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*cecream
writes: My husband has been using sex lines, we haven't even been married a year! but have been together 9 years. I feel so betrayed. I'm not unadventurous and we have always had a good sex life. Like I said I just feel so hurt, Not by the act itself but all the lies. He ran up a £300+ bill in my name and when I checked back dated calls had occurred, they matched days that we had had sex or even special days one was our 9 year anniversary. He has started seeing a relate counsellor but I just can't trust him - I have never felt this hurt. It has been 3 months since I found out and still no easier. Will I gain his trust, what should I do, I love my husband and want things to work?
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reader, icecream +, writes (21 August 2007):
icecream is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer - yes his relate counsellor has asked that I go and see a counselor and then we have couple counselling, just really want it to work- Thanks for your advice -I feel better just getting it off my chest xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (21 August 2007):
Hi
How awful. Well, the fact he is going to relate is good. Unfortunately there was something missing in his life, probably not completely to do with sex even, if things are ok on that side for you both?
He will find out what that is, through relate.
I am surprised they havent suggested couple counselling though. His counsellor now wont do that as he/shes been seeing him on his own, but he/she should be suggesting you see someone new together, because i think that might be the only way you will be able to move on.
Hope it works out ok.
C xxxxx
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