Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 30 August 2007: Cant he get a guy friend to go with him? because it sounds like she means she doesnt want you there? Shes being unreasonable expecting him to carry heavy things on his own and im sure in the eyes of the law they would see it like that too.
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I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 21 August 2007: Sounds good to me, dont know what others think.
Hope tuesday goes ok.
Good luck.
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I'm so scared I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so scared I don't know what to do! My dad lives in England and I've live in Scotland all my life my dad was an alcoholic and abusive... A few months ago he got given a choice he would have to stop drinking or he would only have a few mont...
A. 21 August 2007: Oh no. Sorry to hear that Finchy. Hope you're copeing alright.
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Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 21 August 2007: Thats pretty much what i was saying though, she will have to talk to him, they have kids together & always will have. The communication book wont go on forever, they will have to communicate properly eventually. Can you cope with that?
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What men find so interesting about spending hour after hour, night after night, at the pub?
Q. Hi. This is one for the men really. My female friend asked me what men find so interesting about spending hour after hour, night after night, at the pub? Are they looking for opportunities to be unfaithful? Perhaps some guys could answer this ...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
Sorry im a female but i wouldnt mind knowing the answer to this too. I finished with a guy telling him, pub guys arent really my type. Im 36 & someone that needs to pop in for a beer after work all the time isnt my sorta guy. He talked me roun... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex (who has a girlfriend and a baby)... now I've found out I have genital warts - how can I tell him??
Q. i recently slept with my ex who has a girlfriend and a baby and i just found out i have genital warts. how can i tell him without people gettin hurt...
A. 21 August 2007: Hi
You should of told him as soon as you found out. He could possibly of already passed them on to the mother of his child.
Thats quite horrible for her.
Good luck.
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Will eating only 2 apples a day make me lose weight quickly?6
Q. Hey.. ok well i'm planning to lose weight..So i'm going to eat two apples a day and that's it..iv done this now for 1 day..and I no that i'm going keep on doing it..how long will it take like before the weight all drops off?? i'm 9 stone and I hate ...
A. 20 August 2007: No
You, need atleast 1200 calories to lose weight, otherwise your body goes into starvation mode & stores fat in your belly.
Some anorexics lose weight not eating but they cause their kidneys to fail, plus other organs & unfortunately sometime... (read in full...)
Is he just trying to protect me??
Q. My boyfriend has had lots of past sexual relationships, however he is my first, and i feel i am a disappointment to him. He tells me he loves me and not to worry, that he doesnt remember them compared to me but is he just trying to protect me?...
A. 20 August 2007: Not at all!
Honestly, i am 36, so have had a few partners over the years & i can assure you, i never think of exes when sleeping with someone & never even think to compare them!
Its totally different & how you feel about someone makes the sex bett... (read in full...)
Why is he getting in a strop when i suggest earning more money?
Q. Me and my boyfriend live together, but not in our own place, when i suggest getting an extra job he goes in a strop and when i ask him why he just says he is fine why doesnt he want me to get a job?...
A. 20 August 2007: Maybe he worries he wont see you if you're always at work?
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He says he loves both of us, i'm not sure whether to continue.
Q. I am in love with a guy who loves me too but the problem is that he has a girlfriend who is in university at the moment and she has been gone for 3 years. He says he loves both of us and we spend a lot of time togther. Am so confused i don't know ...
A. 20 August 2007: Hi
I would lose the guy, you deserve someone that gives you his full attention to be honest.
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He thinks we will not get the money back.
Q. My uncle is really ill in america, and so my mom asked to borrow money from me and my boyfriend so she could go over and help, but my boyfriend is really annoyed and says we needed the money more i dont know how to console him because he thinks we ...
A. 20 August 2007: Tell him its important! How would you feel if you didnt lend it to her for a good reason like that? You know your mum, she wouldnt do that to you would she.
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Do I start again with my ex-girlfriend?
Q. Do I start again with my ex-girlfriend? Ok, here we go - I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years about 9 months ago. I broke up with her because we fought alot about everything, but mainly because I was interested and curious about this other...
