I need help healing and getting through this breakup
Q. Need help healing - my question is mainly - how can I get through this "breakup"? Background follows: I just ended a casual relationship with a guy that I have had a friendship/flirtship with for over a year. We work at the same company. For th...
A. 26 January 2008: Glad to hear it. I guess its like giving up smoking. After a while, the craving goes away and someone can put one in front of you and you dont get that urge anymore! Blimey that was ages ago you posted that question. I hadnt long split from someone ... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 30 August 2007: Cant he get a guy friend to go with him? because it sounds like she means she doesnt want you there? Shes being unreasonable expecting him to carry heavy things on his own and im sure in the eyes of the law they would see it like that too.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Curious about periods.
Q. I have a question just out of curiosity. Why are some womens' periods so much heavier than others? For example, mine is really heavy for six days, and then light for two more, when my friend says she has just four days of light bleeding. I'm not ...
A. 25 August 2007: Hi
Just that, that we are all built different. As you get older they can lighten up a bit.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I work with my ex and she is being nasty and abusive towards me; all I wish is to get on with my life.
Q. Hi, a bit of a problem, Ex wont leave me alone...?!?! Im single for about 2 months now and I work with my ex for another month or so, but she is being nasty and abusive towards me. I'm trying to lose contact with her but no matter what I do sh...
A. 25 August 2007: Hi
The getting a new phone is a good idea. She sounds like shes very angry!
You say you have another month of this? All you can do is try & stay away from her as much as you can if you have to work there for another month.
Try & explain to h... (read in full...)
He wants to cheat on his girlfriend with me
Q. basically, ive know this guy for as long as i can remember, and he is 4 years older. he has a g.f but he always says how she moans n stuff. recently he has been textin me askin me to meet him, and i have fallen for him. i am meant to be meeting him ...
A. 25 August 2007: Hi
You can do so much better than this, especially for your first time! I fear you will do it anyway, but spare a thought for his girlfriend that you say you know?
Your entering into choppy waters & i expect you know deep down its a non starter,... (read in full...)
I need help healing and getting through this breakup
Q. Need help healing - my question is mainly - how can I get through this "breakup"? Background follows: I just ended a casual relationship with a guy that I have had a friendship/flirtship with for over a year. We work at the same company. For th...
A. 25 August 2007: Hi
He probably is a bit broken because of his forced marriage all those years ago & no matter who he is with, he wont commit to them.
By the sounds of it in my opinion you have done the right thing but that doesnt mean you just dust yourself... (read in full...)
Is she trying to make me jealous?
Q. Alright so I recently started dating a girl and I like her alot, but apparently I'm not the only one. She has a whole group of guys who seem to be obsessive over her, all of them are ex-bf's. This week alone she's been asked out by these guys 4 t...
A. 25 August 2007: Well to be honest that would drive me insane! Doesnt it you? I think the odds of her cheating are high, but obviously no one can tell you for sure if she would. She just definately doesnt sound ready for anything serious yet. C xxxx... (read in full...)
If I double up with 2 methods of protection is it safe to stop worrying about pregnancy?
Q. I am almost 16 and have been with my boyfriend for 10 months, not to mention 2 years when we were younger. I love him and am ready to have sex with him however the only thing holding me back is the possibility of pregnancy even using contraception. ...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi
As you're in the States i dont know if contraception is free? It is here in the Uk, but i would go to your doctor or family planning clinic. Talk about the different options because there are many! And i think there is only one i haven't trie... (read in full...)
How do you know when you might have an STD?
Q. Urgent help needed, How do you know when you might have an STD? What are the tell tale signs, and symptoms of HIV herpes etc, what does it look like? Can you go to the doctor and have a regular check up for blood sugar, or HIV...etc etc, a...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi
There are not always outwardly obvious signs you have an std. Especially guys. Herpies will show with blisters on the genitals. Other more common ones unfortunately are only diagnosed with tests.
HIV & the Aids virus wont have obvious symptoms... (read in full...)
Is she just being cautious? Is our relationship doomed? What do you think is going on?
