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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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The guy I like was upset when he saw his friend feeling me up! What should I do now?
Q. Okay so last night I went to the local bar in the area of the city that i live in. Afterwards my friend and I went back to the guy I like's (he likes me in return)house with his friends as well. Needless to say i was quite drunk and flirty with the ...
A. 31 January 2010: Hmm well you could just tell the guy you like him, and explain what happened. That's really creepy that the guy was feeling you up without your permission, that's borderline sexual assault. I think that could legally actually BE sexual assault.... (read in full...)
Had unprotected sex but have had a period since then, cud I be pregnant?
Q. me and my ex b.f. had unprotective sex..i think im pregnant..but i have had my period since we had sex...is it possible for me to be pregnant.?...
A. 31 January 2010: Your period means you're not pregnant. Just remember to always use a condom.... (read in full...)
Married and bi. I want my wife to watch me have m2m relations, how can I convince her?
Q. Hey hi im a married male and im bi and i want her to watch me have sex with anouther guy but she says no any ideas how to get her to say yes or should i keep just having m2m sex behind her back?...
A. 31 January 2010: So you're asking her to watch you cheat on her? No wonder she doesn't want to. Why do you even want her to watch? I bet if she knew you were having sex with other men behind her back she wouldn't be very happy. The kind of unhappy that sparks a ... (read in full...)
I'm confused! Am I gay?
Q. Am i gay? I'm 19 and was with my boyfriend for 2 years. I have always looked at girls and been able to openly say 'oh they are hot', and i've kissed girls drunkenly at parties but nothing more. I have fantasized about having sex with a girl and thin...
A. 31 January 2010: I think there's really nothing to be confused by and no need to label it. You don't have to force yourself to only date one gender. If you're happy with both or happy with a girl, what difference does it make as long as you're happy? I think a lot ... (read in full...)
I need to reassure my husband who is feeling insecure about his penis size..what should I say?
Q. I have a question I have been married for sometime. I have only had sex with 2 guys the first guy I was with was somewhat bigger than my husband and we had trouble. My husband and I were talking about sex and the past and I mention that the first ...
A. 31 January 2010: This is just a sore subject for men. They're always told bigger is better. Whenever you're having sex just talk about how much you love sex with him and how much you love his penis. Don't mention size, just talk about how it's the perfect "fit" for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I love him?
Q. Well me and my bf had been dating for a week and i really love him and i don't know how to tell him right every time i do tell him he looks at me like what a child it hurts i just want to tell him.What do i do and say!!!!...
A. 30 January 2010: There is no right way to say it. If you're saying it and he's not saying it back, it means he doesn't feel the same. At least not yet. A week is way too fast to know you love someone. You can feel totally infatuated with someone, and you should when ... (read in full...)
Sex is not as much fun for me as it is for him!
Q. Ok, so here it is I have been in the same relationship with the same guy for over a year now and i get super wet im talkin like really wet drippin wet were if i stand up its drippin down my leg and he thinks its all sexya nd stuff and well it really ...
A. 30 January 2010: Trust me, just guide him. He won't know he's doing something wrong unless you tell him. Instead of saying "hey this is awful, you're doing it wrong" try saying I just love when you do "blank." and guide his hands with yours. That won't seem like ... (read in full...)
I feel I have been pushed into child access arrangements
Q. Me and my long tearm boyfriend split up this week. We have a 2 month old baby and we both agreed that, he would have are daughter for 3 day at his home and 1 night. This means that I would be takeing care of her for 4 days and 6 nights. Their is ...
A. 30 January 2010: I know it's scary to part with your child, but you already have her for the majority of the time. He's her daughter too, and he deserves to connect with her as well. You already have her the majority of the time, and I'm sure he's a perfectly fit ... (read in full...)
I'm regretting what I did to my sister when we were younger, what am I supposed to do?
Q. ok, this is strange one. what have i done!! this is even weird and awkward for me to type but... for years ive been really anxious and worried about what happened to me and my sister when we were young. i was about 12 and she about 6. we played ...
A. 28 January 2010: I think you just need to move on. As long as you weren't doing something that was hurting her, you were both children. Much as society likes to pretend it doesn't happen, siblings do educate each other about sexuality, as do friends at that age. So ... (read in full...)
Why don't I trust my boyfriend? do I need help?
Q. So, im 18 years old and i started not trusting my boyfriend and getting fishy ever since this: to make a long story short: he gave me his email account/password back in sept to check something. In Dec, i went on his account because i got fi...
