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*m81690
writes:Alright so I recently started dating a girl and I like her alot, but apparently I'm not the only one.She has a whole group of guys who seem to be obsessive over her, all of them are ex-bf's. This week alone she's been asked out by these guys 4 times, she said no to all of them, and tells me she'll never get back with any of them, but she talks to these guys on the phone daily! Its really frustrating.She always talks about how she used to date them too, and how they still say they love her, is she just trying to make me jealus? And one of these guys dated her years ago, cheated on her 5 times, and wants ot get back with her. I know the guys intentions are pretty obvious, from what she tells me he's ALWAYS trying to get with her. Apparently he wants to beat me just for talking to her because he claims shes his.She goes on about how much she hates this guy, but whenever he calls she puts me on hold... Whats going on here? Does she still like them, or atleast the attention she's getting? Or is she trying to make me jealus? Or both... Any replies are appreciated, thanks.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (25 August 2007):
 Well to be honest that would drive me insane!Doesnt it you? I think the odds of her cheating are high, but obviously no one can tell you for sure if she would.She just definately doesnt sound ready for anything serious yet.C xxxx
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (24 August 2007):
jm81690 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Alright... Well I have to agree that she definatley does like the attention, and maybe I am going over my head... But do you think she'll cheat on me? And also, what is the point in trying to make me jealus, how does someone get off on that?
Another thing that kind of annoys me is the way she talks about all her ex-bf's... She'll be on the phone with me and laugh when they try to call and she doesn't answer, I can't help but to think she's doing the same thing to me.
I'm sure me being paranoid might make it seem worse to me than it really is, atleast I'm hoping.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 August 2007):
hehe you are heading towards a slippery slope, but hey what do i know, im 36. not a teen. I guess its all different when you're young. If i was in your position i would ask her out. She sounds like she wants as many exes as poss, that will make her happy! haha sorry. Thats just the way its coming across on here. And you kinda asked for opinions. But ultimately you will do what you want to do, and thats quite right.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (24 August 2007):
jm81690 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I like her too much to ditch her, besides we arn't officially bf/gf, we have just been dating alot recently.To be honest the only reason I haven't asked her out yet is because I'm not sure she'll say yes since she is always talking to these other guys.Even yesterday she told me she wishes there was 3 of her, so I could have one and 2 of here "nice" ex-bf's could have her too.... WTF is up with that?Do you think she'll say yes if I ask her out? And if I do will she make less effort to make me jealus?
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Ditch her, she playing with your mental health!!
She loves the attention, she may or may not want them but she is still with them in her head.
She does not really have time for you in her life so cut her loose and let her be with these others.
You deserve a nice girl who will want only you and will not be as mixed up as she is.
Go forth and ditch the bitch!!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (23 August 2007):
Hi
My guess is she likes the attention. Might be a little lacking in self esteem? Most people, unless they have children with them, wouldnt want a lot to do with someone thats cheated on them~! I certainly wouldnt, but im assuming shes young? Maybe she is a tad immature.
Its possible she doesnt mind you getting a bit jealous, thats a confidence boost in itself.
But i would definately not fancy my chances with her if i was you, she sounds immature & not ready for an exclusive relationship.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): i think it's obvious that she simply enjoys the attention she is recieving from all these guys. if all my ex's were still drooling over me, i'd be flattered too.
it's possible that by mentioning these guys to you regularly that she is trying to make you jealous. i have also pulled that move. =/ it's shameful i know.
for a straight up answer just ask her what's the deal? is she interested in these guys at all? ask where you fit in.
but also be aware that your obviously not the only after her. so if you do end up winning her heart over she's also clearly has many options open. so just look over what you're getting into.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): i think it's obvious that she simply enjoys the attention she is recieving from all these guys. if all my ex's were still drooling over me, i'd be flattered too.
it's possible that by mentioning these guys to you regularly that she is trying to make you jealous. i have also pulled that move. =/ it's shameful i know.
for a straight up answer just ask her what's the deal? is she interested in these guys at all? ask where you fit in.
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