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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Will using a condom keep me a virgin?
Q. Ok here's another question for all of you wouldn't having sex for the first time with a condom on keep me a virgin? lol and plz read the question before answearing it ...
A. 13 January 2010: No, wearing a condom does not keep you a virgin. It's always a good idea to wear one though.... (read in full...)
Is anal sex painful?
Q. hello all! i was just in a curious mood about anal sex. i have not tried it , but i want to. any tips? how much will it hurt?? (i can handle pain in general) will i need a lube? what does the guy feel during anal? is it like a vagina wet and ...
A. 13 January 2010: Even if you aren't using a condom during regular intercourse, you should definitely use one for anal. It's a LOT messier, I don't think I need to say why. A condom makes "clean up" easier. Also, yes to the lube. The vagina is self-lubricating, while ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask that this friendship ends now?
Q. so my boyfriend saw his ex and kept it a secret from me and recently saved some photos of her in her underwear. we've talked it through. he said he wants me and me only. he wants us to work and I am willing to try and give it this relationshi...
A. 12 January 2010: Not only is this not unreasonable, I think there are some serious red flags. Were those photos saved recently? If so I think you need to end things now. Also why did he lie to you? Lying about something like this is actually a pretty big deal. I'd ... (read in full...)
First time sex for both of us and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. Several weeks ago he and I had sex for the first time (both of our first times as well) it wasn't planned, it hurt like hell, it didn't last that long, and now I'm pregnant. My dad found out and now he hates me because ...
A. 12 January 2010: I'm sorry this happened. There are a lot of other girls in this same situation though. I would go to a planned parenthood and talk face to face with someone. It's usually free and they take confidentiality VERY seriously (they actually ask you if ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to have a baby?
Q. Can I have some advice please. i'm 16 and with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. I have thought this through 100 times and all the aspects that need to be covered. I am also a trainee hairdresser, but I really want a baby. so does my boyfriend, ...
A. 12 January 2010: I know you think you're ready at 16, but two things. One, the money. Everyone else pretty much has that covered, so I'm not going to say anything about that. But two, lots of guys say they want a baby with a girl, but often times it's not a real ... (read in full...)
I should never have married my husband.
Q. I should never have married my husband. I never wanted to get married, but I cared a great deal about my husband and was very much in love with him, so when he asked I said yes since getting married seemed to be so important to him. I ignored the ...
A. 12 January 2010: Why not suggest counseling for him? He obviously needs help. Talk to him about how you feel. It's not fair to stay in a marriage simply because you're worried you'll depress him more. If he refuses counseling even after you talk to him about the ... (read in full...)
She wants to meet up with her ex, should I feel anything?
Q. I'm new to the site, I have a situation which is making me anxious. I met a girl in Feb of this year and we started dating. I was reluctant to at first as she was a lot younger than me, there's an age gap of 16 years, I'm 39. My friends convinced me ...
A. 9 January 2010: Congrats on finding someone new and more worthwhile. Your ex was being a jerk.... (read in full...)
At my age can I buy a vibrator?
Q. I'll get straight to the point. Im 14 and masturbate. I have for a couple of years but have done the same thing the whole time. It feels amazing but Im getting tired of doing it that way and like to try new things. Any suggestions? Please don't say ...
A. 7 January 2010: I agree, get a prepaid visa card and then use it online. That way your parents won't see it show up on their bill or yours if you have your onw. Drugstore websites have some very good very inexpensive ones, like riteaid.com, walgreens.com and ... (read in full...)
Pains and aches when in a sexual mood for too long...
Q. Just a quick question. I've recently been getting pains and aches near my lower stomach and balls. It only happens when being with my girlfriend when we're kissing and touching but not actually having physical sex or oral. It seems to be something ...
A. 6 January 2010: Sounds like blue balls. It happens when you get really really excited and then don't orgasm. It happens easier to some than others. You can fix it by having an orgasm before the sexual tension goes away. Since it happens with your girlfriend, just ... (read in full...)
