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writes:hii have been in a relationship for the past 18 months and we have both fallen in love with each other very much so. our sex live is wounderful and we are exploring each other. a few weeks ago whilst having sex i asked about what her fantasy was, she told me she would like to be watched having sex. since then i have talked to her during sex about being watched and what the person is doing as her watches us and when i do she cums within seconds and very intencly. do you think she wants to try it and should i try an set it up, as i have asked and she is unsure but gets turned on by it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi
thanks for all your good comments. i am intrested in what anonymous said about what she wanted. this morning we had sex and she again spoke about being watched which turned us both on and the thought came from being at the beach a few days ago. she did add this time that the guy wanted to come over and help me f.... her so i am still a little unsure if she does want it to be more that and fantasy, what do yo think anonymous, pm me if you like
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I have had lots of fantasies in my adult life...but never wished to truly act on them. That's why fantasies are so great! They are things that you wouldn't normally experience.
Discuss it further if you wish...but be careful, it could be the undoing of your new relationship!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 January 2010):
 Sometimes fantasies are just that, fantasies. Just because we think of them and get turned on doesn't always mean we want them to be reality. I wouldn't worry about it. This is, believe it or not, a common fantasy. Don't try to set this up. Even she doesn't sound like she wants it in real life. It's just something she sometimes thinks about to get turned on.
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reader, alejandro +, writes (3 January 2010):
NO NO NO NO NO , sex is something special between 2 people. You need to look at all aspects of this, how do you think this will affect your relationship after all is said and done. Could you look at her the same way knowing what the two of you just did. Sex is something that should be private and inviting other people into your bedroom just makes things much more complicated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): Maybe she does want to try it, but believe me if she did, you'd know. I wouldnt suggest going and setting this up - i wouldnt even enquire about it. She will definitely let you know if she did want it for sure. It is a fantasy and the exciting thing about a fantasy is the feeling that it probably wont happen..I have been in a relationship with my partner for a long time now and i can relate to your wife EXCEPT, mine was TO watch my partner have sex with another women. I thought it was just something that would pass but it never did. I let my partner know and he did the same, would talk to me about what he would do to other women while i was watching and it would almost instantly make me cum. Now i definitely want this fantasy BUT if he was to go and organise it on his own without me telling him to, i would think he is wanting it for himself and not to fulfil my fantasy. My point is, yes her fantasy may well be what she wants in real life, but its for her to enforce it. In time, she will let you know if she wants you to set it up but until then, for your sake, just leave it to the pillow talk for now or you could end up hurting her and confusing yourself. hope this helps..
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (3 January 2010):
 I agree with the other two posters. Not every fantasy needs to make it into the bedroom. If they did, they wouldn't be called fantasys, they would be called realities. I'm not saying that you all can't talk about it during sex, but I would hold off on making it a reality.
Jeff
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 January 2010):
This sounds like a fantasy that shouldn't happen. She said it was her fantasy, but even she seems unsure about it. I think both of you need to be very sure you want to do it before anything is arranged.
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