He makes me feel bad about myself constantly...is it supposed to be this way?
Q. Are relationships ment to be like this? I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend since I turned 15. I really do love him he just makes me feel bad about myself constantly. The other day he told me if we finished no one else would stay with me bec...
A. 11 August 2007: Hi
Deal with him by getting rid! Seriously you are on a hiding to nowhere with this guy. Hes way too immature to be dating anyone. He needs anger management. Its only a matter of time before it happens again. At your age there are going to be lots... (read in full...)
My wife has stopped having sex with me and now shows no physical affection at all!
Q. OK, where do I start...well, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply. I have been married for more than 6 years. We have a fantastic son of nearly 4. Soon after he was born my wife lost interest in sex. Thats how it started. Sinc...
A. 11 August 2007: Oh & i forgot to say, the reason she is probably withdrawing when it comes to cuddles is because she thinks that will lead to sex. Its a classic connection us females make!
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
My wife has stopped having sex with me and now shows no physical affection at all!
Q. OK, where do I start...well, I appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply. I have been married for more than 6 years. We have a fantastic son of nearly 4. Soon after he was born my wife lost interest in sex. Thats how it started. Sinc...
A. 11 August 2007: Hi
What a nightmare. Of course you dont want to cheat on your wife. Any decent person wouldnt & thats not a good option anyway.
I think you really need to get your wife to go see her doctor if she wont talk to you about it.
But you are going to... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy! Do I lie to myself and stay with him or let him go?
Q. i have been in a relationship for ten months with my current boyfriend and i am not sure if i should let him go or keep him around and lie to myself that im happy and everything will get better later on because right now i am very unhappy and i dont ...
A. 11 August 2007: I guess hes in denial a bit, doesnt wanna let go.
You dont have to be speaking about your ex for him to know you're still in love with him. And you said you were in your original note?
Im confused though, in your original note you're saying y... (read in full...)
I need weight loss diet tips on proper eating..any advice?
Q. Hi Im going on holiday soon and would like to loose some weight so i feel better about myself i have wanted to for ages now. the past 4 days i havn't been eating junk food and i have eat less (calorie wize). Does anyone know what types of food i ...
A. 10 August 2007: Another thing i forgot to say is have a sin day, once a week, where anything goes. No calorie counting. It keeps the metabolism on its toes & one day a week of looooooads of calories isnt enough to make you put on weight.
Its a good tip thats work... (read in full...)
If muscle weighs more than fat...then how am I to loose actual weight?
Q. i want to loose weight and im on a dieting site but its best to exercise aswell whilst eating better foods but then i will develop more muscle and muscle weighs more than fat and i have a goal to reach but by doing exercises muscle will develop and ...
A. 10 August 2007: When i gave up smoking, started using the lateral thigh trainer & started calorie counting to max of 1200 per day all at the same time, i didnt lose a pound on the scales after 4 weeks, i was gutted! Then i realised the fat was turning to muscle. ... (read in full...)
I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her.
Q. I thought my ex fiancee and I were just on a bit of a break, I didn't know he had met someone on the internet from another country and gone over to see her. The next time they met they married in a quickie marriage over there and he brought her back ...
A. 10 August 2007: Blimey sometimes i feel a bit sorry for the people in these things, like your ex.
Hes a prize idiot!
Who tells someone they want a break, takes off to another country only to marry someone on the 2nd date then string the scorned one along in such ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy! Do I lie to myself and stay with him or let him go?
Q. i have been in a relationship for ten months with my current boyfriend and i am not sure if i should let him go or keep him around and lie to myself that im happy and everything will get better later on because right now i am very unhappy and i dont ...
A. 10 August 2007: Hes bringing your ex up everyday because he knows you're not actually over him. But thats the gamble you take when you date someone so soon out a relationship. We've all been there & done that.
Be brave & do what you want. Dont pander to the emot... (read in full...)
I have several untrustworthy relationships, does that say something is wrong with me? If so, how do I fix it?
Q. Okay, I previously asked a question about how to tell if someone is a player. (thanks to all those who responded). I have since discovered that yes, the guy I was seeing and thinking about taking it to the next level was indeed a player. First of ...
