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writes: Okay this may seem like a stupid question but I need to hear some other peoples opinions. Is it really possible to have sex with someone by mistake? Recently I found out my girlfriend slept with my best mate 6 months ago. They both say it was a mistake, they were really drunk and they didnt mean to do it. I can understand a kiss happening by mistake but to kiss, then get a taxi home together, have sex and then think up a story to avoid getting found out..? Apparently it only happened once and they dont even fancy each other. They both say it was a mistake they regret. Can I believe this and put it in the past? I'm not sure...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): they new what they were doing. if they remember getting drunk together and leaving together they both new very well that they were having sex together. dont believe them, they both lied to you. you can so better.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 April 2006):
 You amy be able to develop trust in one or other of these two people if you chose one of them to remain friends with. But forget about trying to rescue both relationships. Think about it, you would NEVER be able to trust either of them around each other ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Exactly. I mean, people who cheat with alcohol almost always say they did it because of being drunk, etc. However, why would they get drunk with questionable people in the first place. It's as though most of the world can't drink responsibly. You know, for example, you will never see me get drunk with anyone EXCEPT with my close friends, whom I know for a fact WILL keep me from doing anything stupid. I rather solve my relationship problems first before going out to a bar and drink my liver out.
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reader, Anja +, writes (26 April 2006):
 I'm sorry, but alcohol is a poor escuse, what were they doing getting drunk in first place? Sometimes a woman needs to feel wanted and will sometimes end up in bed with a man just so she can temporaily feel wanted and sexy. Has there been any problems with your relationship that you know of in the last year? Is your G/F secure about herself?.. was she on her own a while before getting together with you? If she suffers from low self esteem then that could explain what happened. I hope you pay her enough compliments and tell her you love her etc... I'm sure you do, sounds like you are a decent chap, at least she has been honest with you. Try and live with it if you can. Enjoy the relationship and all the good times you spend together. Lets hope it never happens again. If it does..well you know what to do!! xx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (26 April 2006):
 Yes it is and no it isnt. Alcohol makes alot of people horny and disminishes there judgemental functions. In a court of law this would be a guilty under diminished responsibility. They knew what they were doing at the time nd obviously wanted it at that time, it is only in hindsight they feel this was a mistake, how you deal with it is up to you how you deal with it. Good luck.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 April 2006):
 The end result is they did something behind your back. Sex. That must hurt. What is just as bad and hurtful is what lead up to it. That evening, they must have been flirting and playing the game to get to the final point. they were not considering you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): A guy who is blind drunk can't physically have sex, and as ETH said, your girlfriend had probably had a few and went along with it. They knew what they were doing, and their excuse is a total crock! If you belive that, you'll belive anything and it won't be long until they're at it again. If they claim they were totally drunk and so couldn't avoid the mistake, who's to say they'll avoid it again? Open your eyes and dump these two. They clearly have no regard for your happiness.Good luck.
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reader, princessdizzy +, writes (26 April 2006):
does your gf take sex seriously? or is she ok with one night stands? a mistake you regret is a second,not a whole night where 2 people close to you betray you and get together to invent a lie, do you think you can trust her again? cos if you cant you're wasting both your time. move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Unfortunately, it IS possible to get drunk and have sex with someone. Remember, sex is a lustful physical activity. Emotions are a bonus.
Mind you, despite what they did, it ultimately comes down to whether you will accept and continue your relationship with her or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): I'm with you ETH! Before long your gf and mate will be accidentally married by mistake with 4 mistaken kids! Dump them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2006): Thats bull man they new what they were doing at least one of them did and the other one just kinda went along with it just like i had a friend kiss me once by total suprise and i just went with it.ETH
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