A. 28 January 2010: This sounds like excuses on top of excuses on top of more excuses. There is NO reason for him to keep the photos "as evidence." That's bs. Furthermore, that note sounds VERY suspicious. You're not being jealous, I think he's just making excuses for ... (read in full...)
Faded line on pregnancy test - what does this mean?
Q. I took a early result pregnancy test and a blue line showed up in the control window, but in the result window the blue line was faded. Anyone knows what this means?...
A. 28 January 2010: It probably means positive. Get another test or two and try again. You can also go to the doctor and know for sure.... (read in full...)
Why do I give guys my number even although I KNOW I'm not interested???
Q. Why do i do this? i am not a flirt im just super friendly always smiling and laughing. now when i meet a guy for the first time maybe over three times i have given out my number even though i knew i wasnt gonna do anything or i was looking for ...
A. 27 January 2010: Because it's flattering and makes you feel attractive. It does make you a bit of a tease, but it IS quite flattering to feel "pursued."... (read in full...)
My friend sent my boyfriend love letters!!!
Q. A few months ago my boyfriend was sent love letters by a mutual friend of ours, she was his friend to start with but as we got together she became one of mine too, I was quite open with her, and told her a lot and treat her as a good friend. When I ...
A. 27 January 2010: Nothing is wrong with you at all. If I found out one of my friends was sending my boyfriend love letters I'd be beyond angry and can assure you that we would stop being friends. In fact I think you might be treating this too lightly. Why are you ... (read in full...)
This girl is driving me crazy!
Q. She teases me (makes fun of me). Whenever I talk to her she gets really loud like if I make fun of her she pretends to get mad (she almost hit me!). She's not a loud/flirty person at all and kinda shy. We usually don't talk (usually shes th...
A. 26 January 2010: So she likes you, you like her, ask her out!... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but I don't know if its my b/f's baby or my ex's baby
Q. OKay i had unprotected sex with my ex boyfriend dec24 and a couple days before that too.. then i had sex with him again on Jan 1st (unprotected) he ejaculates in me all the time.. then i was with this one boy on jan 5 i let him put his tip almost in ...
A. 26 January 2010: I'm almost 100% sure it's the guy who "ejaculates in you all the time" because that's really the only way you can get pregnant. You can't get pregnant just by touching genitals. You should never have unprotected sex without birth control. That's how ... (read in full...)
Do I worry too much about breast size?
Q. Moderator's Note: link to website removed. I recent found a site where some douche tries selling a PDF manual to convince a wife or girlfriend to get implants. I mean, not all guys are like that obviously, but do really most of them wish their pa...
A. 26 January 2010: I know more guys who think huge breasts are more of a turn-off than small breasts. I also know guys who don't like small breasts much, but they're in the minority and don't dislike them as much as the guys who dislike large breasts (in my ... (read in full...)
I want my girlfriend to be more ladylike and not behave this way!
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship and having a few issues with my current girlfriend. I wasn't that keen on her to start with but I seem to have really fallen for her. We get on well as friends, spend nearly all of our time together, she's rea...
A. 26 January 2010: Well if you absolutely can't live with this then by all means find a different girl. But you're going to have to look pretty hard to find a girl who's not religious who's never had a one night stand. It doesn't make her a whore that she's slept with ... (read in full...)
I can't buy anything. What can I use to masturbate?
Q. I cant buy anything so what can I use to masterbate. I dont want a dildo or vibrator. Also dont tell me anything that can hurt me in some way. Thanks!...
A. 26 January 2010: I don't think anyone on here would tell you to use something that would hurt you in any way! At least I hope not. I know of quite a few people who use the backs of electric toothbrushes as vibrators and many have had a lot of success with removable ... (read in full...)
Until what age can a woman elarge her breasts?
Q. Hi friends of Forum, My interest lies on finding out until when (age) can a woman enlarge her breast with hormonal treatments ? A joyous reply is forehanded for the best and truthful answer !...
A. 26 January 2010: I'm going to go ahead and say you can until you finish puberty, and by treatments I mean the natural hormones your body releases. Hormonal treatments are VERY dangerous! They are not monitored or regulated. Companies just go ahead and throw in as ... (read in full...)
Scared to get an HIV test because if I test positive, my new guy will dump me!
Q. I am scared of getting an hiv test. Me and my boyfriend broke up for eight months and then I got a new boyfriend and slept with with out protection. I broke up with him because he was annoying. We only dated for two months. He has never been checked ...
A. 24 January 2010: I don't know why you jumped immediately to HIV! I encourage you to get the regular pap tests and to get an HIV test if you want, but HIV doesn't present with those symptoms. HIV symptoms are near impossible to feel. I REALLY doubt you have it. Plus ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my best friend?
