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writes:My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to be with me. It's like shes being selfish.But she still says she loves me more than him and that he's jealous of me, but like what should i do?
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reader, lostloves  +, writes (22 May 2009):
she made her choice. Men do not choose women. Women choose men. Do not continue to be her friend. She needs to feel the consequence of her choice.
I am in the same situation.
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reader, lov bird +, writes (3 February 2009):
iam going through this my best friend is going out with the guy i like she even knows i like him so what i am going to do is tell her how i fell about him if that dont work i will just ask him out crule but ishe knows how much i like him should i ask him out
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): im 16 and i have the same problem. there are many ways to go about this. when my best friend got a boyfriend, she wasnt as close to me anymore. i had on and off feelings for her, and she had the same for me. but of course since she got a bf, that made me want her more. anywayz, i was constantly on her, like always hugging her and being close and just doing stuff like that. they ended up breaking up because he knew that me and her had feeling for each other. the retarded part is that i decided it was best not to have a relationship, because if we broke up, i would lose my best friend. this was like december. now she has a new bf and didnt tell me. i found out through friends. lol u probably didnt wanna hear that, but what im trying to say is, you can go with the whole sexy, jealous, bad boy thing like i did. or u can just realize that her being with someone else is probably the best thing for both of you. even though it fucking hurts
hope this helps
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reader, BigWorm +, writes (1 April 2008):
BigWorm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm a male.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Are you a girl?? This is very confusing to me. Are you going out with a girl??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 She thinks you are not her class, forget her and move on.Better you go love a stone than her.
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reader, BigWorm +, writes (30 January 2008):
BigWorm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have told her several times that i love her too, i feel she was playing games though. Because this week at a school function she was all over him and didn't even say hi to me. The next day she said whatsup blah blah , i was like "oh so now u know me?". Yeah i think the friendship and love is eroding, am i right? IDK, but i can't wait forever and be left behind anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): I think you should tell her how you feel. Don't be scared. I did that and For 6 years I am still Bf and Gf with him. But don't get mad at her just tell her that you like her and tell her about your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Buddy, you have to come out and say it. If you care for her that much, something has to be said. If you don't, you'll go through life wondering what could have been.
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reader, BigWorm +, writes (15 January 2008):
BigWorm is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all, as i'm reading this me and her were talking. I know alot of your advice was good but when me and her are cooled off it really affects us. I mean last time i didn't tak to her she called me crying. Then the next day we made up, and ever since we've been good again. But the problem isn't solved. I mean recently when i asked why she chose him over me she said cuz we're best friends and they were flirty friends and she started to like him. Theirs also another issue, he likes someone else and i don't want my best friend to be hurt(shes my heart), but at the same time I can get other girls so i don't wanna be anybodys spare tire, ya know.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Howdy,
Well, I'm just wondering if you've ever told her that you want a relationship with her? Have you ever asked her out on a date, have you ever told her that you are in love with her? If you haven't, then you can't blame her for finding someone to date - she's probably trying to get you riled up and get you a little jealous (which is clearly working). Or, maybe she just got sick of waiting for you to ask her out so she found someone on her own.
If you have told her how you feel about her, and you've asked her out and she's said no (or whatever) and now she's dating someone, it seems to me that you can only accept this as her trying to move on (or she's playing games, and in that case - let her grow up). So find yourself a girlfriend and start trying to get over her.
I feel for you, it's a really sucky situation. Be strong and if you're meant to be together, it will happen.
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Yes, Laura's advice is good, however make sure if your planning on doing this that she won't see this as a sign that you've accepted her having boyfriend.
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reader, InTheCity  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 The best thing i can suggest is that you spend some time alone without her and think more clearly.If she said that her boyfriend is jealous of you why doesn't she break up with him?Or maybe she likes what you two have the now and doesn't want to risk losing your friendship with one another.She might be saying that she loves you more than him because shes knows you better and your her best friend.Just give it some time to settle down and take its own way.Try and get your mind off of it by like watching a movie or listening to music or even go away on holiday for a while.
Everything will work out :] x
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 January 2008):
She is two timing you . If she is worthy and you still want her , you will have to better yourself and win over her. Put some ‘zing’ back into your relationship with her.
You could go and date another girl and let her see and feel what is it like to be on the receiving end.You may make her jealous and want you back. This is reverse psychology.
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