A. 10 August 2007: My sister once said to me she is very sceptical of people that seem too perfect. Shes been happily married 10 years now to a great guy so i trust her judgement.
Instincts. Thats what gets me by. Ive only ever been with one guy that lied, and inst... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are a compulsive liar?
Q. For the past 3 years I have been lying every single day, about things from what I've eaten that day to telling a lad I'd had an abortion. My lies have got way out of hand, but I can't tell people I've lied. At the same time, I can't stop. I feel the ...
A. 10 August 2007: Yep you are.
Im not too sure how you would change it though if it has become part of your life. You might lose a lot of friends. Maybe slowly stop yourself lying from now on?
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I don't want him to think I'm easy but he is very fit. Wot do I do????
Q. I still realy like my ex but he is with someone else. We were together for a couple of months but I really liked him. He cheated on me with a girl, I would have still forgiven him but he ended it with me to be with her. A couple of months later ...
A. 10 August 2007: As long as hes fit thats all that matters.
Hehe im kiddin! No this guy is playing you & his current girlfriend both at the same time. He dumps her, gets with you, dumps you, gets with her. What a fun summer hes got in store!
I would delete his numb... (read in full...)
What is the consensus on the difference between men and women's differences in fantasy and drawing the line with including other people for visual stimulation versus tactile?
Q. I need some discussion on masturbation, my mate only wants sex with me 1-2 times a month but masturbates to porn almost daily, it has become a huge issue since I would like sex more often and feel sexually frustrated. Recently he told me that I ...
A. 10 August 2007: You havent got other parties involved if its only porn on line or in films for instance. Thats not an illness? And i dont agree that it leads onto worse perverted things?
Blimey that narrows the sane public down to about 2% of men & 70% of wome... (read in full...)
I need weight loss diet tips on proper eating..any advice?
Q. Hi Im going on holiday soon and would like to loose some weight so i feel better about myself i have wanted to for ages now. the past 4 days i havn't been eating junk food and i have eat less (calorie wize). Does anyone know what types of food i ...
A. 10 August 2007: Veg, veg, and more veg. Salad is good. Rice cakes for snacks. I lost half a stone just by keeping a diary on the pc of what i ate everyday & how many calories. For my height a safe amount were 1200 calories a day. But it all depends on your height, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated and I kept him. How do I trust him again?
Q. while i was in florida, my boyfriend of 2 an 1/2 years cheated on me...i found out 3 months later, and ever since then have not been the same. I have chosen to stay with him. I know he loves me and feels awful and he just wants it to go away, but i ...
A. 10 August 2007: You can never guarantee he wont do it again, only he knows that, but i think the way forward here might be talking to him & him answering any questions you have. I know he says he wants to forget it but you might need to know everything. Because ... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, when we have sex for the first time, will it hurt?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we are getting near to the point in our relationship where we both want to have sex! I have heard that it will hurt my gf and I know that those rumours are true but I have also heard that it will hurt me as ...
A. 10 August 2007: How do you tell her you want to use protection?
You make it clear you wont be having sex with her unless you do!
I wouldnt mind betting it will hurt her less if you use a condom anyway. Lubrication on it.
She might be thinking you dont want to... (read in full...)
Dating him for just 2 weeks and already ...he wants to propose! Any advice?
Q. Hi! I'm new on here.. I was just browsing, and found this site. Anyways, moving on... I just started dating this guy, and we are boyfriend and girlfriend. He really likes me, and I really like him... and of course we think we are in love. He's re...
A. 10 August 2007: Hi
20 isnt that young. I got married at 18. Although i met him when i was 15. The age isnt a problem. I split with a guy recently, had been with him a year. After 5 weeks he rang me drunk saying maybe we're not suited cuz you dont love me like i lo... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, when we have sex for the first time, will it hurt?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins and we are getting near to the point in our relationship where we both want to have sex! I have heard that it will hurt my gf and I know that those rumours are true but I have also heard that it will hurt me as ...
A. 9 August 2007: Well it was many moons ago i went through that one and my husband to be wasnt a virgin himself at the time but yes, it did hurt. And yes it did hurt him a bit, even though he wasnt a virgin. You're breaking through a piece of skin. It might bleed a ... (read in full...)