Advice sought... Why is my period late???
Q. 20 years old, my bf and I have just starting having sex together for the first time recently. We used a condom and he didnt cum inside of me. My period is late, by about 3 days. So I am scared that I could be pregnant. For the past 3 days I ha...
A. 6 January 2010: Even if he had cum inside you, if he wore a condom it should be a problem. That's the whole point of a condom! He doesn't need to pull out with a condom. Periods sometimes come a little late (few days) due to stress or weight changes. So don't freak ... (read in full...)
Advice needed. How can I get him to last longer?
Q. my boyfriend and I are sexually active and he'll only "hold up" for less than 5 mins.. I get "wetter" than normal and we're not using any protection.. he'll pull out when he starts to cum though.. how do we prevent this and make him last longer.?...
A. 6 January 2010: First off, the average guy can only last two minutes after penetration. So he's actually not cumming that early. Second off, the pull out method is really ineffective. If he pulls out when he actually starts to cum the chances of him getting ... (read in full...)
How can I make sex more pleasurable for her?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for a little over two months. at first it was really painful for her now it just is when we start or if we go too long. she loves doing it but its not pleasurable for her at all shes turned on and we're ...
A. 5 January 2010: Well the fact that it hurts right when you start indicates that she's not turned on enough before sex. If she's not already aroused and enjoying things before you start having sex, she's probably not going to enjoy it during sex much either. I know ... (read in full...)
Sex and Masturbation help!!!!
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster states she is 13, NOT 19 as it shows. I'm a 13 year old girl and I masturbate but i cant ever find pleasure in it...i want to finger myself but im scared i might bleed cuz im a virgin...and ther is this guy that i dirty talk wit...
A. 3 January 2010: Unless you're shoving things in that just should never go in there, you won't bleed. It shouldn't hurt more to finger yourself because you're a virgin. You're still young, it takes time to figure out what feels good and can get you turned on. I ... (read in full...)
Afraid boyfriend will leave me if I don't have sex
Q. I'm scared that if i don't have sex with my boyfriend he will leave me. He's not pressuring me into anything, but it does make me wonder weather this is the only thing he's interested in? He's already done it with his ex girlfriend when they were ...
A. 3 January 2010: Just because he had sex before doesn't mean he expects it from you. If he's not pressuring you into it, and you don't want to yet, then don't do it. The anon poster said it really well. "If you can't keep him without sex then you won't keep him with ... (read in full...)
Afraid 2 have sex with virgin gf
Q. my girlfriend of 3 months is a virgin. i am not a virgin and hav been in 1 relationship so far in my life. im not looking for anything 2 serios yet due 2 my former heartache but my gf keeps pestering me for sex n im afriad 2 give it 2 her. if i take ...
A. 3 January 2010: Yeah taking her virginity and then dumping her would be cruel. I wouldn't advise you have sex with someone you've been dating for a fair amount of time only to KNOW you're going to break up with her. I agree with the below posters. Why even date her ... (read in full...)
Curious about sex!
Q. Whats the right age to lose your virginity? I am 15 am I too young?!? How do I masturbate? (women)... What does sex feel like for a women? what am i letting myself in for?I don't want to have sex till I am 19 am i frigid?I want to have sex but ...
A. 3 January 2010: You should have sex when you're ready, meaning you trust the guy, are comfortable, and just plain really want to. The average age is somewhere around 16 for girls. Waiting doesn't make you frigid though.I know lots of women who are 20 or 21 and are ... (read in full...)
Do I shave... or not?
Q. hey, im 14 years old, and i dont know if i should shave me pubic hair or not, i have heard it looks a lot better, but i'm not sure, please help? ...
A. 3 January 2010: Shaving it all off is usually something people only do for a specific purpose, like a girl asked them to or they want to look a certain way naked. That said, most people like to take scissors and trim the hair down so it's a bit shorter and more ... (read in full...)
Is she having an orgasm?
