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writes:i am 16 and go to quite a lot of parties with people my age (house parties) whenever i go all my friends go and give head (blow jobs) and seem to think nothing of it. and some of then often have the favour returned. i am th eonly one who doesn't do this.what is your opinion on this?as i feel like an odd one out yet i dont really fancy acting like that?x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Hi there! I just want to say that I'm proud of you for no doing what your girlfriends are doing. I know this is th enorm in life, because I know many groups of females in 37 states who are doing this. Don't do what they are doing. Don't fall for or to peer pressure. When I was growing up as a child (9 to 14) marijuana was the thing to do and just having sex was the thing to do. I refused to do any of it, but still wanted to be with my friends and go to all the parties...well, today....I'm the only one who has been a success (out of 97 people). I help the remaining few when I can and they all said...they wished they had had the same courage and convictions I had when we were young. DON'T DO WHAT THEY DO!!!
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reader, hello1 +, writes (31 January 2008):
 what sort of freinds do you have? slut house this way!
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reader, scythe  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 honey, please don't do anything YOU don't want to do ok? i learnt this lesson the hard way. giving head at parties will cheapen your reputation and guys will look at you and not see you for who you are, but what you can do for them. take carexox
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (31 January 2008):
 Aside from the reputation as a slutty whore you will gain, this is a great way to end up with HIV, gonorrhea of the mouth, herpes and possibly worse. And I would have never wanted to be second in line. What in the world are these girls thinking?
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reader, Miss Stella  +, writes (31 January 2008):
Whatttttt are you thinking?, Are you serious. What is a matter with you kids these days. If I stick a needle in my arm, are you gonna do it too?. Come on. Have some self worth, you sound better than the rest. And save your talents for that one special guy... Never mind the diseases you could get.
Flirt, but dont lift the skirt. You will have many opportunities to have some fun. For now just have some fun laughing at those sleeze bags that give head for what?????
To be thought of as cheep and worthless. It takes away from who you are if you are just like them. Take a stand and be a strong confident girl and it will all fall into place at some point.. But not now OK!!
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reader, Sams_WonderWoman +, writes (31 January 2008):
 If all your friends where jumping off a 200 foot cliff, does it mean that you have to do it? Of course not! Don't do something because your friends are doing it. They are the ones that are getting bad reputations as "easy". Just stick to your guns and follow your own heart. You will be proud of yourself for not jumping into something that you will regret for the rest of your life.
God Bless
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 January 2008):
 I'm fussy about my shoes, and they only go on my feet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): mandy7,is`soo sweet,she is giving love to all..She has a big heart. Right on mandy7..
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (30 January 2008):
 its hard resisting from peer pressure isn't it? its how my next door neighbour's 'good' (15 year old) ended up getting stabbed (yes its true, i live in a messed up rat hole atm)
resist from peer pressure
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reader, Arkiteck +, writes (30 January 2008):
I think your friends are all sluts and you shouldn't be hanging out with them. Be yourself, don't let anyone tell you you're "different" because you don't want to lower yourself to their standards. 'Nuff said
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reader, victoria_sweethear +, writes (30 January 2008):
 you have the right idea. if u go on and do the things that ur friends are doing, it is only impressing the boys in a way that is wrong. they will go on thinking that u are easy and a quick way to get a blowjob, and even sex. thats what they want.a girl like u should not mess around with guys like the ones at the party and instead go looking for true love.(sounds dreamy but u know.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): this is th eposter.thanks all the responses were really goodi will stick to my guns and wait for a nice BOYFRIEND rather than some lad at a partyx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): Is this some kind of party piece? No way! Do you have to do everything that your mates do? Be independant and dont do it. What will blokes think of you in the future, if they want a reputation then let them have it, but stay away from those kind of parties.
take care
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Hi.
It sounds to me that you have a lot of common sense, your mates only do this because they are sheep and follow the crowd, you on the other hand have reservations about this act and therefore it makes you a better person for not being a follower.
I say good on you, you are your own person and that is how you should be, when you find a guy you really like and then want to do the above, then that is alright, but for now i would stick to your moral ground, not do as your friends do,
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reader, ralphy +, writes (30 January 2008):
Trust me - I am 6 years older than you and my friends are even older. It seems like everyone is doing it - maybe yes maybe no. This is a perception thing.Anyway most of my close friend were like you and held back until they found a special guy for that and a few went and sexually messed around with lots and lots of guys. Those girls have admitted to wishing they were in our situations. This is a private and intimate thing - take your time so you don't regret it.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (30 January 2008):
 My Mother always taught me to have a mind of my own. Her favorate cliche'(saying) was,"If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you follow?"
Honey, Be your own person. Don't do something JUST BECAUSE other people do it.
You sound like the kind of girl who has better standards than THAT. If the other girls tore their cloths off, would you do it too, just so you wouldn't feel like the odd ball? NO, I don't think so.
Let the other girls be sleezy if they want to. Stick to your OWN values.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (30 January 2008):
My Mother always taught me to have a mind of my own. Her favorate cliche'(saying) was,"If your friends jumped off a bridge, would you follow?"
Honey, Be your own person. Don't do something JUST BECAUSE other people do it.
You sound like the kind of girl who has better standards than THAT. If the other girls tore their cloths off, would you do it too, just so you wouldn't feel like the odd ball? NO, I don't think so.
Let the other girls be sleezy if they want to. Stick to your OWN values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
NO! Dont do it, You will feel degraded after love and all the guys will just think upon you as someone whos available for a good b/j, You want to wait and meet a nice guy and then think about stuff like that or say if you did meet a really nice guy at one of your partys then word will have got round that you are the only girl who doesnt do this so he would respect you love. Keep hold of your self respect and dont do something just because your mates are ok hunny YOU TAKE CARE LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): Only do it if you want to be known as a slapper.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): No way!!! If you're not comfortable doing it then don't! Personally, I think it's slutty. If you're in a relationship it's one thing, but to go to a party and just start blowing everyone is disgusting and unsanitary. When your friends tell you that they have herpies or AIDS are you going to feel like the odd ball?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 wat??? NO?? you are so smart and obviously more mature than your peers, keep it that way hun, fair play to you. never do anything you dont want to do esp something like that. wen it comes to sexual acts, they should be kept behind closed doors, and happen between 2 ppl who respect eachother and are mature enough to understand the consequences. i think the reason why all these ppl are doing this is because they are insecure and feel like they need to do it to fit in. little do they know, this will get them nowhere, and in yrs to come, they will most likely be ashamed of it. as they get older they will realise that acts like that should be cherished and not put on show, and its cheap and disgusting to do that with anyone at parties. do they even like it? stick to your guns hun, you''ve no idea how much you'll appreciate it in the future. good luck, if you wanna talk more im just an email away, ive been through the same stuff!! xxx
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reader, NycZem +, writes (30 January 2008):
 You should find new friends. As much as I am one who haa partook in this act. I don't approve of it. Your friends are sluts hunny.
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