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20 and never had a real relationship

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Question - (1 January 2010) 2 Answers - (Newest, 5 January 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ive never had a real relationship with a girl and im going to be turning 20 soon, and im not going to lie that this does make me sad sometimes thinking about it. Its not like i didn't have a social life during my school years and now, i do its just no one really understands me or appreciates me accept for i am not interested in or i cant have.

The other day my friends cool sister basically came out and said " Hey if i ever dump or get dumped by my current boyfriend i would love to be with you" and this sorta thing happens a lot. People who i meet for a few days on a trip or cant form a long relationship with always like me while people i can dont, or i dont feel for them that way.

Recently i began talking to a girl online that lives near me on facebook and we got along ok at first but as we got to know each other better her personality turned me off as she is immature and has no plans for the future what so ever. The problem being she is obsessed with me, she wont leave me alone and wants constant attention.

I no longer see her as a someone that i would possibly date but she likes me so much i feel sorta bad for considering telling her im not interested. Yet because ive never had a real relationship part of me almost feels like leading her along till i find someone that i do really feel for, but i know this is wrong and horrible, and the whole reason i want to do this is because im afraid of being alone like this forever.

So i just let her down or accept her as what i can get and not be alone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010):

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Thanks, yet this whole situation and facebooks suggested friends system has ripped my broken heart open again. My first love used and killed me emotionally for a year and i feel the same again.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (1 January 2010):

person12345 agony auntDon't date someone just to not be alone. You'll wind up miserable and breaking her heart. Don't worry about your age, I didn't have a real relationship until I was 20 even though I've been told many times I'm attractive/nice/smart/funny whatever. It was just because I was SUPER picky and now I'm with the perfect person for me. All it means is that you've missed out on all the heartbreak that comes from being with the wrong person. You'll find someone better for you. If she's already driving you crazy now when you're not dating, how do you think it will be when you spend a lot more time together?

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