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writes:I need some advice about how to give a better hand job. Now I have tried 3 times now to make him cum but I just can't get him to. I am pretty sure I have a right grip. Its pretty firm but not too firm. I always get this cramp in my arm and its so painful to continue. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, Djini  +, writes (26 November 2009):
Well, I've been dating my boyfriend for two years, and he seems to really enjoy hand jobs...with a blow job finish. It took a while to get it right though.
First of all, not all guys are sensitive in the same places, so try changing the place you're most stimulating. Find his "soft spot".
Also, some guys (like my bf)can be self conscious the first few times, so try not watching their face or staring at their chest. Worked for my guy. Just pay attention to body language (stiffening, etc.) to see how you're received.
You can also try making some noise (moaning softly, etc.) as if you're going crazy just from giving it to him. Mega ego-booster.
After a while, I needed to spice things up again, in two years repeated motions can get kind of boring, so here are some sites I found really handy:
1) http://www.shedoesthecity.com/how_to_give_the_perfect_hand_job
2) http://tagtag.com/p-adult/how_to_give_the_perfect_hand_job_
Good luck.!
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reader, chocolatetpots  +, writes (10 February 2008):
that is all too complicated, try this.Slow, firm, but your thumb on the inside of the penis, this area is sensitive and has the most feeling, push downwards firm and slow, increase the speed gently, and react with the response the partner is showing, easy!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Well this is an interesting topic. I must admit, however, that just about every hand job that I can recall all my years was accompanied with lips and tongue, and usually with oral completion. I'll admit, however, that one gal used to give me great hand jobs about 40 years ago and I never figured out what the heck she did with all the juice. lol
Certainly, as "Collaroy" mentioned, you must at least apply plenty of moisture with saliva (spit) or perhaps a non-oil based lubricant. A "dry" yank it very uncomfortable and your guy would likely begin to lose his erection, even though masturbation is often accomplished dry.
Vary your grip with one hand at times, two on occasion, and with both firmness (grip) and speed. Slow is often as good as fast, especially in the beginning.
Consider allowing the penis to rub your breasts, between them, and tap the head on your nipples a few times - more if he responds very well. Do not forget to massage his scrotum (balls) on occasion, usually very gently with one hand while stroking the shaft with the other. Some men may enjoy this method almost throughout the experience.
Once you get him close to orgasm, begin massaging the head of the penis more with one hand while maintaining long strokes with the other- such as placing a thumb just under the tip where his "ridge" meets in a V-shape and gently massaging. This is a very sensitive area for most men.
It is difficult to describe, but use the tip of your thumb to push upward underneath the tip while your fingers wrap around the rest of the tip and the other hand continues stroking his shaft. You are sort of squeezing the head with a massaging motion. The ultimate climax would be for you to accept the release on the tip of your tongue or more deeply, but . . .
If you are determined to avoid any oral contact at climax, you might at least consider a few prior kisses and licks on occasion to intensify his stimulation. Try to have a warm, wet washcloth on hand to receive the ejaculation, or keep your hands wet and warm with saliva to capture the release. The problem with a wet washcloth is that it may become cold and very unpleasant long before the "moment."
Gently but firmly caress the head with both hands, gently stroking as well, during the release, simulating as best you can a nice, warm "place to put it."
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reader, j3ffo +, writes (6 February 2008):
 yaaaaaaa last post was good :)
talkin dirty to the guy might work too or you moaning.....there are a lot of things that'll make a guy want to cum quicker if you know what I mean
grip/wetness (on the cock) is crucial like the last comment says. Also try giving a hand job with a condom it might work as well as lube too
sometimes it's not how fast or how hard you gotta grip I mean if he's gonna cum he's GONNA CUM!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hi,
the grip really is crucial, its just the same with us guys and a woman's private parts we all wonder if we are doing something wrong.
Here's a clue, the biggest problem I always found was the girls tended to try harder and harder with more vigours thrusts, this made things worse. What you should try is to concentrate on the head and most importantly of all keep it wet, it can never be too wet but it can be way too dry. So keep it well lubed up with spit or lube and you should be on your way to the volcano erupting. Also try some dirty talk with it, tell your bf what you are going to do with his dick etc. work him up, I'm sure you will get him off soon enough.
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