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writes: I have a problem with my bf. I cannot have sex with him because my vagina is too wide.When he is inside me i do not feel him. I am only 29, have no kids and started having sex at the age of 24 so i do not know why this is happening. With my previous bf i also had this problem.I recently started having this problem this year 2009. I have tried different positons ...including doggy.. that was suggested to me but still it doesn't work and yes i have tried kergel exercises for six months but they do not work either. the problem is that it is the lower end of my vagina which is too wide and kergel exercises only tighten the upper end. I don't know what to do....i went to the gynacologist and they couldn't really help me. i am thinking of getting vagina rejuvenation but it is risky and it might totally ruin the sensation inside ...HELP!!! my bf is getting very frustrated and so am i.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Kegels don't provide any resistance so they aren't very effective. Kegel devices such as the Gyneflex provide resistance. Depending on which one you buy, it can be very easy, very difficult, or something inbetween.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 I don't know about other women, but I really can't feel a guy IN me either and I never thought it was abnormal. I can tell he's thrusting, but I can't actually feel him unless I squeeze my muscles. You really don't have many nerve endings in there! You should focus on positions that hit your clitoris and or Gspot. Or positions that allow you to masturbate during sex. Most women can't orgasm from sex (70%) and worry that they're broken or too loose or something. But guess what. Vaginas aren't a pleasure organ at all. You're not supposed to orgasm from nothing but vaginal stimulation. The ones who can orgasm from sex alone are the ones who've figured out how to stimulate their Gspot or clit during sex. Try adding in a vibe or some fingers and then see if you enjoy it a bit more then. Don't go in for surgery, I promise there's nothing wrong with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Jane,
Saw your previous post first... this one has a lot more information. Sorry you're experiencing this. You need to find a Dr. that cares about you and will offer good advice.
I suspect that you're just built different and not a result of anything that you did, or could control.
Seriously, I know that there can be fear associated with anal sex, but it can be quite erotic and rewarding. In college my GF suggested it, and it took less than a week to go from total novice to being able to perform it, giving BOTH of us mind blowing orgasms. The anus has multiple times MORE nerve endings than the vagina and so long as your man is caring, genital and patient together you can learn how to do it.
The tightness combined with the elevated temperature (I find the anus to run hotter than the vagina) creates an amazing feeling, and the penis rubbing your G-spot creates AMAZING orgasms.
If your condition is serious enough for you to consider expense and risky surgery you should at least consider anal sex as an option. In all my years, there's never been a poo issue (and zero enema's which i couldn't handle), no injury and no complaints of any looseness or change in anal functions. The first week she did walk a little funny, but after than it was as natural as vaginal sex and we had it daily for a month or so, until I missed her vagina.
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