A. 20 August 2007: I think you need to let the current beau go then. And let her meet someone thats more suited to her. If the sexual chemistry isnt there, and its that important to you, which is fair enough, i wouldn't stick it out.
You know when the chemistry is g... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 20 August 2007: Im not even sure you should avoid talking to be honest. Its not like you hurt each other with betrayal or anything? You're not angry with each other are you? Whats wrong with keeping in touch by txt or calls? All i wouldnt want to do is sleep with ... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, but I really want to get back together
Q. hello all! I dumped my boyfriend just over a week ago i really love him but felt it was the right thing to do! He isnt ready to settle down yet and that is what i wanted! I still really love him and in the time i have been apart from him i ha...
A. 20 August 2007: Hi
Keep in touch with him, no pressure on him though & see what happens. What will be will be. I broke up with someone that was a lot younger & i knew he still had a lot of living to do. But i was 33 at the time & had 2 children so it was diff... (read in full...)
My online interest is kinda chubby and I am not sure how I feel about that
Q. I've been talking to this girl over the internet. She seems like a really nice person, and we get along.. great to be honest. I recently saw photos of her. She looked quite nice, but then I saw a few more that she hadn't posed for. Turns out she ...
A. 20 August 2007: Hi
So whats the alternative, get into something with someone that you dont fancy? Nah you cant do that mate.
Everybody is shallow to a certain extent. I dont even think thats the right word. And so we should be! If you dont particularly go for chub... (read in full...)
Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you paranoid?
Q. Am I the only one that finds that dearcupid makes me paranoid reading about all the different questions people ask(cheating with bosses, having sex with brothers and sisters etc) Am I the only one or does anyone else feel that dearcupid makes you ...
A. 20 August 2007: I think it could do if you dont put it into perspective. How boring would it be if the same amount of people just came on here asking why their relationships are so brilliant? see what im saying? We only hear from the people that have problems, ... (read in full...)
I slept with a guy who's engaged at a party... should I tell his girlfriend?
Q. There is a boy i really like, i was at a aparty last night and i ran into him, he took me upstairs and into his friends bedroom, we started kissing and making out, and i gave him head and he tity f***ed me, we then ended up having sex, and then ...
A. 19 August 2007: No i wouldnt. Chalk it up as experience. She will find out soon enough hes a snake. They always do in the end. Hopefully she will come to her sense then & not be in denial.
Thats another good reason its best to get to know someone before having sex ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to take me to a sex club and have sex with other people... but I don't want to!
Q. hello my husband at first sugested on having a 3sum for a while in the end i did mmf but now he wants to go to club to have sex with others i didnt feel comfortable about this but said yes to it we arrange to go. we got outside and i saw what typ...
A. 18 August 2007: Once again, agree with flower girl.
No one should do anything they are not comfortable with! Its a big no no! No way!
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He says if I dont go out with him he will find other girls to 'chill with'
Q. Since i have been with m boyfriend he has made going out with my friends a chore. He will call me all the time, give me a curfew..(usually no later than 2am) otherwise he s implies i am a girl of ill repute. it got to the point that i am now always ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
This guy is trying to control you.
All this curfew stuff is rubbish! And threatening with other girls, is just childish. He doesnt want that at all i shouldnt think! Another control tactic.
Ive been with guys before that make it so much hassle ... (read in full...)
Worried about my boyfriend's sly ex!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been with my 32 year old boyfriend for a year and a few months now. He has an ex wife and 2 children, a girl who is 10 and a boy who is 6. The ex wife used to sms him alot and send him picture messages of girls bums ectand ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
The sending rude txt is out of order, but obviously he needs to keep some contact with her because they have kids.
Blokes (and women) that have kids, really need to avoid getting in relationships with younger people that dont have them, because ... (read in full...)
Do I take a chance and get back with my ex?
Q. Help! I think I want to get back with partner and I know he definitely wants to make another go of it with me. We were together for 4 years and split in February though have kept in touch a few times by text. He's a really nice, honourable guy and ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
Ooooh a tricky one this.
Well, if you split on good terms & you think there is a possibility it will work this time, why not take the gamble?
Ive never actually got back with an ex so i have no idea what its like! Nearly did a couple of ye... (read in full...)
He talks about my sister when we are having sex.
