A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have known eachother for 10 years. we have been dateing for three.. and i think he is cheating on me. he hides his cell phone -i'm not alowed to touch it. he hides it at night so i cant find it and look at it. and i'm not alowed to know any e-mail or chat sight passwords. i have also come across girls he has talked to online who say they have never heard about me. my question is. how can i find out if he is cheating on me. or am i over reacting? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2011): Hey Anonymous, sorry to hear about your boyfriend. Would it be possible to find out more infomation?
Does he come home after work? Is he away for business trips and things like that?
Do you guys share a car? Do you leave female clothes, coats, shoes in the car? Does he move them or take them in?
Does he have your credit cards? Have you ever checked you credit statements or banking accounts for patterns, cities, restaurants, strange places like flower shops or worse?
Do you know the mileage / time to and from his work area. Does he call and explain that he will be late coming home?
Have you tried moving the seat all the way back to a position that you could reference and see if it changes.
This is just me: I would get my closest friend to put a pair of sexy panties on his driver's side mirror while the two of you go to bed and sleep. When he wakes up to go to work, he would at the very least, ask you about them. If he hides it, he would be thinking it's someone else.
I think that's it's illegal to pry into someone e-mail accounts in some states. You may not want to do that but you can find software that will track certain words and key strokes I believe. It is made to keep your kids safe or in your case a bad boyfriend.
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (13 December 2011):
 Why BOTHER "finding out????" You have a preponderance of evidence... PLUS, this submittal indicates that you believe he is.... so why not just "cut to the chase" and dump him??????
Good luck....
...............................
A
female
reader, hpoco  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 I think you shouldn't worry about finding out things you can't know for sure. If you obsess about trying to catch him, you will just make yourself crazy. You already have some good reasons to end the relationship. If he is being too secretive and you don't trust him, break up with him and find someone who is more open with you. You are very young and you will be able to find someone more appropriate for you. He might be cheating, and he might not. But he is being closed and you obviously feel shut out of parts of his life. So, find someone who you can trust more easily.
...............................
A
female
reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (13 December 2011):
Well what struck me most was the girls online. Why haven't they heard about you? This would make me suspicious
He may not be cheating but if you want to find out for sure
there are two ways in which you can find out
1. Confront him ( and if he is he'll probably deny )
( I only recommend this if you are really really sure you want to do this )
2. Honey trap. If you get one of your friends that he doesn't know or a friend of a friend he doesn't know or even if you get a old phone and get a new number for it pretend to be someone else start texting him or to meet him in a club follow him/ ask to see the texts and there you will find your answer.
Good Luck
...............................
|
