I don't want to be like a wet fish sucking at him. Any tips?
Q. I love my boyfriend giving me oral,im just not confident in giving it to him.I really want to give him a blow job but i dont want it to feel like a wet fish sucking at him.what tips do you have for a first time go? x...
A. 7 July 2008: Do whatever seems best except hold back on the teeth... (read in full...)
My husband got another woman pregnant while in Iraq, how can I save our marriage?
Q. Im recently in the military and I have been with my husband for almost three years. We have one child (1 year 5 months) and I am currently pregnant. Me and my husband just recently got married in April when he came home for R and R. He is currently ...
A. 7 July 2008: I would dump him and pick up the pieces and move on. You deserve better all the way around. good luck... (read in full...)
Do men expect you to sleep with them right away even if you don't fancy them??
Q. Its a pity becasue although I am not spring chicxken I am told I am attractive and lots of married men seem to like me BUt why cannot I find someone who really likes me? I worked with some women once who said if you dont behave more in line of ...
A. 7 July 2008: I don't think they do but by the same token you may be giving the impression it will be a sexless relationship and most older men including myself have been there and done that. That is a red flag to me the main reason I am looking to get out of my ... (read in full...)
WHY was he so keen to have sex on holiday if one week later he said he did not want a relationship??
Q. Just returned from holiday recently, had some fun nothing romantic although he wanted sex I held back. We met up after the holiday once which was jsut a week later and he told me he didnt want a relationship. WHY was he so keen to have sex on holid...
A. 7 July 2008: Maybe he just thought that would be the type of relationship he would be getting into. He might have experienced that before and did not want to go there again.... (read in full...)
No sex for 4 years, but he responds to doing it by hand. Why?
Q. for past 4 years me and husband av not had intercourse he said he doesnt have much feeling and goes flat when we try to have full sex what i dont understand is he can have full erection if it is done to him by hand,i think he might preffer this,as ...
A. 1 July 2008: I have that problem too, doing it by hand works but not normal sex. I just satisfy my wife first and do myself later. It is fun to work on her even though medications mess me up. don't give up talk about what you need from him to get off... (read in full...)
Are there any steps I can take to prevent me ending up with no life other than him?
Q. There has been a similar question on here today but my situation has some suitble differences. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years, through that period I had had strong friends, but through changing jobs, leaving school/ uni. I have generall...
A. 25 June 2008: You sound like you will be fine to me. Going to school should keep you busy enough to forget your troubles for the time being. My wife is more outgoing than I am and has more friends too. She is playing on a softball team right now, you couldn't ... (read in full...)
Are there any steps I can take to prevent me ending up with no life other than him?
Q. There has been a similar question on here today but my situation has some suitble differences. I have been with my boyfriend 4 years, through that period I had had strong friends, but through changing jobs, leaving school/ uni. I have generall...
A. 25 June 2008: I am kind of like you are and it does make me have a sort of boring life at least to some, but I don't really care to get involved with too many committments.
I have friends mainly involved with my home repair business I have recently started.... (read in full...)
I like my wife to be an exhibitionist! Is there anything wrong with me?
Q. I like my wife to exhibit her boobs and butt to a stranger, infront of me. I have even got her sexy lingerie and asking her to show off her sexy body to others like milkman, paper man, neighbour etc. Anything wrong with me?...
A. 25 June 2008: Maybe a little strange but could be fun as long as she is interested in only you.... (read in full...)
I just don't know what my heart wants! And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. argh help! i dont know what i'm doing! i broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago after a 2 year long relationship, the breakup wasn't brilliantly handled on my part in the sense that i'd never broken up with someone before and I broke up with ...
A. 25 June 2008: I think you are putting too much emphasis on your needs. Why not forget about yourself for a while and concentrate on being the best you can for her. Find out what she wants and do it. It won't kill you and who knows she might turn out to be your ... (read in full...)
Am I beign unreasonable??
Q. I have been happily married for a decade. My husband has always had lots of female friends, who I get along with usually. Recently, my husband met a single mum of one and I did not really mind. I went to meet her but she ignored me most of the time ...
A. 23 June 2008: I agree with setting boundaries but I do not think it necessarily means a relationship is going on.
I feel the lonliness part myself with my wife also. I don't see anything wrong with having female friends to talk to. It does seem like to need ... (read in full...)
