| Latest articles: About Facebook and relationships
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
This question has 100 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
|
She wants to meet up with her ex, should I feel anything?
Q. I'm new to the site, I have a situation which is making me anxious. I met a girl in Feb of this year and we started dating. I was reluctant to at first as she was a lot younger than me, there's an age gap of 16 years, I'm 39. My friends convinced me ...
A. 9 January 2010: Congrats on finding someone new and more worthwhile. Your ex was being a jerk.... (read in full...)
My partner has problems keeping it up once as soon as he enters....
Q. my partner, gets a ecrection fine... its stays up fine.. but as soon as he places its in...it wont last even two mintues...he releases too quick. he has tried masturbating before make love.. till nothing seems to work. as soon as his inside me... he ...
A. 22 December 2009: Actually two minutes is the average time a man can last after penetration. Some things you can do: You be on top so he can't go jackrabbit fast and you go slow, do whatever to please yourself. Don't worry so much about him, he'll be fine with ... (read in full...)
He often jokes about me getting pregnant and I'm beginning to wonder...?
Q. About a year ago I met and got involved with a really great guy. He told me right away that he had a vasectomy, but seemd startled when I told him I couldn't get pregnant because I had an IUD. The IUD occasionally caused me some mild discomfort ...
A. 22 December 2009: I agree, many guys either get turned on by the idea of getting a woman pregnant (actually makes sense from an evolutionary point of view) or want control over the woman. Once she has his baby, he has a certain amount of control over her for the rest ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. i have never had sex with my boyfriend bu i let him finger me last week and ever since i have had a sore stomach i keep thinking he might have got me pregnant he said he was toucing himself to turn him on now i am worried bu it could just be because ...
A. 22 December 2009: If he came all over his hand and stuck it inside you, you might be. Just touching himself to turn himself on? Almost definitely not. Fingering doesn't get people pregnant.... (read in full...)
Why is my hair greasy at the moment?
Q. Hey all i have a wierd problem at the moment i have washed my hair three times in the past 2 days and i have a patch of really greasy hair :S i have used a new product (heat protector) and i think it may be that so i have stopped using it so ho...
A. 22 December 2009: If you try a clarifying shampoo and if that doesn't work, use a semi-permanent dye in your hair that matches your hair color (like Clairol Natural Instincts). The low level peroxide will strip all the grease out. As an added bonus it will ... (read in full...)
Yaz and full protection?
Q. Hello, I have been on the birth control Yaz since July of 2009. I was wondering how long it takes to have full protection, is it one month after you begin taking the pills. I had a little mishap on Saturday night and had unprotected sex, I ...
A. 22 December 2009: A month is when. Really only seven days, but most doctors recommend waiting a month before having unprotected sex. In fact supposedly if you take it the very first day of your period you're protected from day one. That's actually what I did and I ... (read in full...)
Fingering hurt really bad!
Q. Today I got fingered by a guy for the first time and it hurt realllllly bad. I was really wet and im comfortable with him but i kept stopping him because it hurt so bad. i want him to do it but its hurts too much. is this normal and what should i ...
A. 22 December 2009: No, it shouldn't hurt. Try starting slow, just inserting one finger. Have him use some lube and be super gentle and slow. If you're nervous you're not going to be wet. I didn't know that I was truly "wet" until I had quite a bit of experience. What ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 she is 14 we need some legal advise
Q. i am turning 18 soon. my girlfriend is 14. we live in pennsylvania. we have been dating for a month. i was told i can be arrested for sexual harassment and be a registered sex offender for dating a minor, even so much as kissing her. is there a way ...
A. 22 December 2009: No and I believe only sex is illegal, though I could be wrong. And no. No matter what the parents do it's illegal. There are no forms. And yes, you would be a registered sex offender if you got caught, which is an enormous deal. It could ruin your ... (read in full...)
Should I choose my potential husband or the name of a school?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for two years and we currently go to separate colleges, 6.5 hours away from each other. It's been a year since we broke up and I'm trying as it is to get out of this city. He's successfully done that because he ...
A. 21 December 2009: Won't it be showing him that in fact you haven't changed if you move? If you go to a school that's not as good as the one you want and things don't work out with this guy, then you might be ruining your future career! College seems like a REALLY ... (read in full...)
Paranoid about being pregnant? We didn't use a condom.
Q. hi, me and my man were having sex a few weeks ago and he came in me, i was due for my period on saturday, its now monday and still no period, im also stressing a lil bit, so that may be causing it, but i dont. i do feela lil bit tired, and i have ...