I left him a message 5 days ago and he hasn't got back to me, I feel silly; what should I do now?
Q. ok following advice about this guy i would like to be friends with he works around the corner from me we always smile and say hi blah blah, well i did want to follow the advice and just ask him out for a friendly drink but i just couldnt do it so i ...
A. 9 August 2007: Oh blimey how nerve wracking! I dont know, ummmm, is it possible hes not single? I think you did the right thing asking him out, you would of kicked yourself otherwise!
I might well go in there & do just that, say is that a no to the drink then... (read in full...)
I don't like the fact that he smokes pot, what should I do?
Q. Hey, wonder if you can give me some advice. I've known this guy for about two years, and we've been going out for a few months. Anyway we've always been pretty good together but there's one thing that bugs me a lot about him, he smokes weed. He ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
I would be the same as you, not happy.
Weed/skunk etc causes paranoia & mood swings so i think you will find that might be whats causing those, not the other way round. But it wouldnt be unusual for someone that smokes a lot of it to think it... (read in full...)
I am crazy about her, but she wont leave her boyfriend
Q. Hello all. Some much needed advice. I have had an affair for three months with a girl at work, who i began to get to know a good half year ago. She worked in a different office and we used to constantly e-mail, then when it was gettin out of hand ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
Im getting alarm bells ringing here & i dont know why.
I think it was towards the end when you said you back off from her & she draws you in again.
But only you know the real her, and her situation. Is there children involved? Does she live wit... (read in full...)
The second time the guy's wife came to my house and showed me a text message on his cell phone from my wife, saying she loved him.
Q. My wife cheats on me constantly, we've been together for 15 years. I just caught her for the 3rd time in the past 8 months with the same guy from her work. At first she said nothing was going on, I caught them flirting. The second time the guy's ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
Your wife is a serial adultress. Plain & simple.
There is no easy way out of this. You have a home & child together. But how can you go on like this? Your self esteem will be rock bottom no doubt after years of emotional abuse.
When you ... (read in full...)
What is the consensus on the difference between men and women's differences in fantasy and drawing the line with including other people for visual stimulation versus tactile?
Q. I need some discussion on masturbation, my mate only wants sex with me 1-2 times a month but masturbates to porn almost daily, it has become a huge issue since I would like sex more often and feel sexually frustrated. Recently he told me that I ...
A. 9 August 2007: I dont think its ever a good idea to bring in a third party (as in reality) porn is quite different to relaity.
As for the visual aspect, its a well known fact women were never built to be as visual as men. Thats why there are many more top shel... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for me even if I get to 40 years old?
Q. Hi everybody, i am now 36 years old, i've got my past, i also have my 3 children from the past. im taking care of them alone finacially, everything. i got separated from my last relationship last 3 years ago. i never been married. this time i have ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
Yes! I hope so because i am the same age as you!
I am actually looking forward to being a bit older when i meet my soul mate. I am banking on them being that bit more mature & less a risk! If you know what i mean hehe
ive got 2 children & i... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 9 August 2007: Do you really care?
people will look down on lots of professions as much as porn models. Its just the way life is.
c xxxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
What are some telltale signs that someone is a player?
Q. Just because I am curious, what are some telltale signs that someone is a player?...
A. 9 August 2007: Phones always on silent
Takes phone to the bathroom
Leaves phone in diff room
Recieving lots of txt (supposedly from the same sex)
Not being able to contact them the times you dont see them
Avoiding certain places
leaving places early ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I do not fancy him anymore and cannot face having sex with him, he does not turn me on at all, in fact it is more of a chore. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend since I was 17, I am now 23. At the time I did not think that anyone would like me and was happy that someone did. Recently I have been getting a lot of attention from men and it makes me wonder if I settled down too ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
Sounds like you have become bored & are wondering if the grass is greener elsewhere.
As you are young, and was young when you met him, i would say i think you need to get out there & live a bit now by the sounds of it.
Only you will know th... (read in full...)
Dating him for just 2 weeks and already ...he wants to propose! Any advice?
Q. Hi! I'm new on here.. I was just browsing, and found this site. Anyways, moving on... I just started dating this guy, and we are boyfriend and girlfriend. He really likes me, and I really like him... and of course we think we are in love. He's re...