Q. i have this huge crush on my best friend and i really want to ask her out, the only problem is she knows i fancy her, what should i do?...
A. 23 January 2010: Well if she already knows you fancy her, then there's really nothing to lose anymore. Nothing would change except you'd know how SHE feels. Go for it!... (read in full...)
Where can I get free, confidential treatment for an STD?
Q. I think I might have an STD where can I get tested? is there anywhere to do it for free or cheap and with privacy? like not notifying my parents. I'm 17....
A. 23 January 2010: Planned parenthood for sure. With normal doctors confidentiality from your parents can be a little iffy, but at Planned Parenthood they take confidentiality VERY seriously.... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is my teacher interested in me?
Q. What does it mean when a former teacher asks you if you're a senior yet? My 9th grade art teacher saw me for the first time since he left the school for another teaching job. He recently came back and When he saw me he seemed happy to see me. anyw...
A. 19 January 2010: I know this is hard for you, I didn't mean to sound callous about it. It's true that teachers can feel attracted to their students. Probably pretty frequently. Some teachers also like to abuse their power by flirting with girls and savoring the ... (read in full...)
Which one do you think could be the father? I'm two weeks late.
Q. Ok ive been so naughty and feel so bad but ive slept with 2 different guys this month... The 1st one my ex boyfriend we had unprotected sex but it was only anal sex and he came there.. the 2nd guy i met on new years eve i have slept with twice we...
A. 18 January 2010: It's pretty unlikely that you're pregnant. Find out for sure before you start panicking. Periods can be late for a lot of reasons. Doesn't always mean you're pregnant! If it turns out you are pregnant, you'll need a DNA test if you really want to ... (read in full...)
Does she have a "different" kind of orgasm than other women?
Q. I have just started having sex with a new woman I'm seeing - everything was great, and she seemed to be enjoying it, but she didn't seem to have an actual orgasm. I asked her about it later and she said that she doesn't really have one big orgasm, ...
A. 18 January 2010: Yes people do orgasm differently, but no matter what it should feel like a "release" of tension or something. It sounds to me like she's saying in a nice way, no I didn't have an orgasm. Many women have trouble orgasming and sex can feel great ... (read in full...)
Is there any urine when I squirt?
Q. My husband loves to give me oral,almost as much as I love receiving. I am one of those who squirts[female ejaculation]. He swallows as much as he can,drenching his face. I was wondering if there is any urine in it. He says it has no taste,espically ...
A. 18 January 2010: Yeah there's usually a tiny bit, but it's barely anything. If you're worried about it, use the bathroom before engaging in any activities. He probably finds it totally hot, you ejaculating on his face and all, so I don't think you need to worry too ... (read in full...)
I offered to be a FWB, he agreed but now he isnt talking to me
Q. Last week, my boyfriend broke up with me (for the third time but this time I don't want to get back together)because he had enough with all the stress from me, school, and family (his parents are breaking up and he would had to get a part-time job ...
A. 18 January 2010: The fact that this is the third time you've broken up tells me this isn't just because of the stress. The stress sounds like it's just an excuse. He's just unsure of how to break up with someone because it's scary. Because he was scared and in order ... (read in full...)
Christmas day shuffle, he wanted to be with his family, I wanted to be with mine
Q. I and my husband been having alot of problems because I and his mom do not get along. For xmas Ihad a big fight with his parents and sister because I wanted to leave early to my family and they were in the middle of opening the gifts. he deffend his ...
A. 18 January 2010: I agree with caring guy, you should never try to see them both on the same day. Yes it was bad of him to only defend his family, but it was also very rude of you to try and leave in the middle of present opening. Instead of trying to see them all in ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy Smyptons
Q. I need some advice. I read many posts on this site and I value the advice u give people. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex just after my last months period but not durin my ovulation period. I was just wonderin how soon can u experience ...
A. 18 January 2010: Those sound like they could just be symptoms of an oncoming period, but it is possible to get pregnant anytime of the month. Take a pregnancy test to find out for sure, and always use protection in the future!... (read in full...)
Best friends only... or is that impossible?
Q. Can an attractive man and an attractive woman ever really be best friends without one of them falling for the other at some point?...
A. 18 January 2010: Yes and no. I don't think it's possible for the curiosity of what could be to never go through their minds. But often times once that curiosity is satisfied or they become close, the attraction goes away. ... (read in full...)
What should you do if you have a selfish boyfriend?