Q. i have a boyfreind who is just a lil older than me. he is 24 and im 17 .we got along so well in the begining of our relationship and now its just falling apart it seems .he asked me if i wanted to have a threesome with my sister! i feel uncomfor...
A. 18 August 2007: Next time your in the sack, whisper things in his ear, like 'your dumped!'
Geez, what a loser! Never believe a man over your sister, unless she is a real drop out! I bet she is wondering what the hell you are doing with him??
Good luck!
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He talks about my sister when we are having sex.
Q. i have a boyfreind who is just a lil older than me. he is 24 and im 17 .we got along so well in the begining of our relationship and now its just falling apart it seems .he asked me if i wanted to have a threesome with my sister! i feel uncomfor...
A. 18 August 2007: Next time your in the sack, whisper things in his ear, like 'your dumped'
Geez, what a loser! Never believe a man over your sister, unless she is a real drop out!
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He's got no money and can't work because of his bad leg... so his solution is for me to sell my body (sex-wise) for money!
Q. i gt bk with my bf in april after breaking up in dec.we gt engagd recently and he took me to his country to meet hiz parents.he says he loves me and does nearly everything i say we plan a lovly future but the onlything is he does nt want to work ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
Flower girl said it all! Dont need to add anymore to that!
Jesus what the??! :o/
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Is giving a man oral a bad thing?
Q. Is giving blowjobs a bad thing? I've heard half and half but I really want to know so I won't do something I will regret....
A. 18 August 2007: Nope not at all. But only do it if you want to!
You are suppose to use a condom still to protect against std's but ive never known anyone to do that!
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He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
I wouldnt, but thats just me. How many times will he 'visit' the ex when you argue, and even if he doesnt, you will be wondering if he is.
I wouldnt be a door mat. Exes are a worse no no than anything. Sounds like she might always be on tap when... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesnt want me to talk to girls - EVER
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 11 months already (14 of this month, which has just passed), and I truly and deeply love her to death. 5 months into our relationship, I moved from Daly City, CA to Tracy, CA and here's where the problem ...
A. 18 August 2007: Its even worse if you're at school???? how the hell are you suppose to not talk to girls.
And the distance thing wasnt too clear to us in the Uk hehe.
But when you say you cant get through to her that you wouldnt hurt her, this is where you need... (read in full...)
I'm so scared I don't know what to do!
Q. I'm so scared I don't know what to do! My dad lives in England and I've live in Scotland all my life my dad was an alcoholic and abusive... A few months ago he got given a choice he would have to stop drinking or he would only have a few mont...
A. 18 August 2007: Oh sweetheart how awful. Is there any way you can get there? Its a horrible feeling of helplessness isnt it.
My heart goes out to you at this time.
Is there anone you can spend time with now, if you cant get to the hospital?
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Been sleeping with, and in love with a guy who has a girlfriend!
Q. I'm in love with this guy who has a girlfriend. We have been sleeping together for 8 months now. Almost two weeks ago he said he was going to leave her and be with me. He said just give him two weeks to end things with her. Well the two weeks is ...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
Thats probably because its the oldest one in the book...i will leave him/her soon. If they are going to, they will without mentioning it to you. And way before this length of time.
In my opinion, hes sleeping with her & telling her he loves he... (read in full...)
She is not as commited as I am
Q. Hello all. Fairly long dilemma/question, here goes…. My girlfriend and I are now approaching 4 months together. It has been both the best and most depressing time of my life. I am totally in love with her. I fell for her when she had a boyf...
A. 18 August 2007: Hi
Yes, move on. You started the relationship when she was with someone else, we have all done that at some point & its rare to ever last long. All people should have a period of adjustment after splitting with someone, or they are on a rebo... (read in full...)
I met up with my ex again and all the feelings came back but I haven't heard from him...
Q. Hi I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago but I still felt really strongly about him and I'm pretty sure he still felt the same about me. We broke up over something stupid and we were both idiots for not dealing with it. Anyway he has been ...
A. 18 August 2007: Thats something then!
BUT if i were you, i would hold off on the sleeping togther thing, which i expect wll be difficult, until he has said about getting back together, or i can see you feeling a tad used & that will definately send him the wron... (read in full...)
