Is my mind still too much on my ex to start a new relationship??
Q. Hello everybody. Not really sure how I'm feeling today.. a bit wierd. To take my mind off of my ex for a while I'm trying to focus on wanting to be with somebody new, as opposed to wanting to be with her. I figured, I can want and want all I like, ...
A. 4 September 2007: So do i.
My mate, shes 29, so by no means immature, yet still isnt over her ex she split with last december. She is getting there but admits if he came onto her she would find it very hard to say no!
So dont worry.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Is my mind still too much on my ex to start a new relationship??
Q. Hello everybody. Not really sure how I'm feeling today.. a bit wierd. To take my mind off of my ex for a while I'm trying to focus on wanting to be with somebody new, as opposed to wanting to be with her. I figured, I can want and want all I like, ...
A. 4 September 2007: Thats normal feelings though Andy. You have a void at the moment so you're a bit lonely. Nothing wrong with that and nothing unusual. Life sucks at times. Its always crap when it hits you that all the plans you had arent gonna happen. You're gr... (read in full...)
Is my mind still too much on my ex to start a new relationship??
Q. Hello everybody. Not really sure how I'm feeling today.. a bit wierd. To take my mind off of my ex for a while I'm trying to focus on wanting to be with somebody new, as opposed to wanting to be with her. I figured, I can want and want all I like, ...
A. 4 September 2007: Hi Andy Sorry, the way i read it was like you were only communicating on line, although meeting 13 times in 2 years is like averageing once every 2 months? Not too sure why you only got 1 answer. If i was you i would ask the question again even. Ma... (read in full...)
My mum has MS and my dad is having an affair with my mums best mate! Do I tell???
Q. My mum has MS (Multiple Sclerosis) and uses a walking stick most of the time. But even when she does not use a walking stick, she totters around and can barely walk. She cries most of the time and is very depressed. Dad has told her he is leaving ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi
If your father is leaving soon, then no, i wouldnt tell her. I would let HIM know that you know, and for him to do the right thing! But not your mum. Although if its her mate she will find out at some point! I feel for you.
Good luck.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
This woman is claiming my husband has been cheating and fathered a child. What do you think?
Q. ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR 3YEARS. LAST YEAR WE HAD A BIG ARGUEMENT BECAUSE HE WAS ACUSSING ME OF BEING AT A BAR TELLING PEOPLE THAT I WASNT MARRIED AND THAT WAS NOT TRUE. SO WE ENDED UP SEPERATING FOR 4 MONTHS. WE FINALLY GOT BACK ...
A. 3 September 2007: That would drive me insane to be honest and i would rather be out of it than put up with it no matter what the truth is. Things like dna tests can come in handy. But some exes dont care if their guy has moved on and will manipulate lots of things to ... (read in full...)
My ex husband thinks we never got divorced!!
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone in the Uk can help me out here. I was speaking on the phone to my ex husband on Saturday night. Havent seen him since we split 16 years ago (apart from once about 6 years ago at his and his girlfriends house for a b b q, i u...
A. 3 September 2007: Thats what i dont remember. I remember applying for it, i paid for it. I had waited 2 years for the seperation thing because he didnt want to sign it, thats what the rules were then. And i guess with loads having happened in the last 13 yrs i dont ... (read in full...)
Do girls like chest hair?
Q. Do girls like chest hair??...
A. 3 September 2007: I expect that varies greatly. I prefer smooth chests and slightly hairy bellies. But ultimately its no big deal if they have hairy chests. Theres way more important things!
C xxxx... (read in full...)
My ex husband thinks we never got divorced!!
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone in the Uk can help me out here. I was speaking on the phone to my ex husband on Saturday night. Havent seen him since we split 16 years ago (apart from once about 6 years ago at his and his girlfriends house for a b b q, i u...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi Deejuliet
Is ok now.
My mate said the same as you, to ring the court. I just have and they said you need to write in with details because they dont usually keep records of stuff pre 1998, but if we are divorced they will find a copy of the abso... (read in full...)
I've told her we are too young to have a baby but she got mad and said I am breaking her heart!!
