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writes:So I am dating this girl and we have been have sex for a awhile but one day she randomly decided that she wouldn't have sex anymore because she's in a bad mood indefinitely. I feel its a power play on her part and so I told her to enjoy her time and to count me out.Why do women do these stupid power plays out of the blue, are they so insecure that they need to reassure themselves that they can control a man with their vaginas?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Many guys feel like because they are in a relationship with a girl, they are entitled to sex whenever they want how ever much they want it and that whenever a girl turns down sex with her amazing stud, she's trying to gain something. Guess what. Unless you put effort into the sex, she's flat out not going to want it as much as you. Furthermore, even if you are putting in effort (does she finish pretty much every time? If not than what is her motivation) she is more than allowed to turn down sex, at any time, for any reason. Sometimes that reason is we're just flat out not in the mood. Sometimes it's because we're depressed or feel sick. Sometimes it's because our men are annoying us and we don't want sex with someone annoying. So before you assume it's a powerplay (it sounds like it isn't) take a good look at yourself. I agree with the poster below. You're the one blackmailing her. You're basically saying put out when I want or I won't stay with you. If your relationship isn't fun, the sex won't be either. If she isn't orgasming at least most of the time, the sex isn't going to sound very fun for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): "I feel its a power play on her part" - you think?
get used to it... it's likely a result of her not liking how you are treating her... if you care about her, threat her like something better than a blow up doll... may be she'll get in a better mood.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 She's entitled to say she's in a bad mood and doesn't want to have sex anymore for an extended period of time. What a stupid thing to say though. Unless there is something else going on in the relationship that gives her reason to doubt this guy, it makes no sense. Can you imagine if a guy said...Im in a bad mood. No more hugs, kisses, cuddling, flowers etc. Sex is usually something that happens when we are in a relationship. Making a choice to completely cut it off is a big deal. It makes me wonder what the status of this relationship actually was.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 December 2009):
Perhaps she's checking whether you were using her for sex or whether you really wanted to be with her. If you really wanted to be with her, maybe it wouldn't have mattered so much. Maybe she's just not the girl for you.
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