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male
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30-35,
*ndesired1989
writes:My girlfriend wants a vibrator, but I don't want her to. Why does she want one? Is it becuase I'm terrible in bed? Will she ever want sex again?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 To be frank, most women cannot reach orgasm just by sexual intercourse.They need manual or oral stimulations of their clitoris.
You can start by using the vibrator on her and then use the real thing.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): My boyfriend didn't like the idea of me wanting a vibrator, he thought he wasn't pleasing me enough in bed etc! When i did get a vabrator, we had fun with it as men can use them on their girlfriend's, u dont need 2 feel left out lol. You can also buy sex toys for men, the dirty dolphin is pretty good from Anne Summers! Dont take it personally, it's just fun!! Take care x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 Until they invent a vibrator that can take out the trash, I think us men are on secure ground when it comes to this kind of competition
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (1 February 2008):
your cute,,,dont take it personal, toys are just added excitment, no match for you im sure. lots of woman have toys, doesnt mean we like em better than our men! men do lots of things that vibrators cant match,,,, i completly agree with a taste of india good job girl!!!!
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reader, bee12  +, writes (31 January 2008):
Why stop there?! Its totally normal if she wants this, it dosnt mean shes gone off sex with you, a bit of variety never hurt anyone, dont take it personally!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (31 January 2008):
 My goodness,
You WILL have sex again and she will love it every time. You two should go to an adult toy store together and find some things to play with. You know, a vibrator can be a lot of fun for the BOTH of you in the bedroom - trust me, those vibration s can really spice up a wild night.
As a proud owner of a vibrator (okay, a few), and as a proud girlfriend of a great guy (who is great in the sack), I assure you that my trusty vibrator is NO MATCH for my delicious boyfriend. My vibrator is a fun time, a quick fix... but it's no match for a warm body, a real penis, hot breath, sweaty skin, the moans, the groans, the giggling, being held afterwards...
You are number one. A vibrator is just a fun accessory. Or, if you'd like another analogy: you are the main course and the vibrator is just a side salad.
No worries, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Plenty of women own vibrators, both married and single.
It certainly does not mean that she is not happy with you.
Anyway you can experiment together with it which will spice up your love life no end. Don't worry that she won't want sex with you, she just wants to try something else as well. Have fun.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 If you were terrible in bed, she wouldn't feel comfortable enough to ask you for what she wants, so good for you! She feels okay talking to you about what she wants and needs in order for you to please her. Less that 25% of women have an orgasm by penis alone, 75% of women need stimulation to the clitoris as well. Imagine how much better you will feel about your sex life when you know how to please your woman every single time you are together. That's why she wants a vibrator, she wants you both to enjoy your time together in bed, and she trusts you enough that she wants you to be the man to please her and bring her to orgasm. It's a good thing, a positive step forward, not something to feel threatened over. One of the biggest steps in the bedroom is feeling comfortable enough to communicate and ask for what you need, so it's obviously that she loves you, wants to stay with you and wants to improve the quality of your sex life together. That's a very good thing.
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (31 January 2008):
 My husband and I use toys together during sex. It's a lot of fun. You might surprise her with one for Valentines day and use it together.Go to this site: www.blowfish.com and check some out. I've ordered from them before, and they're great. The reviews of the "products" are informative and frequently humorous, and they've got some good "how to" articles to answer questions. Most importantly, when the package comes it won't raise anyone's eyebrows.Good luck and have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
Calm down sweet pee its nothing to do with you there are all sorts of sex toys out there for enjoyment and it doesnt mean she doesnt enjoy you she may like the fact of you having some fun with her with the toy, This can be very exciting for both of you hunny, It has absolutly nothing to do with your performance ok love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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