Q. Dear people, I met a girl in a chat room on New Year's Eve this year. Since that day we have spoken on the telephone without fail every day, morning and night when we are in bed till we fall asleep. After approximately a month both of us...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi
I wouldnt give anyone on the internet my address. Sorry. Its a bad idea. And she knows it. Dont forget shes been in a volitile relationship before so violence is no stranger to her. Shes being causious & rightly so.
Its harder for you 2 because ... (read in full...)
Is she trying to make me jealous?
Q. Alright so I recently started dating a girl and I like her alot, but apparently I'm not the only one. She has a whole group of guys who seem to be obsessive over her, all of them are ex-bf's. This week alone she's been asked out by these guys 4 t...
A. 24 August 2007: hehe you are heading towards a slippery slope, but hey what do i know, im 36. not a teen. I guess its all different when you're young. If i was in your position i would ask her out. She sounds like she wants as many exes as poss, that will make her ... (read in full...)
Is he just confused with seeing us again or does he still love me?
Q. My ex fiance is now back in touch with me and our two daughters after years of abscence. He started off with good intentions, but now only seems to call me. (not the girls). He always promises the girls things, and time to spend with them, but ...
A. 24 August 2007: Hi
Sounds like hes doing the classic, move into something else before finishing the previous. People do it because they cant face being on their own & its easier to go from one to another straight away.
I would be very careful. You could have a y... (read in full...)
I accidentally had sex with a 14 year old girl
Q. ok I have a (hypothetical) question. I am a male in my mid 30's. My wife my 2 daughters (3 and 7) and my niece (15) and her friend (14) went on a road trip to Florida. We stopped halfway there and got a hotel room, my wife and I in one room the...
A. 24 August 2007: Im not buying this didnt know malarky, sorry. But then im in my 30's too & us 30 yr olds know deep down people arent that silly dont we.
You will just have to keep your fingers crossed she doesnt blab, but i think thats unlikely. shes 14. at best... (read in full...)
He said he prefers porn to me sometimes.
Q. Alright, I need some advice on what I should do or say in this situation. Last night my boyfriend and I were talking about us getting married, Just the cutsie, lovey dovey conversation. Well to bring up a past problem, when I would go to bed my ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi
Thats really not unusual you know. Guys and girls, sometimes find masterbation easier. Takes way less effort. Its when someone prefers it all the time thats a problem. You're not at that stage yet, and i dont believe you need to have sex ever... (read in full...)
Is she trying to make me jealous?
Q. Alright so I recently started dating a girl and I like her alot, but apparently I'm not the only one. She has a whole group of guys who seem to be obsessive over her, all of them are ex-bf's. This week alone she's been asked out by these guys 4 t...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi
My guess is she likes the attention. Might be a little lacking in self esteem? Most people, unless they have children with them, wouldnt want a lot to do with someone thats cheated on them~! I certainly wouldnt, but im assuming shes young? Mayb... (read in full...)
In love with my online guy of two years, we live 20 minutes away but have yet to meet... ?
Q. Okay, so i started talking to this guy online roughly two years ago. He sent me a message, I replied, and then we started talking on instant messenger very frequently. We really clicked. (I was 18 when we first began talking. He was 23. Turns out, ...
A. 23 August 2007: So you're going to waste a bit more time? or a lot more rather?
This guy doesnt want a 'real' relationship. Hes enjoying the non commitment thing thats going on here. No responsibility. Thats all net relationships are. No disrepect to the other aunt... (read in full...)
It hurts, so why can't i stop doing it?
Q. What should i do? i cant seem to get over my ex. I doubt we will ever get back together (been split up 3 months) and hes treated me pretty badly and i feel as though i would never want to get back with him, even though i still love him, but i just ...
A. 23 August 2007: Hi
You are really going to have to go cold turkey on this one.
Like people have to do when they stop smoking for instance. Like Rhythmandblues2 said, this is an habit for you! Its much the same for anyone that comes out a relationship, you were in ... (read in full...)
Not so much a question I suppose - more of a cry from the heart - even doing the right thing can hurt like hell.
Q. Does knowing the answer help the heartache? In short, I'm married, she's married, both have kids and work together. Recently we told each other how we felt - head over heels in love - and have been meeting after work or at lunchtime - purely to talk ...
