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writes: Hey, I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now, his ex of 2 years broke up with him 11 months ago, and broke his heart and he has always said that he hated her, however, he recently told me that a couple of weeks back when I was on holiday, she text him saying do you want a catch up and he said yes!!!! Then she didn't text him back... and that he hated her again because she had told everyone that he had been texting her asking for her back!!!??? I'm so confused. What do you think?? He says I make him much happier than his ex but why would he want to meet her?? and why didn't he tell me sooner if it was innocent please help me!! x x
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reader, Robyn1701  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Relative to his other relationship, he hasn't been with you that long. I think that when his heart was broken he lost his self esteem. He does feel for you but he does still think about how badly his ex hurt him.
If he truely hates her and tells you that he hates her, then he still feels something for her and he's still upset that she ended it. Maybe he wanted to meet her to ask why she did it. I really think that he needs answers.
I think you should sit down and talk to him if he is willing. Get him to tell you what he feels for this girl and comfort him. Tell him that you're there for him now and that you love him so he doesn't have to worry about her. I think he's still a bit broken, that's all.
Once he spills his feelings to you and you talk about it, then I think you'll both feel a lot better. Then you can do things to keep his mind off her and on you and I promise he will realise how much he needs you in his life now.
Good luck and mail me what happens. I'm happy to answer any more questions you have.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Hi
He didnt tell you earlier because he didnt want to worry you. Theres no evidence he was going to actually cheat. Maybe he was very angry with her because of how they split & wouldnt of minded hearing her side then rip into her verbally? I wouldnt mind doing that with my ex & yes, i hate him too!
I would give your guy the benefit of the doubt at the moment. She sounds like she was testing to see if he would respond & when he did her job was done. And shes a bit bitter hes moved on by the looks of it.
I would get him to change his number personally, but give it time, see if anything else happens.
Thats your only option really.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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