A. 21 December 2009: OK you say not to tell you that "coz" you're really careful, but I'm going to tell you anyways. And I know this may sound harsh, but it sounds like maybe you need harshness. It doesn't matter how hot it is, how much you REALLY REALLY want to, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has naked photos of girls he knows
Q. I didn't really know where else to turn, I feel that this isn't something I can talk about with friends, I'd be embarrassed. Basically, I've been with my boyfriend for around 18 months, it's not the best relationship, we seem to argue a lot, but...
A. 20 December 2009: I know I'm probably going to get totally beaten on by the guys on this website for this response, but to me who you masturbate to is a big deal. Fantasizing about a celeb or porn star or random girl on the street is one thing. But fantasizing about ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed so much in two weeks. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of over two years has changed so much in the past 2 weeks .. Hes become so distant that i never see him anymore .. We get in stupid little fights over nothing then he goes crazy calling me a slapper and a bitch .. I love him so much ...
A. 20 December 2009: Do you mean he's kind of hot and cold? That could mean he's unsure, or stressed, that would be a lot more ambiguous than simply going cold on you. I would talk to him about it and find out what's up.... (read in full...)
I took the second morning after pill late, am I at high risk of pregnancy?
Q. I took a morning after pill that has two tablets. I was supposed to take the second pill 12 hrs later but I lost track of time and took it 48 minutes late. Am I still okay? Can I take another morning after pill? ...
A. 18 December 2009: 48 minutes probably won't make a difference. It's a medical pill, it doesn't have a watch. It's not sitting in there staring at a clock, oops three minutes have gone by. I'm fairly sure as long as it's within about 3 hours of the 12 hours you'll be ... (read in full...)
What is the legal age to buy condoms?
Q. how old u have 2 be 2 buy condoms my friend said 16 i said any age whats right?...
A. 18 December 2009: You must be 16 to have sex legally. There is no age for condoms though.... (read in full...)
I'm only 17 and I don't think I'm ready for this!
Q. okay i am really freeking out i think i might be pregnant i last had sex 2 months ago and i havent had my period since my boobs are really sore i keep feeling sick in the morning i know it sounds like yeah i am but i am really scared to take a test ...
A. 18 December 2009: Take a test. The test won't change anything, either you're pregnant or not. Taking the test won't make you pregnant if you aren't. I know it's scary, but just get it over with. Next time whatever happened that scared you, take the Plan B emergency ... (read in full...)
Does my husband just want his cake and eat it too?
Q. my husband thinks its alright to keep in contact with his ex's. this has been an issue for me because i found messages from 1 of them telling him how much she loves him and misses him. so when i confront him he gets angry with me and says that "am ...
A. 18 December 2009: I agree he's being a jerk. Don't take this from him. Lay down the law. The next time he crosses it and then shouts at you for being insecure just leave him for awhile. See how he likes that!... (read in full...)
Advice on how to squirt?
Q. how do I squirt?...
A. 18 December 2009: Google has some wonderful advice. I advise you buy yourself a toy for G spot stimulation and play with it on your own. ... (read in full...)
Is my compulsion to make women orgasm an addiction?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man and I think I'm addicted to making women orgasm. When I'm with a woman I'm intimate with, I just crave making her cum. It really turns me on, but I actually feel almost compelled to do it. I love, LOVE going...
A. 18 December 2009: I think most women here are wondering if you're single right now... (just kidding) But seriously, we all have our turn-ons and favorite things in bed. When my boyfriend cums it honestly gets me so turned on I usually finish with him. So no, watching ... (read in full...)
B/f continues to text his ex!
Q. what should i do? my boyfriend continues to text his ex.. i have address this situations repeatly and he still continues to do it. he has changed her name to his sister's name in his cell phone to "throw" me off.. she asked in one of the text when ...
A. 17 December 2009: You need to ditch this guy. She asks when they'll hook up again, again??? That could mean the first time was when he was dating you! Also, what a despicable thing to do, change her name and lie to you. He's clearly cheating or planning to cheat. ... (read in full...)
Acne scars are so bad that they make my life a living hell!
Q. This is making my life a living hell, and I just can´t bear it anymore. My acne scars are so severe, that I look disfigured. I saw some photos today and the scars are so prominent that I look as if I´ve been attacked with a knife. I called...
A. 17 December 2009: Two things. One, we aren't doctors. Yes we can give you the basics, like rubbing vitamin E on can help, but you need to go to a dermatologist. This sounds like a big deal to you and you should go to the best to get it fixed. A derm really can help, ... (read in full...)
She wants to meet up with her ex, should I feel anything?
Q. I'm new to the site, I have a situation which is making me anxious. I met a girl in Feb of this year and we started dating. I was reluctant to at first as she was a lot younger than me, there's an age gap of 16 years, I'm 39. My friends convinced me ...
A. 17 December 2009: Yes, I would be concerned. I judge my current relationship by the current relationship, not past ones. There's nothing even cryptic there. I want to make sure nothing's there? The unsaid part of that sentence is and if there is something there I ... (read in full...)
