Are are doomed to be better if we broke up and lived our separate lives?
Q. I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years. She has a young daughter (aged 8) who I look after as if she was my own. Earlier this year I discovered that she had been texting, e-mailing, etc several men. The messages were suggestive (by them and her) an...
A. 17 October 2007: Hi
Blimey sounds very similar to what im going through at the moment.
As it happens i split from someone about the same sort of time as you, maybe a couple of weeks earlier.
We too are on talking terms and have spent some time together wit... (read in full...)
Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hes doing what most couples do when they split, thinking better the devil you know, stay in the safety net of someone hes been with and forgetting why you split in the first place. If he really was serious about possibly getting back together in the ... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage and involved with a neighbour.. what should I do?
Q. I married my best friend in 1996. Although physical attraction was not a priority for me, I do love this man as he's good and kind.We do not have children. We probably would have plodded on had I not met a man 15 years older who happens to live in ...
A. 13 August 2007: Ive been there & done that too, with the guy thats dependant on you. I was in that situation for 9 years & had 2 kids with him. I made all the decisions in the relationship, where we lived, where we went etc. He was just that sort of perosn. And i ... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage and involved with a neighbour.. what should I do?
Q. I married my best friend in 1996. Although physical attraction was not a priority for me, I do love this man as he's good and kind.We do not have children. We probably would have plodded on had I not met a man 15 years older who happens to live in ...
A. 13 August 2007: Hi
Well there might well come a time when he does meet someone special?
Maybe you should bite the bullet & ask him where you would stand if you had split with your other half, totally not connected to him of course. See what he says?
But if yo... (read in full...)
Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 13 August 2007: Punishing you, is my bet. By the sounds of it. Hes annoyed about it & wont let it drop that easy.
OR he has lost his faith in love at the moment.
Just see how it goes.
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Should I try to continue this relationship with my second cousin?
Q. i have a bf but he's my 2nd cousin.we're very far apart but we still have a communication by cellphone.. how many times i tried to forget him but i cant!!we love each other but i feel guilty!! but i really love him and i know he loves me!! what will ...
A. 12 August 2007: In the Uk second cousins are legal. But you would need to find out there where you are?
The distance thing is an issue though isnt it.
I would say thats your main problem.
Good luck.
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I have a small freckle on my penis. How do I get rid of it? Is this normal?
Q. I have had a small freckle on my penis all my life. How can i get rid of this and is it normal?...
A. 12 August 2007: Keep it! Its unique! Girls will love it. Personalised penis!
Seriously, i reckon it would be kinda cute!
If you do want rid though the doc would probably remove it. Not sure if you would get that on the NHS though. Worth an ask.
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She's had bad relationships in the past but now our good relationship doesn't have the spark she wants.
Q. I had dated a girl for 7 weeks. She said I was perfect for her and everything she wanted, but something was missing. A spark, passion and she does not understand why because she was in bad relationships before and she knows those relationships ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Hmmm tricky one. Something isnt right in this relationship, shes not falling for you by the sounds of it for some reason. I could be wrong so dont hold me to it obviously! Buit if that is the case, it might have a lot to do with the past rela... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend just asked me if I want to "mess around"
Q. Hi there, I've just received a text from my ex boyfriend asking if we want to mess around..! We broke up about 6 months ago and we've 'messed around' once since then. I do still really like him and I know that we could never get back together be...
A. 12 August 2007: If you havent got feelings for him & just want a bit of fun, then i wouldnt worry what anyone else thinks! What about if he eventually meets someone new while hes 'messing around' with you, and decides he wants to be faithful to her, are you cool ... (read in full...)
I'm in a loveless marriage and involved with a neighbour.. what should I do?
Q. I married my best friend in 1996. Although physical attraction was not a priority for me, I do love this man as he's good and kind.We do not have children. We probably would have plodded on had I not met a man 15 years older who happens to live in ...
A. 12 August 2007: Nightmare!
Well this older guy doesnt want to get hurt & hats off to him for standing his ground! If he had a downer about women & had been treated bad in the past, why would he put himself up for a fall in the future? He sounds a very sensible guy.... (read in full...)
