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writes:hello all! i was just in a curious mood about anal sex. i have not tried it , but i want to. any tips? how much will it hurt?? (i can handle pain in general) will i need a lube? what does the guy feel during anal? is it like a vagina wet and satin-ie?? help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Grease it well, but even then it's not worth it unless you want to poop when you fart in a few years. It depends how large the penis dildo or fist going in and out. Do you want to be a walk-in closet by the time you get to the nursing home? Do you want to wear depends when your 30? So the better question is "is it worth it?" Easy answer there ,I think. Don't start, because you'll get all excited and let things in there everyday after that. You don't want to end up being an upside down wine bottle with a cork up your ass to keep from disrupting the normal aging of your asshole. Hope this helps, baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): YES-you need LUBE-KY is still the best.also,you need to do colonics [enema]first.half the pain comes from having a full tank [colon lower tank].if its already full,you cant put more in it from the outside in with out it hurting.Second:use plenty of lube and a slim smooth toy to gently push all the way in [7inches long]-then use a thicker smooth toy with plenty of lube and gently push it all the way in and leave it for a couple minutes.you can do this in the doggy position.both your inner muscles will be gently opened up.he lubes up his real toy and snugs it up under the toy inside you.pull out toy and he can gently insert his real toy all the way with no pain.do only half strokes til you are relaxed with it.
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 The first time I done it, it didn't really hurt, it was just uncomfortable.. Now me and my fiance do it quite regularly, sometimes I still get the uncomfortable feeling but I think really, it depends on the position, I find laying on my side in a 'spooning' position is the one where I don't feel any uncomfortableness at all.. But I guess each to their own, give it a go and experiment with different positions to find the one that works best for you :)
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (14 January 2010):
 'married lady ' has rightly judge the thing. It is only pornography that has influenced such choice, other wise really there is no logic for this thing. It is not naturally self-lubricated. It is not sex organ. And, after all, why we do sex? Certainly not even to have baby, but for pleasure, where as pain, and without lubricant horrible pain indicate that there is basically wrong with body.
But let me put right word for, why we need sex? yes, it is for 'energy'. Sexual activity is for bringing us 'energy' required to lead our intellectual creative urges.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): How much will it hurt?
Done right it should not hurt, it may be uncomfortable at first, but not painful. There are many web sites that offer detailed and factual information on how to prepare your butt to accept a penis. Start small, build up and take your time. It may take weeks of finger and toy play before you can take his cock.
Will i need a lube?
HELL YES! A good lube, very slippery and long lasting. youe twice as much as you think you need.
What does the guy feel during anal?
He'll feel a tight little hole, and at first may not accept his penis. Lots of slippery pressure, and then he'll feel a tight ring surrounding the head of his cock as he slides in. Once he's in, it's tight and hot and slick... you'll need to do more work, you move, he stays still (he doesn't pump you)- after a while the friction will cause him to cum, and with any luck his cock will be hitting your g-spot and so will you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): I recently started having anal sex and I can tell you, the first time it was VERY painful. We used lots of lube and took it slow, but it hurt a lot. After the first time, I was reluctant to try it again, but after asking around, I heard that it gets less painful. We have continued to have it...and I have to admit that I enjoy it a great deal. I would say the same as many others have posted....lots and lots of lube, relax, take it slow and make sure he wears a condom.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (13 January 2010):
 Ive done it a few times to some of my girlfriends, and I never found it painful at all! just make sure she's relaxed, and wants to do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): pain is an understatement...i have had 4 childrn naturally and it is every bit as painful. Not as long enduring pain but initially yes. The guy feels a tight place. not like a vagina. and no it is not wet or satiny. the key is lube lube lube and more lube. and then lube. slow and easy is a must. there is something slightly erotic about it. i dont recommend it. there are too many other things to do that are far more enjoyable. mal
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reader, ScarletLedbetter +, writes (13 January 2010):
 It hurts but is worth trying. I personally do not find it enjoyable, and believe most females share this sentiment, as we do not benefit the way a man does thanks to his prostate. Anyway, lube (Astroglide is a personal fave for this particular activity), is highly recommended, actually more of a must! In addition, to ease any pain, make sure you are completely relaxed, or as relaxed as you can possibly get yourself. Tensing up only makes the situation, as it does all others, more painful, less pleasurable. Once you've gotten through a few seconds, it's not all that terrible...just never great. Lots of luck!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 January 2010):
 Even if you aren't using a condom during regular intercourse, you should definitely use one for anal. It's a LOT messier, I don't think I need to say why. A condom makes "clean up" easier. Also, yes to the lube. The vagina is self-lubricating, while your anus is not at all. It also doesn't expand when aroused. So slather on the lube. Then when you're so lubed you can't get any more on, give it another squirt. This isn't just a grin and bear it thing, you can actually injure your rectum if it's too rough. You should definitely play around with fingers (with lots of lube) before trying anal sex. It is very painful for awhile from what I hear, and can have some embarrassing consequences (like smells and things "stuck" to other things). Some women love anal, and some hate it. Don't do it just to please your guy. If you're excited for it though, there's no harm in trying. Just remember. Lube, condom, and go SLOW and easy.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 January 2010):
Yes, anal is really painful. I don't find it enjoyable whatsoever, and I know a lot of women don't either; however, there are some that do like it. Use LOTS of lube and still use a condom because the chances of disease are even greater through anal.
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