A. 9 August 2007: Alarm bells would be ringing.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
He's violent when he drinks.
Q. please help me ive just split up from my boyfriend im so gutted i love him so much we have spent alot of time together he has alot on his plate i have been with him for a year and a half he has never settled with any of his past girlfriends he gets ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi
Why do you want to do something about this? How come you dont want more from life than be with someone that drinks & gets violent? My ex said his ex girlfriend hit him when she got drunk, he thought it was not her fault cuz it was only when she ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy! Do I lie to myself and stay with him or let him go?
Q. i have been in a relationship for ten months with my current boyfriend and i am not sure if i should let him go or keep him around and lie to myself that im happy and everything will get better later on because right now i am very unhappy and i dont ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi I dont think you're actually in love with the guy you're with now. Ive been in the same positiion before, and it wont get any better. You probably werent ready to meet someone new when you did. Only you know if you want to be with this guy, but... (read in full...)
IS my ex bf still obsessed with me, as my friends pointed out?
Q. Hey hey everyone :) I'm pretty new to this, and hopefully you can help me out. I is a tiny lil bit freaked out, and I need your advice on this. It's really gettin stuck in my head and I'm tired of it... Ok so he dumped me over a couple ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi I would say he is finding it hard to let go. Ive got an ex from 5 weeks ago sitting outside the pub right next to my house with my brother a few afternoons a week. Not saying they want us back, they just cant quite move on properly. Its c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been texting other women in secret!
Q. ive just found out recently that my boyfriend has been texting other women in secret and it has crushed me i have been trying to forgive him as he said there was nothing in it.all the trust i had has gone and i have a knot in my stomach the size of ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hi I cant stand any lies no matter what they are. You have every right to be angry. I had a guy tell me he kept things from me that were innocent because i would of reacted bad so it was easier to not say. I said to him, i didnt trust you, you wen... (read in full...)
Is my bf's depression because of me?
Q. Hello, please help' I been with my bf for the last 3 years now' but 2 months ago he seemed to change, he said he was depressed and I really don't know how to deal with this. I miss him the way he is very much. but I cant force him to be the same if ...
A. 9 August 2007: Communication. Thats the only way you will find out.
Depression can have numerous causes. Dont think the worst!
Have a proper sit down chat with him.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Can a period change dates?
Q. About a week ago my boyfriend and i had sex and i usually have my period during the first two weeks of the month and i still havent had it. We used protection and he still did not have a orgasm inside of me. I have had my period change dates ...
A. 9 August 2007: Its unlikely you are pregnant then.
You deffo used protection?
At your age periods can be all over the shop.
Dont panic!
Soon as you think you're due, take a test. You can get a false negative but not a false positive, so if it says you're not ... (read in full...)
I can't get in touch with him after I confronted him about his infidelity. What do I do?
Q. I have been dating a guy for about 8 months, during the 4th month of our relationship I found out that he had a girlfriend. I continued dating him, since he said that it was not anything serious with him and the other girl. Well, recently his ...
A. 9 August 2007: Oh sweetheart, you need to let go & let this woman take the brunt of his playa ways. Shes stuck with him, having his baby, you think, anyway.
Even if its not true, what does she want to be with someone thats playing 2 women?
Nah, you're worth mo... (read in full...)
Lack of sex and she is in contact with her ex's.
Q. Ok, this is a bit of detailed problem, but bear with me, I feel if i set the scene a little it will give the scope for better advice (well I hope because I'm really at my wit's end). I've been seeing a girl since last september when we started ...
A. 9 August 2007: Are you mad????
Sorry, that wasnt the best way to start this off but really, this is crazy. Its not like you're talking a couple of months here, this has been going on coming up a year.
What are you doing?
Reading between the lines, and lets fac... (read in full...)
Jumping straight into a relationship after a fifteen year one.
Q. I just wanted to know opinions on a partner breaking off a long term relationship (15 yrs +) to immediately start a new relationship, thats if you were cheating. What are the pros and cons of starting such a relationship? ...
A. 8 August 2007: Rebound. thats the first thing that springs to mind. Not saying it wont work. I went from my marriage (was with him 5 years in total) to someone new straight away & was with him 9 years.