My daughter is going out with other men while I look after her baby!
Q. My daughter is in a relationship and has a baby, recently my other daughter told me she is going out with other men and whilst I have the baby too, and I thought she was out with a girlfriend, what shall I say or do about this? Her partner is a ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
I have a mate that used to do that. Her hubby was in the army & she would get her mum to babysit & go out on the pull. Her mum didnt ever find out though. Her & her hubby eventually split.
Doesnt sound like your daughter is too keen on her part... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about the drop off in sex?
Q. i am a 21yr old male and i have been in a relationship for a little over 8 months. when we first met the sexual attraction to one another was unbelievable, but lately i fear that the passion is being lost. when we first met we both were only doing ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Probably not, considering you dont see too much of each other. You dont want everytime you see each other for it to focus just on sex, maybe thats what your girlfriend is thinking? If someone saw their partner 5 times a week they would prob... (read in full...)
Why would he give her the impression that we are close to splitting up? Does he want to start something?
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years has always wanted to keep in touch with an ex girlfriend and has done on and off by texting each other as she lives in another country. This to me as such isn't a problem but I always got the feeling that there is something ...
A. 12 August 2007: I would feel like you, that there is way more to them than meets the eye.
And maybe he is letting her know he could be available to see if he has a chance with her.
If they havent got children with an ex i can never see the need to stay in touch re... (read in full...)
The guy i am seeing has a pregnant girlfriend, what should i do?
Q. I've been seeing a lad that I've really started to like but he also has a girlfriend but the real problem is she's pregnant now but I started seeing him before we knew this but by that time I really really liked him, it all got too much for me the ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
I agree with the other answers. The poor woman. Hes gotta sort this ou. I would be less selfish now there is a child involved and back off from them.
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I've got a sore bum!
Q. ok this is really embarrassin but i hav a serious problem. it might be nothing but i hav a really sore but hole. i think i may hav seen blood. it doesnt look very red. my mum is a nurse so if i have 2 i could ask her but i don't really want to. does ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Probably piles. In fact very probably. Should get it checked out really though. Or try some stuff from the chemist first & if it gets no better then speak to your mum. That will also make it itch too if its piles.
Only other thing is stress c... (read in full...)
He acts young so does that make my relationship with a 26 year old ok (I'm 14)... ?
Q. Is it ok to have a relationship with a guy whose age gap is 12yrs.older than you? I'm 14 and he's 26... I mean, he looks like a teenager and sometimes acts like one... and we can relate to some things......
A. 12 August 2007: Here in the Uk you cant have sex legally at 14. I dont understand why a guy of 26 would want a 14 year old.
He must be very immature.
But he would be breaking the law in this country if he had sex with a 14 year old.
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I couldn't... but could she?
Q. i had sex with my girlfriend last night.i was drunk so i couldnt feel anything, but she was sober.do you think she felt anything?...
A. 12 August 2007: I should think so yes? As long as it actually happened?
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For the past 4 years I have had a relationship with a married man...
Q. For the past 4 years I have had a relationship with a married man. I didn't know he was married when we first met and in fact he was also seeing another woman. After a furious row when I found out we split up but I had fallen hook line and sinker ...
A. 12 August 2007: I think hes got his mum fooled as much as you by the sounds of it.
Not saying he doesnt love you, but he doesnt actually know what he wants i bet, of course hes sleeping with his wife. Thats the oldest one in the book. This way, hes buying time... (read in full...)
I've been married for 8 months now and never really wanted to marry the guy because I'm not in love with him. How do I take a long walk?
Q. I've been married for 8 months now and never really wanted to marry the guy because I'm not in love with him. How do I take a long walk? Don't wanna hurt anyone. I'm in love with a married man....
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Bit of a mess isnt it.
If you didnt love him why go that far?
Is the married guy likely to leave his wife too?
You havent given many details so hard to say anymore.
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What good first liners can i say to ask a girl out. Secondly what are good places to go to on a first date?
Q. i was at a party last night and there was a really attractive girl there. the problem was that i couldn't get the courage to ask her out, even with a bit of alcohol down me. Anyway it's too late now to ask her out but I just need some advice. ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Not too sure us girls like one liners these days. We much prefer the direct approach.
