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writes:I am pregnant with my first child. However my grandmother who is the most important person to me in my life is dying. There is nothing more in this world that I want than for my gran to see my child when it is born....but the way things are looking she may not make it till the end of my pregnancy. But to me it is very very important for her to see my child. Does anyone know if there is anything I can do to help the child be born earlier...like to go into labour early or something? I know nowadays many babies are born at 7 and 8 mths etc and make it just fine...but my grandmother is so important to me and it means everything to me (and I know her also) if she can see her first great grandchild. Is there anything anyone can suggest...? This is so important to me you can not imagine....I dont think doctors would induce me at my requeset btu only in cases of emergency so any tips, advice, even old wives tales that could work.....thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 The earliest baby born and survived was 24 weeks or 6 months . Thanks to the modern medical science .
You will need to see your doctor about bringing forward your baby.
Your doctor will give you his professional opinions to this feasibility.
Please ignore those posts as it is only their personal opinions.
You can read more here;-
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miscarriage
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reader, lexilou +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Youre probably not even going to see this if your reply post is anything to go by but I can actually sympathise with you as my nan died 6 weeks before my daughter was born and my grandad died 10 weeks before my first son was born. (I only ever knew this one set as my dads parents died before i was born) and it still hurts now and my daughter was 16 yesterday so its always a hard time for me from nanna's anniversary to daughters birthday.
Im sorry if you found peoples comments hurtful but they are only thinking of your unborn child and even you. Yes babies are born premature all the time but it is not an easy experience for mother or child and could lead to long term problems and Im sure that it is not what your grandmother would wish. How about having a 4d scan instead as this gives a fantastic pic of what your baby really looks like, expensive but worth every penny to see your grans delight. My heart goes out to you x
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 One thing I forgot to add, my father's dad died before he was born. Now that is a loss that can never be forgotten, and I'm sure my dad would have loved to have known his own dad. But it was not meant to be.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (20 May 2008):
 You seriously cant be wanting to put yourself and more importantly the rest of your child's life, even if he survives this early just so your gran can see him. Sorry your nan is dying but that is no excuse for this wild and irresponsible response
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 May 2008):
Hi, sorry to hear that you didn't like the answers given. But you have to realize that trying to give birth prematurely might not be in the best interests of your baby.
The awful fact of life is that people leave this earth, they die, and they leave behind people who love them dearly. This is unfortunately one of the things that we cannot change.
I never knew any of my great grandparents, in fact I only knew two of my grandparents. It doesn't mean that I wasn't loved or cherished by my parents. It just is what it is.
The thing is that now we have this great technology that can record people beyond some faded crinkled photograph. I'd suggest that you get your grandmother to talk about her life and her hopes and dreams and her stories onto digital media. How great would that be for your child to have when s/he grows up?
I'm very sorry about your grandmother's illness and that she might not be there for the birth of your child. I don't know anyway to change the cold brutality of life's finiteness nor can I offer a tip to bring about the birth of your baby sooner.
I'd suggest that it might be a bad idea for your child to come into the world earlier than necessary; and I'm very sorry to tell you that having your grandmother seeing the child is not a good reason to try to induce labor.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and bring back all of the people who I never got to meet, my grandparents and all my great grandparents, but alas, that is my reality. At least you can do something to save moving, talking pictures of your grandmother for your baby.
All the best, and I'm sorry for your impending loss, and I wish you all the best with your new baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I am the original poster of this and I can not believe how downright RUDE and HURTFUL people have been here with their comments to me! I will never ever use this site EVER again as it is clearly only full of obnoxious, arrogant, judgemental snubs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (20 May 2008):
 What the bloody hell is going through that mind of yours? I am very sorry that your grandmother is dying, but wanting to induce your birth so that she can meet her first grandchild is absolute madness. This is dangerous and downright stupid, I hope you don't do anything to follow this awful practise through.
Enjoy your pregnancy and put this ridiculous thought out of your tiny mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Honey this isn't safe, if it's meant for your grandmother to be around for the birth of your child, then it will be. Have faith and trust.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Holy cow, you would do that to your child? I'm sure granny wouldn't appreciate hearing you say this. Your pregnancy has affected your brain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I've heard that taking a shot of caster oil works good but I'm not sure if that only works until you're about due in labour anyway.
I understand what you're saying but by trying to make your baby come before it's ready might end up putting your baby in danger. Also, I'm guessing that for your grandmother to be dying she probably isn't allowed or even make it out of the place that she's at now? If you were to have your baby now, they probably wouldn't even be allowed out of the hospital.
Good luck x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Are you fucking kidding me? What is it today, another post by a woman who wants to keep her baby small for fear of its size... there REALLY should be a mental exam before people are allowed to reproduce.
Induce childbirth SEVERAL months early on purpose?
Do me a favor and report yourself to the police and lets hope that it is actually possible to have custody removed from an unborn baby.
Do you have ANY idea what pre-mature babies go through, how many die, the after-effects on those that life?
What next, inducing coma as a means to diet?
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