Q. I just want to know how do I tell when my girlfriend is about to have an orgasm or is busy having one, because most of the time when i give her oral sex, her body shakes and she tenses up for a moment then releases and she moans alot, is she ...
A. 3 January 2010: Sounds like it! A good orgasm definitely makes your legs weak and oral sex is usually a good way to get one. You could always just ask her right after, "did you have an orgasm?" I bet she'd be more than happy to gush a little afterwards.... (read in full...)
Every time we meet we hook up but why doesn't he make a proper move?
Q. Iv had my eye on this fella iv known for quiet a while. There is amazing chemistry between us, we seldom see each other but over the last few years every time we have met we have hooked up. We got "reaquinted" :) over xmas (i hadnt seen him in ...
A. 3 January 2010: Two things could be happening. One, he just sees you as a hookup. That could be because that's what he wants, or maybe it's what he thinks you want. Two, he's just shy because he thinks a hookup is what you want. The next time you two are together ... (read in full...)
My lover wants to be watched!
Q. hi i have been in a relationship for the past 18 months and we have both fallen in love with each other very much so. our sex live is wounderful and we are exploring each other. a few weeks ago whilst having sex i asked about what her fantasy was,...
A. 3 January 2010: Sometimes fantasies are just that, fantasies. Just because we think of them and get turned on doesn't always mean we want them to be reality. I wouldn't worry about it. This is, believe it or not, a common fantasy. Don't try to set this up. Even she ... (read in full...)
I don't really feel anything when I masturbate, am I doing it wrong?
Q. Hi. Ive masturbated myself before but it doesnt feel good. Is that normal or am I doing it wrong or anything. Im quite concerned as my mates say it feels good, when i dont really feel anything....
A. 3 January 2010: You've probably just not figured out what feels good yet. Just because something works well for one person doesn't mean it will feel good for another. Oddly enough I wasn't able to do anything with my fingers (literally nothing felt good) until I ... (read in full...)
Is he taking advantage of all the freedom I give him?
Q. so my boyfriend spends a lot of time with his friends playing football, video games and other stuff, but i think he spends to much time with them and not enough with me sounds crazy right, well i do things with my friends but he hardly do anything ...
A. 3 January 2010: I don't think you sound needy and clingy. I agree with CaringGuy. This guy is clearly not all that serious about your relationship if he'd rather play video games and football than spend any time with you. Of course everyone needs freedom to do ... (read in full...)
20 and never had a real relationship
Q. Ive never had a real relationship with a girl and im going to be turning 20 soon, and im not going to lie that this does make me sad sometimes thinking about it. Its not like i didn't have a social life during my school years and now, i do its just ...
A. 1 January 2010: Don't date someone just to not be alone. You'll wind up miserable and breaking her heart. Don't worry about your age, I didn't have a real relationship until I was 20 even though I've been told many times I'm attractive/nice/smart/funny whatever. It ... (read in full...)
Problems with IUD
Q. i have an I.U.D and have had one for 1 1/2 yrs. just recently i have had really bad cramping and heavy period like bleeding it happened every other day for a week then just like it started it stopped. then i have had an increase of vaginal discharge ...
A. 1 January 2010: Doesn't sound like pregnancy, sounds like there could be a problem with the IUD. If something is wrong with it, it could escalate into something worse. Either way, it might only be a short matter of time before it snowballs into something really ... (read in full...)
Straight to sex and its just too painful!
Q. Every time my bf and I try to have sex it is painful to the point where intercourse really dont take place. I like foreplay but it doesnt last long enough to get me very excited then we go straight to sex, but its painful. Is it that hes to big for ...
A. 1 January 2010: Sex isn't just for the guy. If he's doing something you don't like or that hurts, you have no obligation to continue. Make him give you the foreplay you want. If you're not getting enough foreplay (most women require an average of 20 minutes to ... (read in full...)
