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anonymous
writes:I am talking dirty with a teacher and i dont know what i should do? It started last week when i seen him out in a club. We got chatting and then i emailed him via the college and said i was sorry if i said anything i shouldnt because i was so drunk then he emailed me back saying he was flattered ( no idea what that meant) i asked him and he said that i told him i liked him. I do but he is a teacher! I am 18 and he is 31. Anywayz things got a little dirty but then he sent me a offical email saying i should only use this for college purposes. But attachted his personal email to it. So we were chatting about life and then he said we should keep it between us. So then i said well yes because i really dont want to get kicked out of college. So i emailed him a flirty email asking when can i have a test drive in his car ( he got a proper nice sports car) and he said when i deserve it. SO i said what could i do to deserve it.. yes flirtin i know but if you see him you would know why!So then he emailed me back saying i have some ideas you tell me and i will tell you when you are warm. I know thats a real hint to talk dirty!So the question is... Do i talk dirty to him?btw he isnt my teacher as such i had him for a lesson last year and thats how i know him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Do not do it. I was in a relationship with my teacher for 2 years and he didn't even teach me, its now going to trial. he is using his power and authority over you, whatever you do if you do have sex with him write it down, along with any other documented evidence like the emails, to ensure that one day when you look back and can see how he intimated or threatened you, you will have strong supportive evidence.
good luck, please be careful..
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (31 January 2008):
 do some research find it out if its wrong, like if its illegal coz i dno if it applies to colleges or whatever, if nothing bad will happen like him gettin fired or you gettin kicked outta college then talk dirty bk to him , only if you wanna tho! have fun i mena you do like him and you did say he is hot? We only live once ppl!! lolxx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Technically you are an adult and can do what you want. However, don't feel 'special' with this guy. I used to be a University lecturer in my late 20's and I had one student try to get a bit too friendly with me - I may well have dated him had I met him somewhere else but always had a rule on not getting involved with anyone from work settings esp not students. It gets so complicated! I know it goes on in colleges and Universities but it is not respected by colleagues and he is a clever boy - he is telling you not to email his college address as he knows his email is scanned by college officials...I would say that he is practised in the art of seducing students so know what you are getting into!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 I do not see anything wrong in your conversations.I don't like to be judgmental or stereotype as he is also a human being and you are old enough to decide.
Whatever you two do is your business .You want to talk dirty or not is your prerogatives.Since you are above the age of consent, you have not broken any laws.
He is single and available. If you find it enjoyable and comfortable with talking dirty , it is not a crime .People are just jumping to conclusions or too presumptuous.
I do not know that teacher but to judge that teacher as taking advantage of you or want to be in your pants is too stereotype.
You are in control, if you don't like his replies , you can always end it.
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reader, kenny +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Persoanlly i don't think there is anything wrong with the age gap atal, at the end of the day age is only a number. But like the other posts have already said the teacher student thing is very wrong and could land him in alot of trouble and without a job. I would refrain from the flirting and the dirty talk for the time being, at least untill you have left the college. Once you have left college you can both talk do or say what ever you want to each other.
All the best x
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reader, Miss Stella  +, writes (31 January 2008):
Bad news. Get out. He is gonna get fired and you are going to loose your education over a fantasy......Its not worth it.
He is just playing you and wants in your pants.
When he is 70 are you still gonna want to be there?
Sorry to be blunt.
But wake up...........
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): I don't think your teacher meant just 'talk dirty'. I think he probably wants YOU in general. Teacher-student romances never really work out from what I hear...Someone ends up getting fired, someone ends up in tears or morbidly depressed. I don't want that to happen to anyone! :( I would interest myself in a hot guy my own age with a nice car and a great smile. :)
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 I must agree with the next two replies below. Basically, if you want some no strings attached sex with the guy, go ahead knowing there could be consequences. Nothing wrong about an age difference, but the circumstances could surely earn you an unwanted reputation or worse. Or maybe you'll just be another young conquest on his list.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Hi,
your both adults so there is no law against what you are doing, and even the age gap while quite large is not that insurmountable.
The only thing I worry about for you is that he is taking advantage of his position of authority. If you are after no strings sex then go for it by all means you're old enough to make up your own mind.
But don't kid yourself, there isn't a relationship that's going to form out of this. What potential boyfriend would be asking you to send him dirty texts so quickly? That is not the way a guy goes about getting to know a girl, its the way a guy goes about to get horny and have sex straight away.
The sports car and the kinky texts messages spell one thing to me - He's a Player. If you are into that fine, but don't think anything is going to come out of it. Be warned. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): There is nothing inherently wrong with flirting.
But when its with a teacher, regardless of if he actually teaches your class, it can get very dangerous.
Now the danger is lessened by him not being in a position of power over you or your grades, and by the fact you are a legal adult, but nonetheless he is still not legally meant to socialise in this manner with a student.
If found out, it may mean he could be shofted to another school or plain and simply fired and banned from teaching and you would be expelled and possibly forced into the Psychiatrist's chair and possibly branded a slut by the community.
All these are risks and not certainties. Given your age, and his not actually teaching you... its hard to say.
So I guess research a little bit into the policies of your school and then decide if the risk is worth taking.
Happy Hunting.
Flynn 24
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