Just be brave & strike up a convo about ahything at all! If she likes you she wont remember what you said first anyway trust me hehe
Good first dates i woul... (read in full...)
Should I be having sex this young?
Q. ok well me and my boyfriend jus started goin out and i'm 14 and he is 19 but we were friends forever but now he wants to have sex without using a condom.he says he knows when to pull it out is that possible and should i be haveing sex this young?...
A. 12 August 2007: Depends on the law in your state? Over here in the Uk you need to be 16.
The withdrawel method is a dangerous one & what about infections?
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How can I get that close relationship back again?
Q. I have just came out of a very emotionaly abusive relationship. Before the relationship started I had a really close male friend, who was the best. Very supporting and we just 'cicked'. We were realy close. My abusive bf however saw him as a threat ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
That commonly happens in controlling relationships.
You might not be able to get it back. But i think your male friend should be able to understand that friendships do go a bit on the wayside when relationships start up.
Its obvious you ... (read in full...)
Something's broken... I still love her so much and know I want to be with her but I don't know how to 'fix' us?!!
Q. Hey, so this is my first question on here so go easy... My girlfriend and I have been going out for three years in Semptember, before that we had been friends for about six years and I would still consider her as my best friend as well as my ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Its probably to do with the fact you spent some time apart & got used to it. now you are getting on each others nerves? Seeing as you did so well at keeping it alive when you were in different countries, dont lose that ability now, even thou... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 12 August 2007: Oh dont get me wrong, ive made my mistakes by replying to his txt when we first split & raring up at him when he tried to say sorry for lying, that just riled me even more for some reason! But like i said, it was prob cuz i didnt love him, and ive ... (read in full...)
Tested my boyfriend with texts from a "mystery admirer"... and he's arranged a date with her!
Q. I've been seeing on and off (cos of lack of time) this guy for 3years. He was and says he is so into me loves me very much; in the past i found 'his love' a bit suffocating. However recently I decided that i will give a good go to a relationship ...
A. 12 August 2007: Should always trust your instincts.
What an interesting read.
I did a similar thing to someone a few yrs ago but was only seeing him 5 weeks & didnt bother going to meet him as the mystery woman, let him know he was dumped beforehand.
But i thi... (read in full...)
What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?
Q. What should a wife do when her husband is going to prostitutes?...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
She should get out, and fast.
Risk of std's. Lying. Cheating. Its nasty. I would take whats mine & leave him instantly. No sorrys & letting him worm his way back.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Are are doomed to be better if we broke up and lived our separate lives?
Q. I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years. She has a young daughter (aged 8) who I look after as if she was my own. Earlier this year I discovered that she had been texting, e-mailing, etc several men. The messages were suggestive (by them and her) an...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
I persnally think the only way you will stand any chance of getting through this as a couple is for joint counselling.
The lone counselling didnt help her did it.
Doesnt sound like she wants to be having sex with anyone else, just the need for... (read in full...)
Feeling odd after boyfriend told me about three some three years ago. Please help!
Q. Hi - My boyfriend who I've known for 18 months told me about something he did about 7 years ago which has left me feeling really odd towards him. He said he'd been out drinking with two female friends and a male friend. Three of them went back to ...
A. 12 August 2007: I had something similar happen with my ex.
He told me years ago when he was a teen he was having an affair with a married woman, who were friends of the family. One night him and this girl & her husband and some girl her husband was seei... (read in full...)
Do I be selfish and end it now or wait until he is on his feet and can make something of his life?????
Q. I am stuck in a marriage of 12 years with 2 children, my husband has always put me and my children 2nd to everybody else, only now I feel so stupid that I have put up with it so long. I have just changed my career and have met loads of lovely ...
A. 12 August 2007: You need to remove the guy at work out the equasion.
Ive been in a similar situation to you. There is never a good time to split. My husband was a lazy so n so & didnt work. I started a good job, within months i knew i wanted out, didnt have chil... (read in full...)
