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writes:hii started college this year and met some great people however some of these people turned out to be not so great. they started treating me like dirt to be honest, a group of girls i made friends with from the begininning gradually started leaving me and eventually i started hanging with some others. however these girls started ignoring me turning their backs when i was around being extra sweet to my other friends expecially when i was around. its now got to the point where they have become so petty that they have deleted me of their friends list on a well known site.i know i shouldnt let it bother me as i dont need people like that in my life but i just feel as thought im being treated like dirt for nothing there is no reason for them to treat me this way.also, to everyone else they are making me out to be some sort of 'horrible' person i dont know what to do as i have got to spend 4 years with these girls and we have many mutual friends. i dont know what to do they obviously hate me for some reason???any suggestions?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): hmm i don't know
makes me question my colleagues. after knowing me for two months they could start a rumour.
i'll just ignore and get on with it!
thank you guys for all your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Sounds like what happened is someone started a rumor, of course untrue. That is what it seems like, as to what happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): thankyou everyone for your answers.
in reply to "LonelyTwo"
as far as i can remember i have done nothing.they were a bunch of girls i became friends with all i know is that they one day overnight started to distance themselves and excluded me from activites they did and eventually stopped talking to me! it seems to me that one girl does something and the others follow.
i had no argument with them no disagreement etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): You express the retaliation but you don't give any indiation that your doing something to cause this.
Have you said or done things that turn them off?
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reader, les  +, writes (19 May 2008):
At my last job, I became really good friends with a coworker, lets call her Z. She had a thing on and off with another coworker, who wasnt that into her and thought that I was cute, even though I was not into him in any way at all. When she realized this she turned into a completely bitch, just leaving me stunned at how overnight she went from being almost a best friend to someone who said things to me that I wouldnt say to another person no matter how much I hated them.
Slowly, all the girls just stopped talking to me and ignoring me, and I knew it was all her doing. The only thing I could do was ignore it and focus on making friends outside of work (since our office was very small so that wanst a possibility anymore). Eventually, I just quit.
Point is, sometimes it takes one nasty girl to ruin your life. Just ignore them. Focus on making new friends, try to move out of the dorm or off campus if you can, take on another major so you'll have something else to concentrate on. The best revenge is a life lived well.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 If it is something which you cannot change,
there is nothing you can do about it.
What I Have Learned (sometimes the hard way)
I’ve learned- that you cannot make someone love
you.
All you can do is be someone who can be
loved.
The rest is up to them.
By Unknown.
Pick your right friends,for friends should be supportive and
constructive and not destructive.
Be good, be genuine , be more interested in them and walk that extra mile .
For further readings;-
http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/1996/novdec/6w6066.html
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/07/26/20-unwritten-rules-on-friendship/
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/07/26/friends-and-friendship-three-kinds/
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): i think that for you to get the better of these girls you have to become really confident and that starts with emphasizing your individualty, fun lol!! take time to recognise everything you love about yourself that's personal to you and maybe traits about yourself you believe are exclusive to you. everone is unique and once you find yourself individually, you feel more motivated, confident and you will be able to LOOK THESE GIRLS IN THE EYE and have the confidence that they are nothing on you because you have developed as a person and become wiser and stronger- what you go through in life becomes your psychology life is psychology and psychology is life. don't retalliate by personal insults, that is just stooping to their petty level, listen to music that makes you feel happy that makes you feel supercharged spend time with people you love and trust, if theres a television program you like but others dont stick to your beliefs put your own spin on it it's just so much fun being unconventional and having your own beliefs that are different to othe rpeople. if you read some of my other answers you'll notice i ofen advise people on developing as individuals and that's because i just believe being an individual is key to getting the most out of life. rememeber who you are and that you're worthy and special and you will come out of these years a better person :) xxx
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