Fallen for a man aged 50...should I trust my judgement and leave it alone...or should I go for it??
Q. I am 27 yrs old - been single for about a year after a serious relationship with someone my own age (this ended amicably) now ive fallen for a man thats a lot older than me (50) althogh he doesnt know how i feel about him. when we are together ...
A. 23 June 2008: I would go for it, what do you really have to loose and it may work out great.
Age alone should not be a problem. good luck... (read in full...)
I'm unable to treat my husband nice after he cheated on me. Any advice on what to do?
Q. I am unable to treat my husband nice after he has cheated on me. For example when he asks me to massage his shoulder I say a BIG NO. Such things make our life difficult to live together. Any advice? Please help....
A. 21 June 2008: I know the feeling, I live in the same world, no back rubs no nothing, but I went to strip clubs occasionally as an outlet not cheating in the normal form. I know this is still a form of cheating but if my wife would just get over it and have good ... (read in full...)
Do I have any rights with regard to her selling the ring before divorce?
Q. My wife has sold her engagement ring and has left the state, she even had a change of address 3 weeks ago, then, this week I filed for divorce. Do I have any rights with regard to her selling the ring before divorce? ...
A. 21 June 2008: I think it is her ring, you gave it to her. I won't go after that at this stage. just move on the sooner the better, another lesson in life learned... (read in full...)
My partner has a split personality, will he ever change?? What should I do??
Q. My partner of 5 years has a split personality. He is a paranoid, possessive boozer. I love him to bits when he is Hyde. He is the most kind, loveable, generous, entertaining, knowledgeable man. Whan he is Jeckel I hate him with a vengence. If he ...
A. 20 June 2008: I feel for you. I kind of doubt if he will change much so you might need to get out of the mess unless he can get a hold on his boozing. good luck
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What should I do? I've spent weeks thinking but haven't come up with a solution...all advice really appreciated!
Q. Hi all, My husaband recently got back from a business trip in china. I know it sounds untrusting but I checked his phone and to my horror there was text to one of his sports friends it went something like this, Hi mate, can't play squash, still in ...
A. 20 June 2008: It could be harmless, maybe just a few strip clubs or something. Wouldn't he be afraid of catching something if he really got involved sexually with someone, I know I would. I think he may of wanted to brag to his friends.
Has he done anything... (read in full...)
Meeting this guy just reminded me of how good I could feel. I really miss feeling loved.
Q. Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together a year and a month. He is depressed a lot and isn't at all affectionate (sp?), but I love being all cuddly and kissy. Sometimes I will ask him to kiss me and he says "no" or he "feels like i'm forcing ...
A. 19 June 2008: I would move on right away while you have an opportunity. His child is not enough reason to stay with him. good luck... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me, but I don't want us to be over.
Q. My boyfriend and I got in a bad fight it ended physically by my older brother going after him and beating him up in front of his friends. He pressed charges and said he never wants to see me again and has no feelings for me. He came over two days...
A. 19 June 2008: I would move on and package his stuff up for him before you leave. Sounds like a real mess from which only bad things will result. You can surely find someone to be with that will really care for you. good luck... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be THIS jealous?
Q. I am with the man of my dreams!! He does have a past for watching porn, and we have discussed it and he is trying his best to stop, and i'm so very proud of the efforts he has made to stop. I went though the porn problem with my ex, as he was truly ...
A. 19 June 2008: I think you are overreacting to the porn issue. I am sure from the sound of it he is fully satisfied with you as you are. I think it is a habit that he and a lot of men including myself will always have to varing degrees. It is just a fantasy, ... (read in full...)
Younger man vs. older man, what shall I do?
Q. I have been dating a man 10 years younger than me. Now a man that is 40, 5 years older than me wants to date me. He is a very reputable and kind person but cannot offer me much, as he is getting out of a divorce now and is very hurt by it. Th...
A. 19 June 2008: Sounds like you are going shopping at the store. I think you should stay with the one you are dating now. The older one may go sour and leave you with no one since he is just out of a relationship. take care... (read in full...)
He left me, but was a great father to our children, now he's thinking about starting over, should I give him a chance?