A. 23 August 2007: No anon. Theres rarely a right or wrong answer, but i am not hiding behind an anon & a fair few people didnt actually read the guys original post obviously........ (read in full...)
My boyfriend tends to flirt with other girls every now and again. He doesn't have a wandering eye at all, he just says sweet stuff to other girls.
Q. Hey My boyfriend tends to flirt with other girls every now and again. He doesn't have a wandering eye at all, he just says sweet stuff to other girls. And what he says seems very very harmless to me, but I want the opinion of guys to see if there ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
I think if something is a problem for you, then its a problem. If you think its a tad too much you need to have a chat with him.
I was with a guy that stared at women more than chat them up, but i wasnt happy about that. Didnt make any diff whe... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend seems jealous that I am going to meet someone new
Q. Hi all. I've had a lack of help from people on this site with my questions recently, so I've decided to keep it as simple as possible: Last night, I told my ex long distance girlfriend of 2 years that I was meeting a girl on Thursday, as a f...
A. 22 August 2007: I think DocPete is spot on! Sraight to the point & basically it in a nut shell! I dont suppose you need anymore advice, there isnt anything anyone can say that would be any different. Or are you waiting for the reply that says lock her in a room & ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone that can help me come to grips with the fact that I am in a meaningless relationship?
Q. Is there anyone that can help me come to grips with the fact that I am in a meaningless relationship? There is no affection or closeness. The son of a bitch wants to pull me around like a dog on a leash and I want to do my own thing. Because love ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
Geez he sounds like a right control freak!
Im only in the Uk so i wouldnt have a clue how you get away from someone in your neck of the woods.
It sucks when you are with someone that uses you. They are the sort of people that have a use for ev... (read in full...)
I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids.
Q. Hello, hope all of you are doing well with god's blessings upon us every day. My question is I have been in a relationship for 7 years now with a married man with wife and three kids. I am a moslem am not growing younger, he is a roman catholic p...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
You've already answered your own question in your head for all 7 of those years havent you :o(
wow, 7 years, thats alotta wasted years.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Has my fiance cheated?
Q. Has my fiance cheated? My partner works away a lot and I recently found out that while he was away he went to a strip club and didn't tell me. When I found out he denied it at first but then admitted to me that he did go and all of a sudden came ...
A. 22 August 2007: I wouldnt assume hes cheated because of any of that but my ex swore on his daughters life he wasnt lying once & admitted after we split he had. Said he felt terrible about swearing on her life, but there ya go, some people can do that. Im not ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel my boyfriend loves me, but he keeps on saying it over and over but I don't know if I believe him...
Q. I just don't feel my boyfriend loves me, but he keeps on saying it over and over, but simple things he does makes me think and wonder does he really loves me. I've been hurt very bad with my previous boyfriend but I still thinks about him each and ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
You will love someone as much as your ex. It seems like that now, we have all been there n done that. But honestly, i adored an ex, and like you, knew it wouldnt work but still never met anyone i thought as much of, took a couple of years but ... (read in full...)
Why does she lie to me constantly?
Q. I'm going out with this wonderful lady I really love her and she loves me too but she lies a lot and that is my problem She once told me she borrowed money from her friend but one time I had a chat with the friend and I got told no, she did not ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
Sounds like a pathalogical liar to me or compulsive liar. Basically the same thing. Their first reaction is to lie about everything, no matter how trivial.
Usually they have been guilty of wrong doing in the past & its become a habit to hide thi... (read in full...)
Not so much a question I suppose - more of a cry from the heart - even doing the right thing can hurt like hell.
Q. Does knowing the answer help the heartache? In short, I'm married, she's married, both have kids and work together. Recently we told each other how we felt - head over heels in love - and have been meeting after work or at lunchtime - purely to talk ...
A. 22 August 2007: Has everyone read something different to me & rockelle, i was sure this guy said nothing sexual has happened between him & his work mate & never would. He just wanted to vent a bit because he thinks a lot of someone but because he loves his wife & ... (read in full...)
How do I convince her that we can still be friends even if we do split up?