Q. My girlfriend and I are 19 and she wants to have a baby with me. I'm not ready and she knows it. We both still live with our parents and can hardly even afford to go to school. I tried talking to her and explaining why it's too soon and she got mad ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi
There is nothing you 'can' do about it.
You are the sensible one in this relationship it seems and thankfully one of you are!
You girlfriend thinks having a baby will be brilliant, someone to love and love her back unconditionally. She might ha... (read in full...)
My bf didnt like me texting my ex, but i did it anyway, then we hung out and ended up kissing!
Q. hi i have been going out with my bf for 9 months, but between that time i would txt my ex, who i went out with for 3 years, and my boyfriend knew and didnt like it at all,so i stoped, and didnt talk to him for a month, then he showed up one day, and ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi
There is obviously still something there with your ex, and that drives me mad to be honest. My ex was txting his ex and of course i didnt like it. He then said he wasnt and had deleted her number. We split after a year because i couldnt trus... (read in full...)
Two years on and i'm still in love with him....any advice??
Q. I was seeing my boyfriend for two years. We broke up and it's been nearly two years since that. We have catch up quite regularly but the weekend just gone we slept together, quite a lot! And acted all couply all weekend, going out for lunch, holding ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi Emma
Its hard to say wether he wants you back, but my bet is hes just using you for sex.
I split from someone 3 months ago now and that was mostly because of issues with his ex.
He has since slept with his ex and says its just sex. And that blo... (read in full...)
Is my mind still too much on my ex to start a new relationship??
Q. Hello everybody. Not really sure how I'm feeling today.. a bit wierd. To take my mind off of my ex for a while I'm trying to focus on wanting to be with somebody new, as opposed to wanting to be with her. I figured, I can want and want all I like, ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi Andy
Its never a good reason to get with someone, to get over an ex. Not saying some fun now n then is bad, but if you really want to 'replace' her, thats where you're more likely to fail with the next one.
Internet relationships (if you can ... (read in full...)
Can cheaters really change??
Q. hi, I have a boyfriend that i really love, can't imegine a life without him. He loves me too but he has been cheating on me but like in our country its normal for boys/girls to cheat on each other. All i want to know is we talked about it and he ...
A. 3 September 2007: Hi
Sometimes yes.
My uncle cheated on my aunt and even left her for 3 years but they got back together a couple of years ago and are fine now.
My grandad used to cheat on my nan, in those days women put up with a lot but he wouldnt dream of doi... (read in full...)
Maybe he wouldn't have broken up if I had gone to the adventure park with him...
Q. I feel dreadful, yesterday my bf of over a year finished with me saying that "I think we need to split up, this isn't working i need to sort myself out." (On his mates phone by text because he hasn't got one at the moment!)Ever since then i have had ...
A. 1 September 2007: Hi
The adventure park incident was possibly just a small part in this.
Things would go a lot deeper than that. Maybe he does suffer with a bit of insecurity and wants you going places with him all the time?
If he doesnt want to speak then there i... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be this scared after losing your virginity?...
Q. Hey, i lost my virginity 4 days ago it was protected sex as he used a condom. It didnt split or slide off so why am i so paranoid? It is normal to be this scared after losing your virginity?...
A. 1 September 2007: Hi
Why are you so paranoid?
Because you are normal and at the moment dont want a baby!
But really, condoms are brilliant if you use them right, you havent got anything to worry about.
The more you use them, the more confidence you will have in... (read in full...)
Does her starting smoking again mean she doesn't care about me anymore??
Q. I met my girlfriend in England 6 months ago and we both love each other very much! She lives in Turkey and returned 1 month ago trying to get visa to return and study. Whilst she was in England she quit smoking, she said that it was all because of ...
A. 1 September 2007: Hi
Im with Duce on this one.
Shes addicted to it. Plenty of people give up with good intentions, but its flippin hard to stick with it!
Dont worry. Dont nag her to stop again now either. Giving up addictions is something a person can only do when... (read in full...)
