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reader, bonym  +, writes (1 May 2006):
 He is married, you have to leave him alone, ask yourself, do you really want to be a home wrecker? No, of course you dont, so what if he as a little crush on you, you will find in all marriages, one or both partners will be attracted to someone else, but the real test of loyalty is whether they act upon those feelings. Don't as for his number, he is taken, move on. xXx
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (28 April 2006):
 it doesnt matter if he isnt getting on with his wife all that well or if he is. hes married!! The vows he made to her do mean something to the both of them, there important. Every relationship goes through bad patches doesnt mean someone like you should make them worse. Your selfish, there is someone out there for you who is better than this guy, try finding him instead of being a homewrecker!!
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (28 April 2006):
Look you don't want to be the other girl! What about his family and wife? Honestly move on, affairs affect everyone. the wife, husband and you if the guy doesn't end up leaving his wife and just carrying you along. Find someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): Do yourself a favor and move on to someone who is single. I got caught up in a relationship with a married guy and it has brought more hurt than joy. We started out as friends (he persude me) and it evolved from there and before we knew it...it became more than a friends relationship and I am all screwed up. Anything that involves someone who is married is a deadend street. This is probably not what you want to hear but it is true.
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reader, soniablade +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Do yourself a favor and move on to someone who is single. I got caught up in a relationship with a married guy and it has brought more hurt than joy. We started out as friends (he persude me) and it evolved from there and before we knew it...it became more than a friends relationship and I am all screwed up. Anything that involves someone who is married is a deadend street. This is probably not what you want to hear but it is true.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Sorry, but he is married. Do you not have standards of your own. Yes he flirts with you. So? Get some morals and leave it alone.....have some self-respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do care that he is married, I didn't mean it like that...ive known him a while...i'm sure each and every one of you has felt like that before with someone that was taken..i mean, put yourself in my shoes. its very hard. im very attracted to his personality the most. and its hard to let go. if i do, it will take some really long time..because this feeling isn't going to go away soon...he flits with me, and what does that tell me. hes leading me to want to be with him even more. i mean, i dont know what his marriage is like when he goes home. it could be wonderful..but then again it could be awful. so i dont know. im just in a bad situation and can't let it go.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Not a good idea to get involved in someone's marriage. If he says yes you would just be a fling or bit on the side, if he says no to a date then it would be utterly embarrassing to see him again in the workplace. Plenty of men out there...
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (27 April 2006):
 "YIKES" is right...leave him alone and find a nice single guy to call.
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reader, jessekk69 +, writes (27 April 2006):
i think it would be a really bad idea to ask him for his number... HES MARRIED. i dont see how you could be ready to destroy his marriage and relationship with his partner when you dont even know him. if he felt the same way he would of asked you for your number but he hasnt. he is loyal to his wife and loves her and what there is a child/children involved, you will be breaking there hearts and taking there daddy away from them, doesnt that bother you? so if i was you i would back right off before you do something you will regret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): You tell him it would be nice to stay in touch, ask him his number and let him worry about his marriage. Its his responsibility not to be stolen away not the female population not to try.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (27 April 2006):
 don't even think of chatting up this guy he is married so he ius not up for grapbs leave him alone
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (27 April 2006):
 You don't ask for his number. Being married to someone meens that you have made a commitment to them, they are the one for you that you spend the rest of your life with, no-one else!! And that includes you sweetie! He is married which means he is NOT up for grabs!
Gather soem pride and respect and leave him alone!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (27 April 2006):
 How do you ask for his number................what do you think? aybe you could go to work nude. Maybe he'll notice you. YOU DON'T ASK HIM !!!!
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reader, Dilly +, writes (27 April 2006):
You leave him alone. This man is married, he is not there for the taking. It doesnt matter how serious you think you are about him, its not your place to try and lure away a man that isn't free.
Your comment "oh i forgot to mention one thing..hes married." shows you do not look upon this as a serious factor which is pretty shameful.
Go out and find a man who is available and stop wasting time on one who isn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): You know nothing about him and he is married. How would you like it if it was your husband? What about the kids he may have?. If he has admitted to having a crush on you it is quite possible that he has many crushes. Treat other people as you would like to be treated is the general motto.
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reader, shania +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Sorry to be such a killjoy but you should leave well alone.This man is married and probably has 5 kids at home,waiting for him.Attraction is a powerful thing but this fella is well out of bounds.....Just forget about him.
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