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writes: i have developed feelings for this guy in work. I've always liked him and we hit it off straight away when i first started, but recently over the last month or so theres just been a spark between us, like the room is just electric whenever we're close, we get on so well,and we just bounce off each other, the problem being he already has a girlfriend who also works there in a different department. ive never cheated and have always been against it so usually i would put the thought into the back of my mind, but it is the only time i have ever felt so strongly for someone when you know you have the chemistry its just there and you cant fight it, he'as always really complimentative toward me and on one occassion when slightly drunk he said things that made my mind up that he likes me back, but it seems to me neither of us has the courage to admit it to each other, and im just so confused because i feel guilty for wanting him when he'as already got someone and i just dont know what to do. im not a nasty person and wouldnt dream of wrecking someones life but these feelings are eating me up? any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): when you are in love ...........you just know!!!!!! infatuation out of the window!!!!! romance ........passionnnn?!?!??!!?? all i can tell tell you is your heart will never lie but there times that we think with our brains without the heart and that where we go WRONG!!!!! babe dont be misled by fruitless love..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): when you are in love ...........you just know!!!!!! infatuation out of the window!!!!! romance ........passionnnn?!?!??!!?? all i can tell tell you is your heart will never lie but there times that we think with our brains without the heart and that where we go WRONG!!!!! babe dont be misled by fruitless love..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2006): Well, if he's not married then you have some hope, but if he is capable of infidelity with his current girlfriend, what makes you think he would not cheat if he were with you?As long as he is not married I feel comfortable giving you this advice: If at some point in the future you find out that he'd rather be with you, tell him that he must break up with his girlfriend before you will contemplate an equivalent relationship with him. If he hesitates, he is not ready, and you will know that he could potentially cheat on you. Until that time comes, cool your jets and just stay friends with him.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (20 May 2006):
 Hello, I know exactly how you feel and I dont want to sound like a broken record, but please make sure that you do not allow yourself to get carried away around him. There is nothing you can do about the chemistry but you can do something about the time you spend with him. If you are constantly aroun someone feeligs will start to grow stronger and stronger so if you abstain from seeing him so much it can help the feelings to die down. That may sound silly, but if nothing has happened as yet, and the less and less you see of him, the feelings will start to fade slowly. Whilst he has a girl, you have to leave him alone. I had these ridiculous feelings for a married man, and then its like God said, this cant go on, so as the feelings started to intensify, the man went away for about 2 weeks but it seemed a life time, and now he is back, its like I dont feel as strongly because I hadnt seen him for so long so I had to think about and concentrate on other people. Take care and good luck. xXx
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reader, eddie  +, writes (19 May 2006):
 You ae thinking about wrecking someones life or you wouldn't be writing this question. That's the same reason you go drinking with him and put yourself in those positions. What you're feeling isn't physically wrong but morally, it is. At least you know it. It's also insulting to you that he would carry on this way when he's already involved with somebody. What he's actually telling you is " I'm not REALLY available, BUT, we could hook up for some dirty fun. Until I feel too guilty or get caught" You're just soaking up the attention like a dry sponge soaks up water. These feelings are natural. If you are as nice as you say, MOVE ALONG and don't be a home wrecker. One more question, let's imagine you make a move for him. You get him in your claws. He gets a new job some day and he starts to feel the "chemistry" with a new co worker. What happens then? Or, what if you start to feel the chemisrty for another man. Relationships are the sum total of what you put into them. There will ALWAYS be nice, good looking people around every corner. Do you run to the next one every time you meet one?
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