The drink is hurting our relationship. She says she's depressed. What can I do?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for 3 years. I had to move away for school for the past year and weve seen each other every 2 weeks or so and i have made the effort as much as possible to see her. I am about to move home in a couple months ...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi
Good luck with that! I was with someone that drank a fair bit. But like you say, its not like they are full on alcoholics. He would drink every night but not until he finished work, and sometimes only a few pints but it was still essential ever... (read in full...)
I feel depressed and resorted to drinking...
Q. I have resorted to getting drunk because it makes me smile a little which is better than how I feel depressed all the time! I get depressed when my drink is finished and I start to get sober. I am sad because I am lonely, I thought that I could fi...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi there,
Thats not good sweetie. I know what you mean, boredom sets in so you have a few bevvies. Its not unusual. But that bottle of drink isnt the friend that you are pinng for so much. Its not even a close substitute for human contact.
Do yo... (read in full...)
He seems to enjoy the chase and we keep breaking up, only for him to be chasing me again, and the cycle continues. Is this going to go on forever?
Q. I am in this strange relationship for 2 years now. He chases after me, I feel intense feelings of joy and excitement (absolutely high), we get closer, I start chasing him, we become very intimate and then he pulls away, says his frightened. I feel ...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi
This is basically a distructive relationship. Hes into the chase and the drama of slpitting up, chasing you again. The boredom sets in, and like you say, the cycle continues on and on. He knows he can do it too because he already gets away with... (read in full...)
He left me for his ex, but now he's back. I'm afraid of getting hurt again, so what should I do?
Q. hello. please i need help. i dated this guy 4 about 6 months when he disided to go back to his x girl friend. well its was very painfull 4 me but i could understand him as i know how it is when u r in love. but the thing is that i m not yet over him ...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi
Alarm bells would be ringing for me if i was you. He made a classic mistake after splitting with her by trying to replace her with you. Those relationships more often fail.
Everyone, and there's no exceptions either, everyone, needs some tim... (read in full...)
Could these antibiotics have caused thrush?
Q. Hi, i dont think i should be too worried but i just want to put my mind at ease. I lost my virginity 3 days ago and it was protected sex as he wore a condom. I have also been ill and have been on penicillin tablets due to tonsilitis. I have noticed ...
A. 31 August 2007: 99% Yes! I worked with a woman that got thrush every time she was on anti's! Drove her mad! Dont worry, its a pain! But not uncommon.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 31 August 2007: Er it would be a very shallow immature guy that would go somewhere else just to get oral. I mean really! If he loves you, that simply wouldnt be an option and he couldnt do it! If that does happen you can be thankful you had a lucky escape before ... (read in full...)
I've recently got together with my uncles best friend! But he is 40, I am 23 and he now wants to cool it a bit. I dont want to lose him!
Q. Hi Everyone, I am after a bit of advice regarding a new relationship i have started with an older man. I am 23 and my partner is 40, we met a while ago and have seen each other on occasion at my relative's house(he is my uncle's best friend!)I h...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi K
Well he might be bottling it a bit due to your uncle being his mate?
He could be worried about the age difference?
How long had you been seeing each other when he decided to cool it then?
It wasnt just after you first slept together?
If h... (read in full...)
If he loves me how do I get him back, since he's too stubborn to take me back?
Q. Okay If he loves me then how do I get him back since he's too stubborn to take me back...?...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi
Well it depends why you split etc etc
If he wont come back though, there aint an awful lot you can do about that? Could he be THAT stubborn that if he loved you he wouldnt wanna try again?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
My friend is Bi curious and I love her! She said she wanted to experiment with me. Should I tell her I love her????
Q. Hi, I hope you can help! I'm 20 and I was recently joking with my friend that's also a girl that I would give her oral sex and have sex with her because she has never had it and I said that she is missing out on it! She's never had any sexual e...
A. 31 August 2007: Hi
Yep tell her.
Whats the alternative? You keep shtum and maybe she will eventually say something to you, but she might not and you're both treading on egg shells. The fact you have gone that far would be enough for me to speak to her about it... (read in full...)
I'm not keen on giving oral. But I want to please him. I feel a bit guilty?