I've fell for him, and then he told me he was getting married.
Q. Hi Agony Aunt... Really hoping you can help me as i am in a bit of a confused state at the moment. About 5 weeks ago i started to chat to a guy online and we clicked instantly. We have chatted about anything and everything. And i could feel myself g...
A. 17 August 2007: Balls in your court at the end of the day Nessa but i seriously think you can do way better! Would be tragic to set yourself up for a fall with some guy whos getting married, you have never met after only 5 weeks.
Good luck.
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Are they in on it together?
Q. Ok, I have been dating my b/f for the past 4 years, and i am going through the 2nd time that I think he's cheating. The first time, he's all of a sudden texting this girl back and forth and talking to her all hours of the night. Every time I asked ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Ok the fact that you have seen the messages to her on his phone i am wondering if you are in denial & letting him talk you round?
Ok so you are together 24/7 is he talking to her on the net/web cam?
The txt messages and their content woul... (read in full...)
My 11 year old daughter is looking at porn on the internet.
Q. I found out my 11 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. She doesn't know I know yet. Should I say something to her? If so, what? And should I tell my wife first?...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Its a tricky one that. My son is 12 & as far as i know he hasnt looked up porn yet and i have wondered what i would do if he did. and im still none the wiser!
I would probably put a block on it, then have the chat with her!
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I've fell for him, and then he told me he was getting married.
Q. Hi Agony Aunt... Really hoping you can help me as i am in a bit of a confused state at the moment. About 5 weeks ago i started to chat to a guy online and we clicked instantly. We have chatted about anything and everything. And i could feel myself g...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Sweetheart dont even bother contacting him again~! Block n delete! Hes basically saying hes a liar, willing to marry someone he doesnt love, so screwing her life up, & when he comes back from shagging his new wife for a couple of weeks under the ... (read in full...)
He went to a strip club, it's upsetting.
Q. I have been going steady and am now engaged to a great guy. I do however have a problem which is causing great concern for me. I really love this man. I found out after a night out that he went to a strip club and this really upset me, since th...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
I wouldnt be happy with it either. If you're not comfortable with it, you need to tell him, and if hes worth his salt, he wont be going anywhere near strip clubs.
It shouldnt be a big deal to him to not.
Good luck.
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Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hes doing what most couples do when they split, thinking better the devil you know, stay in the safety net of someone hes been with and forgetting why you split in the first place. If he really was serious about possibly getting back together in the ... (read in full...)
How effective is the contraceptive injection??
Q. Me and my gf ave been having sex for about 3 months now and we have always used condoms, we both lost our virginity to each other so we know there are no std's or anything nasty.Its just as some of you may know its not always convinient to stop and ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Its Extremely reliable.
Every 3 months.
How does it work? Cant remember..Pass!
Doesnt decrease in protection No.
Possible mood swings (that stopped me having it in the end) can cause a bit of weight gain. periods can stop (a bonus i foun... (read in full...)
My boyfriend physically abuses me
Q. I really need help....I have been with my BF for 3yrs nearly and i just dont no wot to do. At 1st we would argue but he would blame it all on me, he'd make me feel really small from the things he would say to me and i found it hard to say stuf...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Forgot to say you could also call Refuge as well, seeing as you are in the Uk.
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Is a vaginal discharge normal?
Q. I have been having virginal discharge for 1 year and I have not accepted the fact it is normal. I want to have sex but what if that guy doesnt like it or its not normal? please help me a gurl without a mother. i dont no whats right and whats wrong?...
A. 17 August 2007: Its perfectly normal. Annoying! But normal.
You can buy those liner pads with wings. Not very romantic though i dont think! You're a bit young to be worrying about having sex though yet?
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I want to date women online
Q. I asked a female out on line cause I'm bi-curious and wanted to do some thing different,some thing out of the ordinary but she turned me down.Every since then which was yesterday I have been having a desire to a date a female(in general) on online ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Could be because on line there is a certain amount of detatchment & non commitment? If you are curious, it seems a safer bet doesnt it, to give it a try?
I dont know. Just hazzarding a guess.
