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writes:Im almost 30yr old. And Im terrified of driving. So therefore I still haven't obtained my drivers license. Now is this a huge deal breaker for men ???I don't lie about it but at the same time Im a little ashamed at times so I don't bring it up till I really have to. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): Don't let fear run your life not only is a liability for getting a relationship but not driving affects all others around you. They have to pick you up drive you home etc.... When they would really just like to go home themselves. Do you pay for gas. When people get there license they buy a car and pay for all the upkeep to a car. Passengers just get in and take all that for granted. All prices are going up and wages are not. So get your license get independent and if you take the bus everywhere and do not ask for rides then I think that's your choice but if not. Get your license. I am having to deal with this with a friend right now and it is driving me mad. I have let this go on for far too long with no gas money and then these rides become expected. Just get your license you will wonder why you waited sooooooo long
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): At your age, not having a license is an important factor; as a guy, marrying someone who does not have a license means that that person is a liability support-wise. Also, I would fear having someone drive my children whose driving experience was limited.
I am sorry that you are fearful of driving - I have a Class A Commercial Drivers License and work for Wyoming State Drivers License department. I want you to know that we see MANY people your age who have not had a drivers license. DO NOT be afraid - take the written test, don't worry about failing, you normally get more than one chance to pass the test anyway. Then, get a permit and start practicing. I brought up the Class A CDL to say this - driving takes practice for all human beings, and for me to get my CDL took many hours of practice.
Be careful, but DO NOT let fear rule you. YOU CAN DO IT!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): I have the same problem....and it's not so much that I don't know how to drive, but I feel like I will be embarrassed if I don't pass the test. I'm 24, and every year I've been promising myself to get it over with. Most of my friends have been driving since they were 15, and my boyfriend is pretty active in the fast car/racing scene, so I feel like I should be legally driving already.I don't think it's a deal breaker with men. I live with my boyfriend, and he drives me to work and school. However, I do think that it's a pain to have to depend on someone to take you somewhere---especially the most simple of places. For example, if I need milk or something to cook, I have to wait until he's ready to take me.The situation that's preventing ME to get my license is that my boyfriend's car is standard, and I can only drive automatic. I am in a business where I have to go to seminars and meetings, and my boyfriend has to take me and it is HIGHLY embarrassing.Best wishes to you, and wish me luck that I get my damn license soon.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 He there,Don't be embarrassed about not having a license. You're not adding to pollution, that's wonderful!! The only thing I suggest is maybe going to Driver's Ed, where you're behind the wheel with a professional and on a closed course (without the threat of other drivers). I'm not saying that you need to go get your license and buy a car, but it is always a smart idea to know HOW to drive in case of an emergency. You never know when the skill of driving will come in handy.There's nothing wrong with someone who makes use of public transportation, their feet or their bike. You're just fine, sweetness. However, you may want to learn the skill of driving for the sake of knowing.xx India
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reader, mich  +, writes (24 January 2008):
Well its not so much a deal-breaker for women as it would be for a guy. In most places a guy over 24 without a car will get no dates ever, period.
But I do recommend you learn soon, because one day you will have to, and the longer you leave it the harder it gets. And once you learn you should keep in practice, too many accidents are caused by confused and nervous drivers.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 January 2008):
Its nothing to be ashamed of. My mum was in a car accident when she was young, therefore was to scared to learn to drive. She didnt learn to drive until she was in her 40's.
I have a fair few friends who are in there 20's and who have never sat behind the wheel before either.
I dont see any reason why it would be a deal breaker. The only reason I can think of is maybe if a guy expects you to pick him up when shes drunk...but if thats enough to end a relationship then he isnt worth your time at all!
And honestly, most people in cities dont know how to drive or even if they do, they dont own a car because big cities have really good public transport usualy and its much easier then driving yourself to work everyday. So I'm sure there are a lot of people out there like you.
What makes you so scared of driving? I was never scared to learn, but now that I know how to drive and ive come into contact with all the really bad and crazy drivers out there, now im scared, lol. If you have really bad anxieties about learning to drive but you want to know how to, then you could maybe try talking to a professional about it. I had a car accident last year and found it really hard to get back on the road, in fear the same thing would happen again. But I talked to a counsellor about it and it really helped.