Q. ok well me (20) and my new boyfriend (26) have started having sex and hes given me oral but i havent given him yet because it makes me feel sick doing it so ive only done it twice before. i want to please him but im worried as i will be rubbish as ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
First off never feel guilty about not wanting to do anything in sex. Its your right to say no and i bet your guy wouldn't want you doing anything you wouldn't want to do.
But as for worrying about doing it right. There really is no right or... (read in full...)
I've gone on the pill but now I'm worried my mum will find out? I'm a teen..
Q. I Have Just Went To The Doctors to Get The Pill.. But Now Im Scared My Mum Finds Out.. I Cant Tell Her Why I Have Them Because She Will Go Crazy, What Should I Say?...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
She wont find out from your Gp. Here in the Uk there are rules about that. Do you mean you will feel you should tell her?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: She might well be deliberately trying to push you away hun.Turn you against her so to speak.
Does she have no desire to be transfrerred somewhere else seeing as you are the boss? or isnt that a possibility either?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
We are seperated because i dont feel I love him anymore. Have I done the right thing?
Q. I have been married for 1 year and I have off and on felt that I was not in love with my husband. I always tried to push the thoughts off and not think about them because he is so good to me. Finally, I started to have panic attacks (they were ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
I sympathise with you here. Been in a similar situation some years ago.
You have been brave saying to him the truth.
I also did the counselling and she helped me see that sometimes when you stop loving someone, no matter how much you want to,... (read in full...)
He loses his erection when it comes to condoms. Help!
Q. My boyfriend never has any problems getting an erection during foreplay. He can whenever and wherever. But when it comes to sex he goes limp. He says its due to nerves. Ive tried helping him right before but when he goes to put the condom on it ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
You're doing all the right things.
He has a psycological thing going on here. Somethings happened in the past. Or he just dislikes condoms. I used to have to be real sly about putting them on my ex as he was completely turned off by them, bu... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity 2 days ago. We used protection but I feel bloated and ill. Should I be worried?
Q. Hi, im 17 and lost my virginity 2 days ago, it was protected sex as he wore a condom. It hurt when while having sex and i bled a little but afterwards i felt fine. But the day after i felt a little sick and bloated and i still feel like that today. ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
No panic. Tonsilitis is notorious for making you sick. My daughter vommited with it, the doctor said its normal it upsets the tummy.
It was normal to bleed a little. You haven't done any harm.
Dont let it spoil your big moment.
All the best.... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hmmmm tricky one then!
You're probably just gonna have to ride this out then.
Have a chat with her maybe. Up front and honest. Say you dont want a bad atmosphere. Sometimes when your frank with people it can clear the air quite a lot.
Any chanc... (read in full...)
I cant get over my work colleague
Q. I've mentioned before on here that I've fallen big time for a colleague, I've known here for 3 years now and over the last year really fallen for her, sadly she doesn't feel the same way and much as it hurts I accept I can't change that. We ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
Might be a good idea if its possible.
Shes distanced herself because she possibly thought she gave you the wrong idea when you were more pally before and it wasnt what she wanted.
It would be hard to get it back to how it was before.
Its... (read in full...)
I want to make our anniversary really special
Q. Hey ladies I was wondering...I what is the best thing a guy has ever done 4 u...I've done a lot 4 my girlfriend and our 1 year is coming up next weekend...and I want 2 do the best thing ever...I was thinking about making all her favorite foods and ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
Well it was valentines and i walked in the door and there was a heart note on the living room door telling me to go to the kitchen, i got in the kitchen and there was a box of chocolates, and a heart note saying go upstairs, i walked up the stai... (read in full...)
I have been having sex with a married man. He says he loves me and his family. Could he just be after sex?
Q. i have a colleague at work who is married with a 3 year old kid..i was new and got atrracted to him, i was the only one single in the office and many guys wants to court me, but i fell inlove with this married man and we see each other secretly,we ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
In a nut shell er...yes!
Taking advantage of you too by the sounds of it.
Kick the guy to the kerb.
Good luck.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Do you think I should bother with her or do you think she doesn't want to know? I'm 44 she's 22.
