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writes:Hey Aunts i have a question. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a long time and we are thinking about sex, (for my birthday). My birthday is in a few days and im really anxious because of the connection we share. But at the same time i have been having second thoughts about it. I have been taking birth control for about 2 years (help keep me regular) and we are going to go buy condoms together,but somehow i dont think that is safe enough for me. Ive read some stories on the net about girls getting pregnant even if they have a condom and the pill (some how :S) and i dont want that to happen to me, but i REALLY am ready for this and so is he. So i brought up spermacidal lubricant and he went silent. What is the big deal? If he loves me enough to share this experience why cant we use spermicide? Why is he so against it? Thanks Alot guys! 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): So, you're on the pill, which is 99.9% effective..plus the condoms and the spermacide, which combined ends up being about 100% effective...if i were him i'd be silent thinkning you're a little excessively careful. 200% effectiveness is uh WAY more than a little paranoid. i'm all for safe sex, but paranoid sex will. not. be. fun. Just putting that out there.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 Maybe he's not really clear on what spermicide is. He might just be a little nervous because it sounds a little scarier than it actually is. Mostly, people know about two options for birth control: the pill and the condom. He might just not have all the information.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/birth-control/spermicide.htm
There is some more information on spermicide. He doesn't even have to do anything, really... just support your decision!
Look at your options together.
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 would this be speracide With condoms or with out?
in that sence yes i could see his issue.
i personally haven't tried the stuff.
have you considered the injection? get it once every 3 months and you're good to go.
i gotta say i'm actually happily surprised and must congratulate you both on being young and responcible of actually conciously thinking about brith control.
your bf might just be iggnorant about how spermacide works, i hear alot of people can be allergic to it and it can be itchy afterwards. probably best to ask about the injection or the patch. ask you Doctor about it!
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