Q. Hello I'm a 34 year old women. I've been with a guy for 13 years. We have struggled with money issues for as long as I can remember and we now have three beautiful children together (a 5yr old, a 3yr old and a 2yr old.) When my 2nd child was ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sounds like he found out the grass was not greener on the other side of the fence. I would have a very serious talk with him and let him know that if he strays again its over forever. Then if you feel like connecting with him again talk about issues ... (read in full...)
I am so confused and upset, perhaps being a fool, can anybody please help me out here?
Q. I have been friends with this girl for around two months and talked every day online or by text or in person. I wanted to be more than friends but she had a boyfriend and never wanted to lose her as a friend, so was happy to be friends. I found out ...
A. 18 June 2008: Sounds like you have been used as that famous only friends mess. The only thing you can do is find someone else and the sooner the better. She isn't worth your time. It is hard but nothing can change that but time and possibly someone new.... (read in full...)
Lately me and my husband argue constantly, I want to save my marriage but don't know where to begin...
Q. Me and my husband have been married 7 yrs this yr with 1 child from my 1st marraige whos 11, and one from our marriage who's 6, just lately i don't know what's happened, we seem to argue constantly, we sit on opposite sides of the room, we spend no ...
A. 18 June 2008: Why do you feel suffocated by the marriage after seven years? Has something changed resently or has it been that way since the beginning?
Maybe you are kind of angry at yourself and taking it out on him. Maybe you need to unstress your life a l... (read in full...)
Straight out of a relationship and into a new one... are things moving too fast?
Q. Help, I'm so confused. I split up with my boyfriend of 3 years a couple of weeks ago because I wasn't in love with him anymore, but still cared about him as a best friend. I had also met someone else who I was really attracted to which just reinf...
A. 18 June 2008: I think it sounds great to me. Who cares about the fact it happened fast. That just means you don't have to be lonely. I think opposites attract in many cases. I would just keep doing exactly as you are and don't give anybody any reasons or excuses ... (read in full...)
How can I help him move on? How long should I wait for him? We have such good times that I do find it hurtful he's holding back despite apparenty having long term plans for us...
Q. Hoping for some insights into my guys head!! I have been with my man for a year, and although we live a fair distance apart we talk everyday and spend weekends together unless he's working. He is very affectionate and pays me lots of complime...
A. 17 June 2008: I would cool it for a few weeks and test him a little. Find something else to do and just pretend to be loosing interest in him. Let him make all the moves.
Something probably needs to happen to wake him up to what he has with you. He might be... (read in full...)
How do men or women prefer to see the pubic area on their partners??
Q. How do men or women prefer to see the pubic area on their partners: shaved, trimed or with some sort of design?...
A. 16 June 2008: I think shaved is more of a turn on to me... (read in full...)
We're not even engaged yet. Am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we practically live together. We have done since more or less day one of our relationship. Before we got into a relationship, he was renting a house off his mum but she needed to rent i...
A. 15 June 2008: If he is living with you 75 percent of the time he should be helping out I think. Wonder what he really wants to be with you or to have a place to crash. Are you sure you want to marry into this situation? It might be better not to assume his debt ... (read in full...)
Am I the selfish one?
Q. Hi I need help, about three years ago I left my husband of 10years to move in with my present partner who left his partner of 23 years, I have four children from a previous marriage and he had two children with his partner, my husband and I had not ...
A. 15 June 2008: Maybe you moved out and into another relationship too quickly. It sounds like your new husband needs a wake up call before it is too late. You should have a serious talk with him, maybe go somewhere for the weekend where he is away from the computer ... (read in full...)
What are men from 45 upwards looking for in a relationship with a woman?
Q. To all the males out there! In your opinion,what are men from 45 upwards looking for in a relationship with a woman? What is important, what less important? Your comments and insight will be appreciated....
A. 14 June 2008: I thought I would make a new list since I forgot part of the question
Important to me the wildman
1- Easy going
2- Not high maintenance
3- Likes to experiment with sex (husband and wife only)
4- likes to go out to bars occasionally
5- No ... (read in full...)
What are men from 45 upwards looking for in a relationship with a woman?
Q. To all the males out there! In your opinion,what are men from 45 upwards looking for in a relationship with a woman? What is important, what less important? Your comments and insight will be appreciated....
A. 14 June 2008: 1) Caring wife
2) Likes to have sex regularly
3) interested in experimentation
4) not hyper... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me twice and I just can't trust him! Is there no hope for us?