Help me to find myself
Q. I love my girlfriend to an extent where i have sacrificed my friends, likings, studies, though she didn't expect me to do so. she wanted to me to be myself. Now i have lost myself only thing i am doing is thinking about her, her safety and worry but ...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
Its never good to put all your eggs into one basket & not have much contact with friends. I have done the same thing with all the guys ive been with. Not saying they made me like that, it kind of ended up happening naturally. I think i was just... (read in full...)
Ok so how DO you pash?
Q. i have never pashed a guy before and my boyfriend wants me to pash him. i want to aswell but dont know how to and what to do. how do you pash?...
A. 12 August 2007: Pash?
I wouldnt mind knowing too!
Waits for replies...
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After I went down on him and we had sex...he dropped me off at my house and he didn't even get my number! Any advice?
Q. So last night a whole bunch of us got together and drank. I ended up hooking up with my friend's friend who I actually just met that night. I slept over at his house and we basically made out all night and I went down on him...I'm so confused now ...
A. 12 August 2007: In my younger years i did have a one nighter once & he left and we didnt swap numbers. He put his number through my door the following monday. And i dated him for one turbulent year haha so i guess you never know.
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He said that "pulling out" would work but I'm not so sure... ?
Q. Im a freshman at my school and i just met dis guy friend dis past year and i guess were more than friends now because we just had sex without protection but he said "pulling out" would work. But im a little nervous......
A. 12 August 2007: The withdrawel method is about as much use as a chocolate saucepan to be honest.
You would still have pre cum inside you & thats able to get you pregnant too.
Bad way of avoiding getting pregnant. Besides the std risks!
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Having a hot and cold relationship with my ex... do you think he still loves me?
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I dated for two years. After our two years came and went, I broke up with him. We were constantly arguing, and I was constantly wondering if I truely wanted to be with him. After I broke the news that I wanted time to myself, ...
A. 12 August 2007: Sounds like he might do, but also sounds like he was just jealous of the new guy.
I expect he sees you as used goods now too. Isnt keen because you shared romantic moments with someone apart from him for a couple of months.
I guess it depends ... (read in full...)
After I went down on him and we had sex...he dropped me off at my house and he didn't even get my number! Any advice?
Q. So last night a whole bunch of us got together and drank. I ended up hooking up with my friend's friend who I actually just met that night. I slept over at his house and we basically made out all night and I went down on him...I'm so confused now ...
A. 12 August 2007: The downfalls of casual sex with someone you have only just met.
Yes it was a one nighter for him.
I would watch the drinking & not hook up with blokes on the first night, unless you dont mind one nighters of course.
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He's cheated on me and now they are official. So why is he still living with me?
Q. At the start of this year i found out my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me! It's now August and now he's "officially" in a relationship with this other woman. The thing is he's still with me too! She thinks he moved out months ago but he's ...
A. 11 August 2007: Is this a joke?
Make the decision for him & turf him out! Hes done a good job on you over the last 6 years hasnt he. I wouldnt put up with that, but i expect hes ground you down so you have no self repsect by the sounds of it.
Do yourself a favour... (read in full...)
What is this discharge I have..it's scaring me!
Q. well Since i was 7 or 8 i have had this clear stuff come out my vagina and now its turned brownish and i havnt started my peroid yet and im getting really scared about it what is it please help and quick ...
A. 11 August 2007: Really no need to panic. Your are changing into a woman! You should have your mum or relative talk to you about it though. But it is quite normal when you start getting 'older' its annoying! But normal! You might be starting to get ready to start ... (read in full...)
Am I being messed around????
Q. I've been seeing this bloke for about 5 weeks now and really like him, he works a lot and has to travel quite a bit but am having trouble with the fact that I never know where he is from one day to the next and always contact him when he is busy, I ...
A. 11 August 2007: Possibly. Although he might well have a demanding job.
Its really hard to tell in the early days isnt it.
I would say go with your instincts. Im always saying that! But i honestly believe they can be spot on.
Ive been in touch with a guy for the ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he could do this and I'm heart broken all over again!
