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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My ex fiance is now back in touch with me and our two daughters after years of abscence. He started off with good intentions, but now only seems to call me. (not the girls). He always promises the girls things, and time to spend with them, but usually lets them down. Lately he has been asking about my nights out with my friends, if I see other men etc, and gets very moody about it. One minute he says he's not happy with his wife and doesn't love her, the next he says he's not sure what will happen. Is he just confused with seeing us again or does he still love me?
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (24 August 2007):
 Hi
Sounds like hes doing the classic, move into something else before finishing the previous. People do it because they cant face being on their own & its easier to go from one to another straight away.
I would be very careful. You could have a yo yo on your hands here.
If he is their father you need to encourage the visitation, if he isnt, i would stop responding to him.
It could get messy other wise.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, Nevalearn  +, writes (24 August 2007):
Hi there, Sounds to me like he still has strong feelings for you. My ex was like that, used the kids as an excuse, he wanted the whole package, me and the kids, wasn't to fussed about having them on thier own, always letting them down etc. As they get older they will actually get used to it and not expect to much from him.You must set clear boundaries for him and make it clear to him exactly what you want and don't want. Unless you want him back, then thats a completely different story!!
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