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writes:This may sound odd, but I've had an interest in my accounting teacher for awhile now. He has always seemed nice to me, but only recently has it seemed like he's been intereted in me, which worries me. He asks me to stay after school to help correct papers, or to help me with assingments(I don't feel like I need help, but he insists). Then he offers me rides home. He always seems to find subtle ways to touch me, like rubbing my arm when we talk or rubbing my back on the way to his car and there's even been times when he'll wrap his arms around me because I "look cold".I'm getting uncomfortable, but I feel like I've led him to act like this. I'm sure I've flirted with him along the line, but i'm really regretting it. I feel very uncomfortable when he touches me and I don't know what to do, I've already tried to stop staying after school, but it's my last class and sometimes he catches me before i leave.Please help!
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reader, Trinnity08  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 This is not ur fault . He should know better . the best to thing to do it make it clear to him that you feel uncomfertable and dont put ur self ino any vunrable situations with him , if it continues maybe you should speak to your parents or another trustworthy teacher xx be safe x trinity
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Do not walk too near him or if you accidentally touched, just withdraw. He should get your message. If not , tell him you prefer that he keeps his distance while talking to you . Tell him you are not comfortable when he is in close proximity.
Tell him , you have some assignments at home or give excuses for not staying after after school. If he harasses you , report to another teacher.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 January 2008):
 Don't feel bad at ALL about this. I really insist that you not feel like you brought this on yourself. In this situation he is the adult, he is the authority and he's the one who should be acting appropriately all the time. He is the teacher and you are the student and he is crossing the line.
Go ahead and tell your parents or a counselor or any other adults you like. Maybe even write an anonymous letter to the principal - just make sure that somebody follows up on it.
Don't feel guilty. Your teacher is kinda a scum bag and you should feel proud that you're getting him out of the school system (or at least scared into getting his act together).
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 January 2008):
 You'll need to put an end to it. If I were you, thinking of my own daughters, I'd be notifying a school counselor or someone there you get along with. Who knows if you were the first person he's crossed the boundaries with.
He needs to not be teaching school. It's a danger to students. You did nothing wrong. You didn't know he would do this. I worked in newspaper management for 5 years. During this time, I was in charge of carriers between the ages of 11 and adult. I'd had a few of my female teen carriers flirt over the years. It made me feel good, because once I hit 25, every now and again I'd feel a bit old. But it didn't matter to me. It was innocent. The main thing is, all though they flirted, I never crossed my professional boundaries as their manager. If they made a comment about dating, I'd let them know to hit me up in about 15 years, and if I'm still alive, we'll talk.
Your teacher has a student teacher responsibility. He's crossing it in an extremely inappropriate manner. He needs someone to put a stop to his behavior. I don't care if you're sitting accross the room blowing him kisses. He's the one with the responsibility and his teaching license to uphold a code of ethics.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2008): Yikes! I know how it feels to flirt and get the attention, and then come to find out...you don't want this guys attention! You could always transfer out. Maybe find a boyfriend? Join an after-school club or get an after-school job. Make a really good excuse to get home as soon as possible (younger siblings, etc.). If the touching keeps happening, tell him to stop (which I understand is harder than it sounds, I really do). Say 'No, actually, I'm not cold. Thanks.' In a polite tone or when he asks you to correct papers say that you really should be studying and doing your geography or something. And if it keeps happening or he crosses the line and becomes more inappropriate, take it up with the councelor or principal. Good luck!
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