I often dream of sex with siblings!
Q. Okay, so I in no way have any type of physical or sexual attraction to any of my siblings, but I have at some point in the last two years dreamed about having sex with almost every single one of my siblings. Why is this? ...
A. 17 December 2009: Though I doubt many will admit it, most people have probably had a sex dream about a relative or two. I had one once about a VERY close blood-relative, I couldn't look him in the eyes for weeks. Seriously, it's totally normal. Don't worry.... (read in full...)
What happens if you take the active birth control pills all month?
Q. Just wondering... if you took the pill every day all month (and didnt leave a gap for your period) what would happen? I'm assuming it cant be healthy or more people would do it... I just really dont want my period next week as i'm away... but i'd ...
A. 17 December 2009: People do that a LOT. There are pills marketed for that purpose, of only having 3 or 4 periods a year. I've done it plenty if I have an event or vacation that I don't want interrupted. Here's what happens:
Most often, nothing happens except no peri... (read in full...)
Losing erection during hand job
Q. So a few days ago my girlfriend gave me a hand-job. It was her first time, so she didnt really know how to, and i am in the process of teaching her. I really enjoyed it, but while she was doing it i noticed that after a whle my erection started to ...
A. 17 December 2009: Unless you're masturbating like mad, that probably wouldn't affect it. You said so yourself, she didn't know how to do it. If you're not getting turned on by it, of course you can't stay hard. The next time she does it, put your hand over hers and ... (read in full...)
Are these gifts a little strange?
Q. If I get turned on when my wife wears leggings, and I get her a couple pair of leggings from Victoria's Secret, along with a sleep shirt to wear with each, do you think she might find this kind of strange? Our sex life is not so great, needs ...
A. 17 December 2009: If she likes leggings I don't think she'd find it weird. I think she'd like them even better if you told her how hot you thought she looked in them! Nothing you can buy could spice up your marriage like a good compliment.... (read in full...)
I get an erection too easily!
Q. hi. um i want know how stop an erection when im with my gf? even putting my arm around her waist when we watch tv gives me a woody what do ido?...
A. 16 December 2009: You're still a teenager. It happens, especially around your age. Oh the stories my male friends told about that age and their unfortunate erections... It really does get better as you get older. For now, tuck it into the top of your pants and no one ... (read in full...)
What should I wear to get his attention?
Q. To all guys out there: What do you think is sexy? Like what do you like to see women wear? I am asking because I want my crush to notice me--scratch that--my body. I want his attention on my figure. What should I wear to catch his attention? I know ...
A. 16 December 2009: Lol you know what looks flattering on you. Generally guys seem to like things that make them think of you naked. I.e. showing lots of skin and a push up bra, but not all guys. It really depends on the person.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant if he hasn't penetrated me fully?
Q. Hi is it possible to get pregnant without properly having sex? Like can i get pregnant if he is just rubbin his penis up and down the inside of my vagina but not actually going right in? ...
A. 16 December 2009: If he ejaculated then yes. If not, no.... (read in full...)
I'm the cause of our relationship troubles, but I want to work it out
Q. im my name is alicia and i have relationship trouble with my boyfriend giving up on us. im to blame and play games and lie to him for no reson. at the same time i want to work it out. and l been dealing with this issue and i dont know what to do im ...
A. 16 December 2009: You should have thought about that before lying and playing games... Most people wouldn't stay with someone like this. This isn't him giving up, this is him having enough of a lying girlfriend. You can't be in a relationship with someone you can't ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed so much in two weeks. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of over two years has changed so much in the past 2 weeks .. Hes become so distant that i never see him anymore .. We get in stupid little fights over nothing then he goes crazy calling me a slapper and a bitch .. I love him so much ...
A. 16 December 2009: Sometimes people just change. I'm sorry, it really doesn't sound good. He probably needs some time apart and may or may not come back. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Who gets custody of our child before we go to court?
Q. me and my wife of 5 years are splitting up. we have a 1 year old child. who has rights of the childs custody till we go to custody court? I live in indiana ...
A. 16 December 2009: Well I think legally child support can take your kid until then. I'd advise splitting the time evenly and NOT involving the legal system yet. You guys should be able to be civil until court.... (read in full...)
Are all guys this selfish in bed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about eleven months now, and I really can't help but notice he can really be a selfish guy when he feels like it. Namely, I'm talking about our sex life. When we met I was a virgin. Before we started having ...
A. 16 December 2009: Wow that's totally unbelievable! What a selfish pig. If you've already talked this into the ground you may simply have to leave. Here's what you should do the next time he wants sex. Give him a little taste of the goods but before he finishes, just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't accept the truth that it's his!
