A
female
age
41-50,
*inah
writes:My boyfriend (now fiancee) never buys me gifts, not even on my birthday. In truth i feel he never has the will to to do something special for me, even when occasion calls for it. What does this indicate? Don't such things come naturally when one loves their woman?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 He has taken you for granted.
He is a miser.
He is absent minded.
He does not know how to show love or love a woman.
Those could be the possible reasons why he is so obtuse.
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (19 May 2008):
Actually, sometimes a man loves a woman very much, yet has no clue that she wants or expects a gift. Men and women see the world very differently, and they enrich each other's lives by sharing their worldviews and experiences. Sometimes it is best to suggest, or even ask directly for him to buy you something - when he sees the delight in your eyes, and how much it means to you, he may keep doing things like this. I stopped buying flowers and other things for some women in my life because they either disparaged the gift or never really appreciated it. Remember that he loves YOU, and you love HIM, not the things he might buy. I realize that a gift is a token of love, but it took me far too many years to get even a hint of how to make a woman happy, though I tried very hard. Men don't read social cues nearly as well as women, and we often appreciate their help in doing the "right" thing. Talk about these things - not by innuendo or hinting, but by a clear, direct, kind and compassionate conversation. Good luck.
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