Q. Please help I've been with my girlfriend for 4 months now, I do have a past, people have been telling her things about me. Lately she's always busy or she says she has a lot on, do you think I should bother with her or do you think she doesn'...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
You haven't really given us a lot to go on there, so i wouldn't know if shes not interested at all or whether you shouldnt be bothered. But the age gap is irrelivant in my opinion.
And gossip should be too.
Unless she believes it all. Everyon... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and I texted him that I love him but got no reply!
Q. My ex has been to pick up his things and we sat and chatted for a whole hour and a half and he was saying things like he needs time off work and hes not feeling well etc. He works as a Taxi Driver and lives over 200 miles away we met on the internet ...
A. 30 August 2007: Horrendous.
So how come you didnt ask him when he came to get his stuff what was happening? or rather why?
To treat you like that is just plain nasty!
I wouldnt mind betting he met someone new on the internet and has moved on. But to not even spe... (read in full...)
He said we would get married then I caught him with a girl in his bedroom. It's hurt so much. Help!
Q. i am in a relationship with this guy who always tells me he loves me so much. we have been in this relationship for two years now. i also love him so much. He has gone to the extent of introducing me to all his family members. ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
This guy isnt worth wasting anymore time on, let alone plan a marriage with.
Hard as it is i would move on and cut your losses.
He's nowhere near ready for a commitment.
Good luck.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
He got back with his ex but he calls and texts me every day. What is he playing at?
Q. I had been seeing this lad for 2 months in which time he admitted he had strong feelings for me and phoned and texted me everyday. A month ago he told me that his ex had been back in touch and that she wanted to give their relationship another go, ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
He is playing at playing to be honest.
You would both be better off losing the guy in my pinion.
Why are you leaving the choices up to him? I would make the choice for him and tell him to get lost.
You know you deserve better than that.
Havi... (read in full...)
Why do I allow myself to go back to a cheating woman?
Q. i had this xgirlfriend(very pretty) who is again showing sign of interest in me, she says that she is not having an afair with anyone, but i know from a very good source that she is having sex with a guy, i will be seeing her very soon, is there ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
Only by trusting your own instincts. If they are telling you shes not to be trusted and she is lying. If you cant believe her, then you are better off moving on.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I lied to her and now she is ignoring me. What can I do???
Q. Hey everybody plzz help me. i cant live without her but she just left me and went away. I told a lie to her and she got it frm my frends gurlfriend. from that day she is ignoring, but is that right? I just lied to her because it was good for her but ...
A. 30 August 2007: Hi
It depends what you lied about? Have you got anymore details?
Some people know they cant forgive a lie and its best if they get out before its eating away at them in the future.
Without more details its hard to say though.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 30 August 2007: Cant he get a guy friend to go with him? because it sounds like she means she doesnt want you there? Shes being unreasonable expecting him to carry heavy things on his own and im sure in the eyes of the law they would see it like that too.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
How do you get someone to accept a relationship is over and deal with depression?
Q. How do you get someone to realize a relationship is over and start taking healthy steps to put their life back together. My ex is still severely depressed. He won't go out and socialize, meet new people or do anything to create a support system ...
A. 29 August 2007: When someone has been 'grieving' for this long they really need to go to their doctor.
Its normal to go through different stages after a break up. Its all part of the healing process. But this is too long.
Counselling, if that doesnt work then a t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend assures me this crush for another girl will fade away. Should I give him more space?
Q. My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We have been dating for 2 years and we are both 17. But there is one problem. He likes another girl. It's been about three weeks since I found out, and I was hesitant to stay in the relationship but there is ...
A. 29 August 2007: Hi
He sounds either extremely honest or looking for an escape???
Hats off to you though. I think you're brave! My pride would have me running as fast as my legs would carry me! But i expect there are plenty of guys and gals that are attracte... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 21 August 2007: Thats pretty much what i was saying though, she will have to talk to him, they have kids together & always will have. The communication book wont go on forever, they will have to communicate properly eventually. Can you cope with that?
She is here... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
The sending rude txt is out of order, but obviously he needs to keep some contact with her because they have kids.
Blokes (and women) that have kids, really need to avoid getting in relationships with younger people that dont have them, because ... (read in full...)
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