Q. What should I do ?? Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6yrs off and on. im 19yrs old he is 29. I am 5mon pregnant. he is constantly dening that its his. About almost 2 months before I got pregnant I started seeing some one else due to ...
A. 16 December 2009: I agree with the previous poster, that is illegal on SO many levels. This guy clearly wanted you because you were a very young girl. You may even want to report him, because that's just totally perverted. This isn't about getting him to see ... (read in full...)
How do I find out if my girlfriend is cheating on me?
Q. hey im 16 and iv been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years nd 8 months i think shes cheating on me but i love her and dont want to split up with her i just want to no if shes cheating on me how can i find out if she is cheating on me?...
A. 16 December 2009: What makes you think she is? Whatever that is, pursue it secretly. If you look up "signs she's cheating" on the web it will be the same 10 or 15 over and over again. Paying more attention to appearance than normal, overly protective of phone and ... (read in full...)
Can diarrhea cancel out the pill?
Q. Can diarrhea (excessive bowl movement) canel out your pill. No I no the pill can b affected if you get sick and I was wondering does diarrhea affect it in the same way. My boyfriend and I have regular sex and i am on the pill but we never use ...
A. 16 December 2009: Yes, yes, YES. Having it continuously for that many days almost certainly affected the pill. Vomiting, diarrhea, and antibiotics are the three huge things that cause the "but I took the pill perfectly, how am I pregnant?" situations. Get yourself a ... (read in full...)
Why am I taking so much bad behavior from him?
Q. 1) Husband infertile, cannot have sex, and not bothered to fix it. 2) Listens only to his mother, father and sister. Completely controlled by them, and expects me to dragged along. They exploit him for money. 3) He was not there for me phy...
A. 16 December 2009: Only you can answer why you are taking such bad behavior from him. It sounds like a terrible situation and you have decided to leave before. Perhaps you should leave and not give him the option to cry to you. As women we are taught to be overly ... (read in full...)
Why do I smell 'down there'?
Q. Why do I smell weirdly down "there"? Is this normal for me (I'm a 13 yr old girl who has already got her period)? If it's not normal what should I do? Help?? ...
A. 16 December 2009: I agree, doesn't sound like anything. You'll notice if something is "off." The bottoms of my underwear is usually yellowish too... Your discharge changes a lot throughout your cycle. Unless you notice something totally out of the ordinary, like ... (read in full...)
Do teen guys like "it" shaved?
Q. So I'm a 14 year old girl and I want to know... do guys from 14 to 17 years old like "it" shaved? I am too young to go that far, but I'm really curious about it! And I want to be ready in case "something" happens! Thanks!...
A. 14 December 2009: Most of the time I keep mine trimmed and shave the bikini line, but leave a "landing strip" on the front and around the actual sensitive bits and I've never had any complaints.... (read in full...)
Why do I smell 'down there'?
Q. Why do I smell weirdly down "there"? Is this normal for me (I'm a 13 yr old girl who has already got her period)? If it's not normal what should I do? Help?? ...
A. 14 December 2009: Everyone has a smell down there, usually described as musky. It's pretty strong on me when it's normal, trust me. Especially if I don't shower all day, yuck. As for rubbing yourself with hydrogen peroxide? Do NOT do that! Ouch!!!! Also, never, ever ... (read in full...)
Does pre-cum contain sperm?
Q. Does Pre cum have sperm in it? I wiped it off myself still yet to cum and the decided to finger my girl friend there was time in between and i tried to wipe as much off onto another surface... i was just not thinking...
A. 14 December 2009: Pre-cum contains either very little or none. The name pre-cum makes it sound like semen leaking out or something, but it's not. As long as you've urinated since the last time you ejaculated (that will kill all sperm) the pre-cum should be sperm ... (read in full...)
Help...I'm pregnant...again
Q. Ok.... Well me and my Boyfriend have been dating alil longer then 4months... yesterday i found out i was pregnant... Scared shitless and verry unexpected... but we were taking the risk im not on birth control and he hated condoms... so we used the ...
A. 14 December 2009: Well first off, just because he doesn't like condoms doesn't mean you shouldn't use them. It's you who has to be pregnant isn't it? You who has to deal with the pain of an abortion or labor, not him. So tell him to stop being such a whiny baby and ... (read in full...)
What are the best and worst condoms?
Q. what is the best protection condom for not getting my girlfriend pregnant,and what is the worst protection condom?...
A. 14 December 2009: If you can find it in a drugstore, it's safe. All latex and latex substitutes are equally effective. I recommend Lifestyles ultra thins (and yes ultra-thins are just as effective as normal thickness) if you're not ordering online. To help prevent ... (read in full...)
| *erson12345's friends
These are mutual friends, so *erson12345 has
added them and they have added *erson12345!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