Q. Hi, I currently really, really like this girl and she says she likes me but she isn't sure if we should go out because we are such close friends and if we split up we might not be friends anymore. How do I convince her that I will still be friends ...
A. 22 August 2007: Hi
You cant really because even though you feel right now you could do that, in reality, it doesnt tend to happen.
Not even with us olds!
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Not so much a question I suppose - more of a cry from the heart - even doing the right thing can hurt like hell.
Q. Does knowing the answer help the heartache? In short, I'm married, she's married, both have kids and work together. Recently we told each other how we felt - head over heels in love - and have been meeting after work or at lunchtime - purely to talk ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
Knowing you have done the right thing doesnt always mean its easy to get over. Ive been in that situation when i ended a 2 yr relationship with someone i adored but knew we had too big an age gap to work. It did take me a hell of a long time to g... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 21 August 2007: Sounds good to me, dont know what others think.
Hope tuesday goes ok.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend seems jealous that I am going to meet someone new
Q. Hi all. I've had a lack of help from people on this site with my questions recently, so I've decided to keep it as simple as possible: Last night, I told my ex long distance girlfriend of 2 years that I was meeting a girl on Thursday, as a f...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
It seems that you told her to make her jealous & its not really fair to meet girls that you are only using to make the ex jealous.
Im sure its possible she is a tad jealous but that doesnt mean she wants you back, there was obviously a reason s... (read in full...)
I cheat on my fiancee all the time, but its his fault cause he got me into computers
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man who i love,but i am addicted to cheating.It seems so easy,they are all available on the internet. He has almost caught me twice,but luckily i turned it around on him and now he has to prove to me that he`s not a ...
A. 21 August 2007: You already know the answer to that.
This must be a joke post. I dont believe anyone could be that nasty, not at your age anyway.
If on the slim chance it isnt a wind up, i would seek counselling, and quick. Internet blokes are usually disease ... (read in full...)
I have been giving golden showers to a married guy, but now I want to stop
Q. Hi I'm 19 years old and have been seeing a married guy from work but not for sex really. He has been giving me lifts from work since I started about 7 months ago and we started calling for a drink on the way home. On a couple of occassions we talke...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
Get a lift off someone else, then ignore him.
Hes taken advantage of you basically. How smarmy.
Might be a good idea to tell your boyfriend the truth. I expect he will be shocked, i mean, the guy from work had a wife. That doesnt make you loo... (read in full...)
He is trying to work things out with his ex. Should I wait around?
Q. HELP. I work with a man who is in a relationship with his exwife. He tells me that he would love to date me, but needs to see if things will work out with his ex. He calls or texts me almost every day. He is in therapy right now to help with his ...
A. 21 August 2007: He's in therapy to sort things out with his wife, yet he's txting you everday?
what a waste of money that therapy is.....
Although i expect its a good false impression to put over to his wife.
I would lose the bozo, hes wanting his cake and eat... (read in full...)
My new guy is not quite divorced yet. Is it ok to date him?
Q. Hi, I need advice. I am currently seeing a really great guy who although he says he is seperated from his wife and at the point of divorce is still living in the house with her. He says they have separate rooms and he is always with me. I don't ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
I dont think so. I wouldnt go near him.
Not because of the married bit. It took me years to get divorced, i think i had even had my first child with the kids dad before i was officially divorced from the childhood sweetheart & was with the kids... (read in full...)
She isnt sure if she wants me or her ex. How do I cope?
Q. Recently a girl that I have been friends with for three years told me she felt the same way as I had told her I felt for her. We had been dating for a few weeks when an ex (who more or less pushed her to me) who had been gone all summer called out ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
There isnt a lot you can do. And you wouldnt want her to choose you just for your benefit would you. Thats just recipe for disaster.
If someone said to me they didnt know who they wanted out of me & someone else i would make the choice for them... (read in full...)
She finally left him and I want to know how to start dating without being insensitive
Q. The girl I've been interested in for the past four months told me yesterday that she's finally split up with the father of her kid. She had tried again with him after going out with me for a few weeks. It was so hard at first but I accepted her ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
Good luck. He has probably got a hold over her if he was abussive, it is quite common.
If they keep tooing & frowing, you are gonna be hurt big time.