Q. What should you do if you have a selfish boyfriend?...
A. 18 January 2010: Break up with him and find a man who isn't so selfish. Selfish people don't change because generally it doesn't suit their best interest, which is themselves.... (read in full...)
Should I assume she wants to equalize the treats?
Q. I just got rejected because the girl happened to have a boyfriend and all... We decided to meet up for coffee but then she asked me if I want to do dinner instead. The last dinner we had, it was on me so I am assuming she wants to equalize the ...
A. 17 January 2010: She might feel bad for you paying for a meal and her not paying for anything, or she might be toying with you because she enjoys the attention. Either way, I wouldn't go with her anywhere. It can't go anywhere. I'd just leave it and move on.... (read in full...)
Would telling him I love him change our friendship?
Q. Would telling my best friend that I'm in love with him change our friendship? If it might, how would I ever be able to tell him that I really like him? How exactly should I tell someone that I like him a lot and that I would like to go out with him ...
A. 17 January 2010: Yes, if he knew you loved him, your friendship would change. If you really, really like him and think he reciprocates, just tell him you like him. I wouldn't go right out and say love, that might scare him off and it's very hard to know if you ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy or is my teacher interested in me?
Q. What does it mean when a former teacher asks you if you're a senior yet? My 9th grade art teacher saw me for the first time since he left the school for another teaching job. He recently came back and When he saw me he seemed happy to see me. anyw...
A. 17 January 2010: I think you're reading too much into it. He probably was just wondering if you were a junior or senior and lost track. I think the fact that you say you're in love with him is making you overanalyze everything into thinking it means he likes you. ... (read in full...)
My bf has anger issues, he has cheated and he's hit me 3 times! Stay or go?
Q. hey guys. well i will start with the basics. i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been ...
A. 14 January 2010: He seems pretty bad to me. He's hit you, which right there is enough to break it off. Even though he's gotten it sorted, he's cheated on you three times! Most people wouldn't stick with it even with one time, let alone two. Three times really REALLY ... (read in full...)
Is there a side to my wife that I don't know?
Q. I am happily married. We had a situation like two months ago that didn't seem like a big deal, but now for some reason I grew a conscience. I completely trust my wife, she can flirt, but NEVER has given me reason to not trust her. Most of ti...
A. 14 January 2010: It sounds to me more like they just had a little too much to drink and were being rowdy. That said, it sounds pretty disrespectful to get on her knees and mime a blowjob with someone else. I don't think it means she's going to cheat or do something ... (read in full...)
Is he braggin? Or is it true what he says?
Q. Dear cupid; i am soo sooo confused i have been with this guy for almost a year and a half...but i dont really feel so sure about our relationship. i have his email password and once i checked his email. i know it is wrong. but when i did it i found ...
A. 14 January 2010: Him bragging about getting other girls, whether or not it's true shows that he doesn't value your relationship at all. If he did he'd feel the need to brag about his amazing and hot girlfriend rather than feeling the need to fabricate stories about ... (read in full...)
How can we improve our sexual situation?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now. we are engaged to get married. i am for the most part content in our relationship. we have over come some obstacles. the only big issue that we are having still is our sex life. he has ...
A. 14 January 2010: I think you need to get this resolved before you agree to marry him. Sex is a big deal and a big part of a marriage. Until he agrees to fix this/work it out I think you should consider postponing the marriage. You need to figure out why he has E.D. ... (read in full...)
Is my present really that insulting?
Q. So my friend is getting married soon and I decided to make her a couple of soft toys as part of her wedding present (I've become quite good at soft toy making). I had a look through my pattern books and saw this really cute elephant pattern I just ...
A. 13 January 2010: If your friend or her fiancee are truly "elephants" or self-conscious about their size I'd steer away from it. Otherwise it sounds very cute!... (read in full...)
Is your first time really special?
Q. When people say your first time is special is that..really..true or are they saying its fun have fun..is it bad to think that i want to get my first time through so i can get the pain over with..idk i KNOW im 15 but it seems like its time to be ...
A. 13 January 2010: Well you should definitely do it with someone you really trust and who turns you on (if you're not turned on it's gonna hurt a LOT). But no, in reality it's not always that special. I did what you want to, I slept with a close friend just to get it ... (read in full...)
Will using a condom keep me a virgin?
Q. Ok here's another question for all of you wouldn't having sex for the first time with a condom on keep me a virgin? lol and plz read the question before answearing it ...
A. 13 January 2010: No, wearing a condom does not keep you a virgin. It's always a good idea to wear one though.... (read in full...)
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