She forces me to wear condom and I always lose my erection
Q. okay picture this... me and my girl are messing around im getting turned on she is ready for me i am hard as rock and then i go for the condom. in thre time it takes me to get the condom, put it on and start tryinf to go in i lose my stiffness. I ...
A. 1 January 2010: A condom is definitely worth it. Like they say, no glove no love! Try having her put the condom on you (instead of you doing it yourself) while kissing. You can add it as part of a handjob. It's a pretty common problem. Condoms really aren't sexy ... (read in full...)
I can feel something poking out when I touch myself! Is it supposed to be there?
Q. Okay, so when I'm fingering myself. *Masterbating* I hook my fingers up, and I can feel something poking out, nearly touching the other side of the inside of my vagina. But... I can play with it, and it feels great! Like, I'm about to orgasim...
A. 1 January 2010: That could be your Gspot. In most people it's just a little rough spot. If it feels really good though, why worry? I doubt your boyfriend will notice anything but dang this is so easy to make her orgasm! Especially because of your age he probably ... (read in full...)
Stomach hurting head spinning after sex
Q. what does it normaily mean when your stomack starts hurting and your head starts spinngin after a guy cums in you...
A. 1 January 2010: Well either you had a really intense orgasm, you were simply lying down in the same position too long and sat up too suddenly, or you're dehydrated. Either way I'd drink some water and not worry unless it happens frequently and while doing other ... (read in full...)
We had sex, he pulled out, but could I be pregnant?!
Q. i had unprotected sex last night and he pulled out onto my backside... i was wearing a thong tho (he jus pulled it aside when we were having sex) and he got his cum on it. i didnt take my underwear off until about 30 mins later. i jus had my period ...
A. 1 January 2010: The precum doesn't have sperm in it unless he's cum since the last time he urinated. However, if the semen came into contact with your vagina (like on the thong) there's a chance, especially as you're somewhat into your cycle. I'd take the morning ... (read in full...)
Unsure what to do...pregnant at 15!!
Q. well without a doubt im pregnat. 15 years of age thats the bad thing about it. with me being sexually active i had only one partner wich is my boyfriend. we have been together for two years now, and we always used a condom. i just dont know what to ...
A. 1 January 2010: I would advise you call the planned parenthood in your area for advice before doing anything. They can tell you what your options are. In some states at your age you need parental consent to get an abortion. In others, you don't. Though with your ... (read in full...)
What deos it me when a guy says he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. ive been talking to this guy i met on plenty of fish.. on his profile it says hes looking for dating.. he calls me alot even though hes on holiday.. he have good conversations and make eachother laugh.. but he says hdoesn'tnt want a relations...
A. 1 January 2010: He told you straight up he doesn't want a relationship and that when he was in one he was "tempted" to cheat. He's telling you he doesn't want a relationship and then he went further to say if he somehow does get into a relationship, he'll probably ... (read in full...)
Insecure about my Vagina's appearance! Help!!
Q. okay big time help needed! i have really really really low self esteem when it comes to men. Not about meeting them, but 'otherwise'. Whenever i am getting intimate i never allow a man to go near my bottom half because i have a vagina that has ...
A. 1 January 2010: It's not unusual at all to have inner labia that are larger than outer, especially once you get past the age of like 12. Unless they're so long they could double for knee pads guys probably won't care what they look like. I mean mostly they're ... (read in full...)
I love her but her behaviour and mood swings are making me question it all, please help!
Q. I need some really good advice. Please... My fiance and I have been engaged for about 6 months. We met one year ago. I realize most people will think that was way too soon to get engaged. It was a little fast but i don't regret it. I love her d...
A. 31 December 2009: Birth control pills can cause REALLY severe mood swings. You'll just have to ask yourself if condoms are really so bad that it's worth your relationship. Some people just react badly to the pill. Sometimes you can try a new pill and it helps, other ... (read in full...)
I can't have without it hurting so much!
