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writes:How can I tell if I'm ok in bed? Can I simply tell by somethings that he does? Or should I just get the courage to ask him? Will he think it's weird if I randomly ask how I am in bed? Reply to this Question
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 The way he responds to you, i think that if he is happy with what is happening between you he will show it in many ways. Loving looks, affection, you can ask him what he likes in bed, why shouldn't you? its all about communicating with each other.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 February 2008):
 It is certainly not necessary to "ask" as long as your man is finishing satisfied. Do you have doubts? Is there any indication whatsoever that he is not being satisfied?
Lovemaking is always, or should be in my opinion, a give and receive situation ideally melded with love and respect, an ultimate sexual emotional and physical sharing.
If you are fully giving of yourself to your man, and mutually receiving intense pleasure and satisfaction in the exchange, then you are great in bed.
The only subject you might raise occasionally is whether he might like to explore some other techniques, positions or activities.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 If he thinks you are good , he would tell you or he would show his love for you.If he only have sex with you , he would not know or can compare whether you are good or better.
If he can cum and thinks he can pleasure you ,then he thinks he is good.Whether you orgasm or not or faked it,it doesn't matter to him. Once he cums , he feels relieved and enjoys the feelings.You are satisfied or feels good is beyond his capability to think.
If you asked him , he will either lie or say something which can bother on criticisms and that can put you off sex with him.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Hey - asking someone if they're good in bed? No, don't ask. Never.
Some questions are never asked, and thats one of them. That's one of those questions that you will never get a straight answer.
Watch for body language instead.
Take care, Richard
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Sex is a learning experience.
Experiment and ask him what he likes. I am sure he will be more than willing to let you know.
I have heard it said that sex is a selfish experience and that you should take everything you can to get satisfaction.
In my research and experience, give to your partner in every way you possibly can and your partner will respond in kind.
That makes for a much better experience, garanteed.
Believe me, if you are able to give him what he wants, he will not even want to try to compare you to anyone else. Of course, in that case you will have no doubts that you are good in bed. Doc
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reader, rcn +, writes (2 February 2008):
 You have the courage to have sex with him, but not ask him how you are. Now remember people have basic sexual instincts, practice doesn't make perfect it makes persistance, so get lots of practice.
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