Why do you ask?
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I've lost the love of my life... !
Q. ive lost the love of my life and have no one to talk to we did everything together we even said tht we wanted to spend the rest of our lifes together then i the last night i saw her we said our goodbyes and we both said love u and she said she ...
A. 8 August 2007: Sounds like she is having a temper tantrum because you made other plans to me.
Give her a couple of days then see what happens. Dont go contacting her!
Be strong! Dont be creeping and pandering to her. You will never know whats going on then. Th... (read in full...)
My wife is accusing me of visiting a dirty website when I didn't!
Q. My wife found a dirty website on our computer and thinks it was me that looked on it but it wasn't. She is going mad at me and says its like cheating. Even if i did look at other girls in that way is it classed as cheating? Is my wife over reacting? ...
A. 8 August 2007: Hi
Tricky one because if to her its cheating then it is!
Everyones got different bounderies in their own relationship & if somethings not a problem to them, its not a problem. Vise versa.
Anyone else that could of looked on that web site?
Pop u... (read in full...)
I don't want to rush her but the bottom line is that I'm completely in love with this girl.. !
Q. Last June I picked up the phone and called a friend I went to high school with. I literally hadn't seen or spoken to her for 12 years. We went out for drinks and since then we've been spending time together at least once a week (maybe a little ...
A. 8 August 2007: It is a good sign yes!
Just go with the flow.
She sounds cool.
Good luck
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I have put an end to contacting her. Was that the right decision?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm afraid I did something very stupid yet again, and this time I think it has really blown things apart. *Check my column to hear about my situation* Last night I dreamt about her. It was us getting back together. First thing I di...
A. 8 August 2007: I think you are like me and you think too much! hehe
Seriously, stop trying to analize it all. She might be being childish, she might well hate the bones of you, either way, i would quit looking at her myspace & try and forget her.
Like someone ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my ex? Not even being intimate with other girls has worked!
Q. I am having serious problems getting over someone. I feel like I am obsessed with the other person. We dated for 4 months and broke up 6 months ago. We were very intimate and I have never felt a connection to someone like that since my 1st which was ...
A. 8 August 2007: Theres a saying here in the Uk, If something seems too good to be true, thats usually because it is!
Be safe xxxxxxxxx... (read in full...)
I have put an end to contacting her. Was that the right decision?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm afraid I did something very stupid yet again, and this time I think it has really blown things apart. *Check my column to hear about my situation* Last night I dreamt about her. It was us getting back together. First thing I di...
A. 8 August 2007: Hi
You cant go wrong by giving her space now.
Shes made it perfectly clear she doesnt want to reconsile the relationship, so no contact is the best way forward.
I doubt very much she is 'over it' already. I split from a year long r/s just over a ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my ex? Not even being intimate with other girls has worked!
Q. I am having serious problems getting over someone. I feel like I am obsessed with the other person. We dated for 4 months and broke up 6 months ago. We were very intimate and I have never felt a connection to someone like that since my 1st which was ...
A. 7 August 2007: Well some things just aren't meant to be sweetheart and this seems to be one of them. If you split a while ago & shes not shown any signs of wanting to get back together, you really do need to move on.
We cant make people love us. If we could i woul... (read in full...)
How do I get over my ex? Not even being intimate with other girls has worked!
Q. I am having serious problems getting over someone. I feel like I am obsessed with the other person. We dated for 4 months and broke up 6 months ago. We were very intimate and I have never felt a connection to someone like that since my 1st which was ...
A. 7 August 2007: Hi
It sounds like you are building this woman up to be something shes not & its clouding you. If you were only together 4 months i wouldnt of thought it could be anything more than an obsession after having split 6 months ago.
You didnt say the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to rush her but the bottom line is that I'm completely in love with this girl.. !
Q. Last June I picked up the phone and called a friend I went to high school with. I literally hadn't seen or spoken to her for 12 years. We went out for drinks and since then we've been spending time together at least once a week (maybe a little ...
A. 7 August 2007: So my question is... should I just relax, not make any moves, play it cool and wait it out... see what happens?
Yes...This one!!
She sounds lovely. Very honest up front person. Well worth the wait dont you think???
Good luck
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
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