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writes:well without a doubt im pregnat. 15 years of age thats the bad thing about it. with me being sexually active i had only one partner wich is my boyfriend. we have been together for two years now, and we always used a condom. i just dont know what to do. i refuse to tell my parents. and i dont want to have wat shall i ever do
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reader, daletom +, writes (2 January 2010):
Speaking as a parent myself - with 3 adult children - I think you're selling your parents short. I suggest you watch the movie "Juno". The pregnant teenager in that film discovers her parents actually become quite supportive of her situation as she faces her problems and acts quite admirably. Juno's dad was disrespectful and condemning at first but he became very supportive and cooperative. I suspect your parents are also willing to work with you more than you imagine. Please give them the chance to do so.
(Yes, that film is a fictional story. It accurately reflects real situations that I have seen play out in families I'm familiar with.)
At the very least, you need SOME responsible adult to help and guide you. A school counselor or special teacher, clergyman, athletic coach, Scout leader, family doctor, even an older brother/sister or aunt/uncle may be good choices. If you make a good choice of somebody to help you break the news to your parents, they will even go with you, speak for you, and support you in those difficult moments.
Please make sure your baby has all the care and opportunity he or she will need to grow up.
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reader, NordicWife +, writes (1 January 2010):
Your parents should be able to help you,I hope they will. If they are not willing, find someone who you can trust, find a grown up. If you walk up to a clinic, there will be someone to direct you to a planned parenthood and you will be just fine. If you decide to raise your child that is great, if not your child will bring SO MUCH joy in some family¨s life! Think positive!! This happends to young girls like you everyday. Much luck to you and your baby!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (1 January 2010):
 I would advise you call the planned parenthood in your area for advice before doing anything. They can tell you what your options are. In some states at your age you need parental consent to get an abortion. In others, you don't. Though with your age, I think you may in any state. Either way, they deal with this a lot and can give you some really good advice and either terminate the fetus with a pill (since I assume it's early) or assist you in finding adoptive parents. They can also help you plan the talk you may need to have with your parents. If you feel an abortion is right for you don't let anyone try to pressure you into having the baby. It's a personal decision and no one else's religious beliefs should force you to change your entire life.
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reader, Lulu_vampire +, writes (1 January 2010):
You really need to tell your parents, and I know this might be mean to say, and I am really sorry for saying it, but don't have the baby killed. It was your fault for it, and the baby doesn't even know what it did wrong for it to be killed. I wish you the best of luck and if you know you wouldn't be able to keep it, but it up for adoption. Best of luck to ya.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 December 2009):
You have no choice but to tell your parents, because they're going to notice that you're pregnant at some point. The worst thing to do is to keep this to yourself. Either that, or go straight to the doctor and speak with them.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Your parents will have to find out one way or another.
If you plan to keep it then you are going to eventually have a baby bump and later a child that you can't hide.
If you plan to terminate, then at your age you are probably going to need parental consent for a medical procedure, and/or their financial support to pay for it.
I know it may be hard to drop this on them, and I am sure you fear their disapproval, so try practising what you can say to them, consider how to handle their possible responses, ... and if it is still too much to face, then try putting it in writing and clear off for a bit when you give it to them so they have time to digest it rather than react impulsively.
Best Wishes
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Without a question you need to talk to your parents RIGHT NOW! They are the only people who can help you and advice you. They are gonna find out anyway. At the age of 15 you don't even have your own money to visit a doctor. Please ask your parents' support NOW. May God be with you.
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