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My girlfriend doesnt want me to talk to girls - EVER
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 11 months already (14 of this month, which has just passed), and I truly and deeply love her to death. 5 months into our relationship, I moved from Daly City, CA to Tracy, CA and here's where the problem ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
This is way too controlling. You have to be able to breathe! Its not fair to judge you on her past guys.
Dont let someone dictate to you who you can and cant talk to. Get a back bone & stand up for yourself.
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My boyfriend physically abuses me
Q. I really need help....I have been with my BF for 3yrs nearly and i just dont no wot to do. At 1st we would argue but he would blame it all on me, he'd make me feel really small from the things he would say to me and i found it hard to say stuf...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
I think you probably do, in fact yes, you do.
He wont take you seriously when you say if he does it again you are leaving because you said it & didnt stick with it.
You should of got out the first time to be honest. But thats hindsight fo... (read in full...)
I discovered pictures of an ex, over 4 years ago I believe which were all of her in posing in underwear.
Q. Hi There I am writing as in a new relationship - 4 months ish. I am totally infatuated with this guy and he seems just as keen but something is still niggling at me all the time telling me I couldn’t be as lucky to get someone I like this much l...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
I was terrible for comparing myself to things like that when i was your age! It does get better when you get older to be honest. Not wishing you to get older but you will know what i mean in 10 years hehe.
I think you just get more acceptin... (read in full...)
How can we be more discreet with our lovemaking?
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly a year and a half. I moved in with her a few months back due to situations at home. Her mum lets us slep together because she trusts us and she's known me all my life and me and her daughter ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi
Stick a sock in your girlfriends mouth! hehe
Well her mum knows you are having sex. She let you move in! But i know what you mean. Many moons ago my hubby moved in, when i was 16. I cant remember what we did to be honest! But go slower! ... (read in full...)
I met up with my ex again and all the feelings came back but I haven't heard from him...
Q. Hi I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago but I still felt really strongly about him and I'm pretty sure he still felt the same about me. We broke up over something stupid and we were both idiots for not dealing with it. Anyway he has been ...
A. 16 August 2007: Oh well, thats strange then. Couple of years ago me & an ex spent a couple of weeks txting & met up for a drink once to see if we wanted to get back together, but he is one of those guys that doesnt know what he wants when hes drunk. We came back ... (read in full...)
I met up with my ex again and all the feelings came back but I haven't heard from him...
Q. Hi I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago but I still felt really strongly about him and I'm pretty sure he still felt the same about me. We broke up over something stupid and we were both idiots for not dealing with it. Anyway he has been ...
A. 16 August 2007: Hi
I dont expect he was using you (if you're sure he isnt capeable of that) Maybe he is having second thoughts about getting back together. Was there any alcohol involved the night you got together?
I would bung him a casual txt & see if he repli... (read in full...)
I discovered pictures of an ex, over 4 years ago I believe which were all of her in posing in underwear.
Q. Hi There I am writing as in a new relationship - 4 months ish. I am totally infatuated with this guy and he seems just as keen but something is still niggling at me all the time telling me I couldn’t be as lucky to get someone I like this much l...
A. 16 August 2007: Hi
I wouldnt worry! Ive still got pics on my phone from my ex, in, um, little attire hehe and we split a couple of months ago, my choice, cant stand the bloke & certainly havent even looked at them. Just havent got round to deleting them. Ive got ... (read in full...)
Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 13 August 2007: Punishing you, is my bet. By the sounds of it. Hes annoyed about it & wont let it drop that easy.
OR he has lost his faith in love at the moment.
Just see how it goes.
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Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 12 August 2007: Sounds like he might do, but also sounds like he was just jealous of the new guy.
I expect he sees you as used goods now too. Isnt keen because you shared romantic moments with someone apart from him for a couple of months.
I guess it depends ... (read in full...)
Do I start again with my ex-girlfriend?
Q. Do I start again with my ex-girlfriend? Ok, here we go - I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years about 9 months ago. I broke up with her because we fought alot about everything, but mainly because I was interested and curious about this other...
A. 7 August 2007: I think the person below is spot on.
I was wondering if your age is printed wrong on here.
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