Q. Hi, My husband of 12 years cheated on me twice last year and we have been trying to rebuild our relationship ever since. Tonight (a year later) is the first night he has gone out alone with mates and I am shocked how little I trust him. Even ...
A. 14 June 2008: I think it is time to dump him. Two screwups for him is unacceptable. He will not change. good luck ... (read in full...)
I have helped him through troubled times but then blew up and disrespected him... he left and I don't know what to do with this mess?
Q. Please help! My man and I have been together for nearly 4 years. When we first met, it was like something made in heaven . . . he pursued me for nearly 1 1/2 years. We live in different cities. Also during that time I would not see him, but we ...
A. 14 June 2008: Its time to move on unfortunately. good luck... (read in full...)
After looking at porn, my wife left me. How can I get her back?
Q. I have been married for seven years and my wife just moved out last week. I love her very much and I don't know what to do. She says that she needs time to find herself. To top this all off we have two kids. I want her back so much. What do I ...
A. 14 June 2008: sounds to me like there might be more than just porn. If not, she needs to get a life, porn is no big deal. good luck... (read in full...)
What Does taking things Slow really mean???
Q. my bf and I were broke up for almost a month now, but we have been hanging out the past few days, and chatting..We were together for 3.5 years, and broke up because of communication basically. Anyway we had a lot of fights, and we both know we need ...
A. 14 June 2008: It sounds to me like he wants to play the field while keeping you on the hook. I think you should move on to someone who will respect you.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to another woman! What do I do?
Q. I am a woman attracted to my female friend.We have kissed and when I asked her if it's OK she said no, but there was hesitation in her words as if she wanted to say yes. We still hang out,go to dinner, have drinks. We speak for hours and flirt. i...
A. 14 June 2008: I would tell her how you feel. She will probably be receptive. I think the truth is the best way to approach it.
good luck... (read in full...)
What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex ?
Q. What do the females think about men who complain about not having enough sex and their wives not being adventurous enough to indulge in new things? How can a man change your actions on this? Is this a permanent situation or can a different approa...
A. 13 June 2008: I meant out of my existing marriage not outside of it. Sorry I wasn't very clear. Thanks for all the answers.... (read in full...)
I've really fallen for my boss!! What do I do??
Q. I've really fallen for my boss, however, if we get together it will result in him losing his job. He's quite a lot older than me, however, i really really like him, i'm infatuated with him and he's in my head all the time. He'll make comments to...
A. 9 June 2008: Why are you infatuated with him? Does he treat you special or some other reason. How much age difference is there 20 years maybe?
Is he really harrassing you or do you lead him on with the comments? You probably need to look at why you are afte... (read in full...)
We are newlyweds, shouldnt he be phoning me while on business?
Q. My husband is currently away on business/leisure for one week. He hasn't phoned me once in this time. I've sent him long emails and he only responds with short emails back. We are newlyweds and I am home alone while he is away. It feels to me ...
A. 9 June 2008: I agree with smiles, keeping yourself occupied may work best. I guess you knew he would have to travel before you got married.
That is probably something you will have to get used to dealing with. Maybe there are things you can do that are bett... (read in full...)
His wife told him to leave , should I leave my husband for him?
Q. I am so confused and really don't know what to do. I fell in love with a married man and started having an affair which ended after just 2 months because we couldn't see a future (as we are both married). We both told our partners and agreed that we ...
A. 9 June 2008: I think you should leave for the man you have fallen in love with and soon before things get any worse for him. You don't really love your present husband which will probably not change.
I have one of those no sex or very little relation... (read in full...)
How do you figure out why your wife of 30 years is always against having sex?
Q. How do you figure out why your wife of 30 years is always against having sex? She always has an excuse too tired, doesn't feel well, has to go to sleep you know the drill. Is it normal for women at 50 to get this way? I am finding it hard to even ...
A. 29 May 2008: she is overweight and feels she is unattractive no matter what I say... (read in full...)
Is he supposed to call if he's casually dating others? Do I call him?
Q. We talked a lot while eating and we were quieter during the movie. We got to see each other after more than one month so it was a little bit strange first but then we warmed up. After four hours together, we had to say good bye but while he was on ...
A. 11 May 2008: I would call him after a day or two if you are that interested in continuing the relationship. Ask him if you can meet for coffee or something just to see whats going on. Good luck to you... (read in full...)
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