was best for her and just take some time alone to relax and just worry about herself for a change. she told me she was going to do that. she told her girlfriend she needed some space to think and she made her leave. i thought this was going to be a great thing for her. i really just have good intentions with her. if she's not with me, i just want her to know what makes her happy..well one single night goes by, then the next night she has her back in her house staying with her again. she never took any time for herself. yesterday, we were having conversation, and she admitted to me that she's still in love with me, but she has no faith her and i could make it work because we couldn't make it work the last time. she said the girl she's with now she's not in love with, but she really cares for her and they have a lot in common and their relationship flows easily, unlike ours did. she also said she doesn't feel as though she's ready to be the person i need her to be. that if she left that girl right now to be with me, she fears she'd just go right back to talking to her. she said she feels she needs to let this relationship run its course and if it ends on its own, then it ends on its own.basically right now, i have no idea how to feel and what to think. it completely baffles me how someone can say i'm still in love with you, yet stay with someone else. i know she's legitimately confused. but she's not doing anything to help herself. please, advice needed. should i just let this go and move on? just be a friend, if i can manage? thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): almost a tragedy what's going on here. you two are meant to be. all it takes is a mutual commitment to honest communication. set aside time for just the two of you alone and get to the nitty gritty. screw the games.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 Yes I think you need to let this go. I can see you tried your best and you just want her to be happy. But you know yourself she needs to find out herself what she wants. I think for now you need to give up on this and concentrate on yourself. Spend time looking after yourself and moving forward with your life. I don't think a friendship at the moment is healthy for either of you, there is still feelings on both sides so I think it is best to cut all contact however hard it will be to give the both of you a chance to sort out your lives. Good luck and all the best.
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