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writes:Im 22 and I'm married to my middle school sweet heart, we have two kids together. My problem is that we haven't had sex in like 2 months. Our sex history was the greatest at least three times a day. And when we were in high school we would be getting it on in the school parking or just wouldnt show up to school. Now it's boring and plain I just lay there and try to at least feel something. The last time that I remember we had sex I was a little drunk! Oviously it was good sex! Lately he spends his time in the bathroom and me just watching the kids. I feel really bad that he has to masterbate when he has me but I just don't feel like doing it! I wouldn't like for him to go off and cheat on me or me cheat on him. He thinks I'm an alcoholic just because the last times we did it I gad to drink a little. I don't want this to become a drinking problem. I need help, what can I do?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 December 2009):
 It's a hard adjustment after kids, getting back into the routine of sex. You're tired and just don't feel like it, he's frustrated and probably not putting much effort in. This can continue for years. Here's what you should do. Plan ahead. Get a sitter for awhile or drop the kids off with the grandparents or a friend. Get some rest and get showered. Both put some effort in. Then have a glass of wine or two and shred each other's clothes. You may find that now you guys have to schedule sex. And that's actually OK. Also, sometimes there just isn't time for sex or you don't want to deal with the effort. That's OK too. Set aside some time to masturbate together or each other. Get turned on watching each other. That way you're still involved sexually. You may even find you get so turned on watching each other that you have to have each other!
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reader, gamerecognizer +, writes (31 December 2009):
every relationship changes. you guys have kids to raise and it can take up that time u need to be romantic. make time. sometimes a man wants his woman to 'jump' his bone. do what u have to
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