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reader, nunununu +, writes (24 January 2008):
hi,honny
Don't be scared at all.I had the same problem.I just got my driving license five months ago.and I am almost 50 years old.when the first time,I got it the car to drive,my legs were shaking badly.I drove so slow and I was so scared.Right now I am very comfortalbe with it.and I never fell less than anybody else before I got my license.just be confident and focus on it,once you make the decision,you want to drive.you will make it.believe me.I am much older than you.I am sure you will make it.
good luck
nunu
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (24 January 2008):
 I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you're scared of driving, then you're scared of driving. It's one of your quirks and you shouldn't be ashamed of it although I felt the same once. If you're really bothered by it, try to drive and see how it goes.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): why are u afraid of driving? just curious. maybe if you told us why, we could help you more.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (24 January 2008):
 No, there isnt anything to be ashamed of. I know personally 2 wemon that are around 30 who dont have there license because they were a little afraid or they didnt feel it necessary. But i would reccomend getting it so your self sufficient and dont have to rely on a man to drive you around, and that always makes you feel better about yourself and get higher self asteem.
I have been driving for 2 years and im still not 100% comfortable, and you really shoudnt get completely comfortable so you dont do something stupid and hurt someone. And it will be nerve racking when you start, i recommend go driving somewhere with little traffic and slow speed limits and just get used to controlling the vehicle, that will make you a lot more comfortable.
Good luck!
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reader, Sams_WonderWoman +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Hey don't worry about not having a driver's license...I don't have one either, but I can drive a car anywhere. I will eventually get one and I am not going to worry about when. I am not embarrassed about it and you should feel that way. Tell whomever that you will get a driver's license when you are good and ready and not a moment to spare. Tell them that you suffer from migraine headaches that disturb your vision.
If this will help you, Patti Labelle who sang the song "Lady Marmalaid" I think that there is a video of it, but I am not sure. Hey don't feel embarrassed, and don't let this bother you so much. It will happen eventually.
God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
I dont feel you have anything to feel ashamed of, We are all different I had trail bikes up untill I was 28 and then I passed my car test and only after they priced my bike of me as I was pregnant with my second child. It takes time to feel comfortable with certain things in life love and you will no when you feel you want to try, I live on a small island people would probably be scared to death to drive here with the tiny roads and lanes but to me its natural, get me in the u.k or anywere else for that matter and Id rather take my chances on a train or bus. It takes allsorts of people to make a world, Be who you feel is right for you TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, cd206  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 I feel for you since I'm terrified of it as well. I took lessons and that just made it worse for me but I haven't met a guy yet who thinks less of me for it. Think about it, the way oil is running out driving will become obsolete in our lifetime unless they start powering cars with electricity of vegetable oil or something. Just say you like to look after the environment if it embarasses you but it shouldnt. Everyone is scared of something, even men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): I am 26, I have taken my test 4 times but I keep going! There is no shame in not driving, whether its because you dont want too, or dont have the time or money, its no issue. If a man wasnt interested in you because you couldnt drive, then he has the problem not you.
If you can, seek out an instructor who specialises in nervous students. When I did my tests originally, I was a lot younger and my instructor wasnt very good. I started again recently with someone who builds my confidence more, and my driving has improved dramatically, I have my test coming up soon in fact.
But either way there is no shame in not driving. You could even say you chose not to drive to be kinder to the environment!
Good luck if you start, let us know how you get on xxx
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reader, lovejunkie +, writes (23 January 2008):
 If you signed up for driving classes you'd probably realize it's not so bad afterall. In fact, you may actually like the freedom and independence that comes with being able to go where you want, when you want etc. I think it's time for you to take the plunge. I don't know how you've made it this far without one. Good luck!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Well i guess no picking up your bf at 3am when hes drunk. joking.
But i doubt think its a deal breaker at all, and nothing to be ashamed of, i know a few people older than you who dont have their licence and dont care about getting one.
So dont worry. But why are you scared of driving
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (23 January 2008):
 In my opinion as a woman no its not. Just tone it down and say you want to help the enviroment. Never be embarresed but Driving isn't scary i think you should give it a try life is then a wole lot easyer.
hope this heps xxx
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