Q. I am 21 years old and my bf and I of 9 months have just started to have sex for the first time in our relationship. The problem is everytime we try I just clamp up and therefore when he tries to enter me, it hurts like hell! The pain is so bad. ...
A. 31 December 2009: Well there can be no doubt about it, you were raped your first time. It's pretty natural to still be extremely traumatized by this. I'd recommend talking to a counselor. Explain this to your boyfriend and take it really slowly. I had very bad ... (read in full...)
When he is inside me I don't feel him!
Q. I have a problem with my bf. I cannot have sex with him because my vagina is too wide.When he is inside me i do not feel him. I am only 29, have no kids and started having sex at the age of 24 so i do not know why this is happening. With my previous ...
A. 31 December 2009: I don't know about other women, but I really can't feel a guy IN me either and I never thought it was abnormal. I can tell he's thrusting, but I can't actually feel him unless I squeeze my muscles. You really don't have many nerve endings in there! ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex in over 2 months
Q. Im 22 and I'm married to my middle school sweet heart, we have two kids together. My problem is that we haven't had sex in like 2 months. Our sex history was the greatest at least three times a day. And when we were in high school we would be ...
A. 31 December 2009: It's a hard adjustment after kids, getting back into the routine of sex. You're tired and just don't feel like it, he's frustrated and probably not putting much effort in. This can continue for years. Here's what you should do. Plan ahead. Get a ... (read in full...)
Vagina tightening cream?
Q. has anyone tried the vagina tightening cream Manjakini.does it work? and how do you use it?...
A. 31 December 2009: I agree that a vaginal tightening cream sounds like a scam. Instead of trying to pay for a quick fix, try doing kegel exercises. That should help a bit. Also, your vagina shouldn't be "loose" feeling to a guy. There are two main reasons to feel ... (read in full...)
I masturbate so much I get headaches!
Q. Hi, I'm a 13 year old girl. I started to masterbate when I, 7. Anyways, I masterbate like 4 to 6 times a day to the point where I have a bad headache. It's like I can't get enough... Is there something wrong with me???...
A. 31 December 2009: A really intense orgasm can cause headaches too. I would ease up on the masturbation though, as it sounds like you do it enough to interfere with your life.... (read in full...)
She's controlling me with sex!
Q. So I am dating this girl and we have been have sex for a awhile but one day she randomly decided that she wouldn't have sex anymore because she's in a bad mood indefinitely. I feel its a power play on her part and so I told her to enjoy her time and ...
A. 31 December 2009: Many guys feel like because they are in a relationship with a girl, they are entitled to sex whenever they want how ever much they want it and that whenever a girl turns down sex with her amazing stud, she's trying to gain something. Guess what. ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 20 and I'm bored of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I'm 19 years old- nearly 20- and I'm already bored of porn. It does not arouse me at all any more. It often bores me or disturbs me. At best it amuses me, but it is never arousing to me. I find myself turning to my imagination, or remembering past ...
A. 31 December 2009: Oh no how horrible you must be severely ill. Not really. You've just realized something most men never realize. That real women, with real body parts, having real orgasms, and real sex are more exciting then women in porn. This is, believe it or not ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend lying to me?
Q. Okay, so I have a situation where I can hardly ever trust my girlfriend. We've been together for almost 2 years and I still findit hard to believe her. Sometimes she'll tell me she's busy at work, but then if I call her up 5 minutes later, I...
A. 31 December 2009: She clearly has no respect for you. Move on before she lies to you about something more major, like cheating.... (read in full...)
She wants to meet up with her ex, should I feel anything?
Q. I'm new to the site, I have a situation which is making me anxious. I met a girl in Feb of this year and we started dating. I was reluctant to at first as she was a lot younger than me, there's an age gap of 16 years, I'm 39. My friends convinced me ...
A. 17 December 2009: Yes, I would be concerned. I judge my current relationship by the current relationship, not past ones. There's nothing even cryptic there. I want to make sure nothing's there? The unsaid part of that sentence is and if there is something there I ... (read in full...)
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