Q. I need some advice - split from my ex 12 months ago due to him cheating and drinking! He has kept in touch with me every day even! I tried changing my phone number so he then just turned up at my house. Last weekend I gave in and slept with him...
A. 11 August 2007: Oh & by the way, my ex was an alcoholic too. Not violent or drinking first thing in the morning but every night.
I dont know about you, but i dont particularly want to end my days with someone thats got cirhossis (cant spell that) of the liver & ha... (read in full...)
I don't understand why he could do this and I'm heart broken all over again!
Q. I need some advice - split from my ex 12 months ago due to him cheating and drinking! He has kept in touch with me every day even! I tried changing my phone number so he then just turned up at my house. Last weekend I gave in and slept with him...
A. 11 August 2007: You need to distance yourself again from this guy.
Ask him, no TELL him you dont want to hear from him, hes not the guy for you, and you want to move on now. I had to do this recently. I changed my mobile number & he rang the land line, so i had ... (read in full...)
I am terrified of the thought of her being with someone else, whenever this thought crosses my mind I begin to cry.
Q. Hello I am writing to see if someone can help me, me and my girlfriend recently broke up and I still am very much in love with her. We talk as friends on a daily basis and I have told her that I wanted to be with her again and that I still love ...
A. 11 August 2007: No contact at all! Sounds final, and it is! But seriously, its the only way you will move on. I split with my ex numerous times, only to try & stay mates for the childrens sake (mine adored his) but it just doesnt work to be honest. You end up ... (read in full...)
I'm fed up of having casual sex, I want a boyfriend.
Q. I think i'm falling for this guy... He told me the other night that he was into me and also said he would love to "have fun" with me. The thing is, this guy is gay...(I'm a girl). He said although he's gay he likes a very select few girls. I'm very ...
A. 11 August 2007: Then i wouldnt think this is the guy for you.
Casual sex is alright, but i know what you mean. Ive tried it a couple of times when you know theres nothing more gonna come of it, and it wasnt for me.
But this guy you're talking about is Bi. If he wa... (read in full...)
Can you imagine feeling this way for someone for the past 9-10 years and not being able to be with this person.
Q. I am in love with a married man. He is my ex-boyfriend who I kept in contact with for the past 10 years. He got married 4 years ago. I had a baby 5 years ago. We kept in contact before he met his wife and always had deep hidden feelings for one ...
A. 11 August 2007: Blimey what a nightmare.
Im not getting why you didnt get back together a long time ago? I suppose the timing was always wrong?
Did i miss it,but how come you CANT leave the people that you are with now? because of the children?
Its an awful sit... (read in full...)
The thought of the incident still bothers me, obviously, and I would just like some support or comfort.
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating 8 months, we were long-distance virtually from the get go and it sucked but we both told each other that there was no one else we'd rather be with, and worked out seeing each other at LEAST once every 3 weeks, ...
A. 11 August 2007: Hey first of all i would like to say i think you have done real well with this.
People do make mistakes and if everything else is great in the relationship, then i think you have done the right thing. Hes changed jobs, moved on, and regrets the inci... (read in full...)
I got an email of confessions this morning, starting with a massive apology. Then he went on to say that he has a girlfriend and she is 7 months pregnant with his child...
Q. I went out with a guy a year and a bit ago and was completly in love... I lost my virginity to him, anyway a week after he dumped me and went back to his ex girlfriend.. I never spoke or saw him again so it was have never really got over him. Abou...
A. 11 August 2007: If he isnt with her now, i dont see the rpboem as long as you're mates & happy with that.
If he is sill with the girl that is pregnant i would steer clear. Shes saddled with his baby & the last thing she needs as well as a new baby is her guys ex h... (read in full...)
He makes me feel bad about myself constantly...is it supposed to be this way?
Q. Are relationships ment to be like this? I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend since I turned 15. I really do love him he just makes me feel bad about myself constantly. The other day he told me if we finished no one else would stay with me bec...
A. 11 August 2007: Hi
Deal with him by getting rid! Seriously you are on a hiding to nowhere with this guy. Hes way too immature to be dating anyone. He needs anger management. Its only a matter of time before it happens again. At your age there are going to be lots... (read in full...)
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