I would keep my distance if i was you, let her come to you.
As has been said on here in the p... (read in full...)
I'm so scared I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so scared I don't know what to do! My dad lives in England and I've live in Scotland all my life my dad was an alcoholic and abusive... A few months ago he got given a choice he would have to stop drinking or he would only have a few mont...
A. 21 August 2007: Oh no. Sorry to hear that Finchy. Hope you're copeing alright.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 21 August 2007: Thats pretty much what i was saying though, she will have to talk to him, they have kids together & always will have. The communication book wont go on forever, they will have to communicate properly eventually. Can you cope with that?
She is here... (read in full...)
Advice on ovulation please.
Q. Hi guys, Thanks for the answers on the amusement rides another one for my friend just wondered if you could help, she has worked out the time of the month when she should be ovulating, has done ovulation tests for the last three days and no sign of ...
A. 21 August 2007: Is her cycle short? Long? Mine averages about 24/25 days so i ovulate on day 12. Most women are day 14/15. Has she missed it?
I get twingy pains when i ovulate. Thats how i worked out when i would most likely get preganant. They are a bit like mild... (read in full...)
Will I gain his trust, what should I do, I love my husband and want things to work?
Q. My husband has been using sex lines, we haven't even been married a year! but have been together 9 years. I feel so betrayed. I'm not unadventurous and we have always had a good sex life. Like I said I just feel so hurt, Not by the act itself but ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
How awful. Well, the fact he is going to relate is good. Unfortunately there was something missing in his life, probably not completely to do with sex even, if things are ok on that side for you both?
He will find out what that is, through ... (read in full...)
I have not told her how I feel because I'm too frightened of losing her.
Q. Hi, I know this girl who I am in love with but I have not told her how I feel because she already has a guy who she is moving in with but he is married. I have not told her how I feel because I'm too frightened of losing her. please respond ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
You're on a hiding to nowhere with this one in my opinion.
I know thats not what you want to hear. You will make a fool of yourself if you go confessing love. Shes with a married guy. Where are her morals?
There are way more decent single girls... (read in full...)
He says I make him much happier than his ex but why would he want to meet her??
Q. Hey, I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now, his ex of 2 years broke up with him 11 months ago, and broke his heart and he has always said that he hated her, however, he recently told me that a couple of weeks back when I was on holiday, she ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
He didnt tell you earlier because he didnt want to worry you. Theres no evidence he was going to actually cheat. Maybe he was very angry with her because of how they split & wouldnt of minded hearing her side then rip into her verbally? I woul... (read in full...)
What men find so interesting about spending hour after hour, night after night, at the pub?
Q. Hi. This is one for the men really. My female friend asked me what men find so interesting about spending hour after hour, night after night, at the pub? Are they looking for opportunities to be unfaithful? Perhaps some guys could answer this ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
Sorry im a female but i wouldnt mind knowing the answer to this too. I finished with a guy telling him, pub guys arent really my type. Im 36 & someone that needs to pop in for a beer after work all the time isnt my sorta guy. He talked me roun... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 20 August 2007: Im not even sure you should avoid talking to be honest. Its not like you hurt each other with betrayal or anything? You're not angry with each other are you? Whats wrong with keeping in touch by txt or calls? All i wouldnt want to do is sleep with ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 20 August 2007: Hi
Keep in touch with him, no pressure on him though & see what happens. What will be will be. I broke up with someone that was a lot younger & i knew he still had a lot of living to do. But i was 33 at the time & had 2 children so it was diff... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
The sending rude txt is out of order, but obviously he needs to keep some contact with her because they have kids.
Blokes (and women) that have kids, really need to avoid getting in relationships with younger people that dont have them, because ... (read in full...)
I'm so scared I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so scared I don't know what to do! My dad lives in England and I've live in Scotland all my life my dad was an alcoholic and abusive... A few months ago he got given a choice he would have to stop drinking or he would only have a few mont...
A. 18 August 2007: Oh sweetheart how awful. Is there any way you can get there? Its a horrible feeling of helplessness isnt it.
My heart goes out to you at this time.
Is there anone you can spend time with now, if you cant get to the hospital?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
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