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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm not shy around people - I'm actually very open and loud. People tell me I'm funny and I have a lot going for me. I feel like I have a lot going for me! I don't think there is anything wrong with me. Most importantly, I think I'm friendly and a good person- my intentions are always good. But for some reason, when I like a guy, I get so shy! I'm different person! I freeze up, overanalyze, I'm hard on myself... it's having an impact on my relationship with guys. Because when I do like a guy, I become this different person. I recently met this shy guy. I was really outgoing in the beginning with him, always making 'friendly moves' but when I found out he might like me back, I started getting nervous. Now I feel dumb whenever I say hi. How do I stop being so insecure and start being myself around guys I like?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (13 November 2009):
 Some of "guys" are actually the passive type, particularly if some women consider us to be fairly attractive. Just being honest here. It is often the more gregarious women that some desirable men end up with. It usually just takes one good come-on or two to grab the attention of more passive men, or a bit more persistence sometimes. There are all kinds of men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): Wow, I had that same issue. What I did overcome it was to really start noticing what I was thinking. What was literally going through my head when I was around set "woman". What I found out was that I was trying to hard to be perfect and I wasn't being myself.
I know its easy to say just be yourself but its more then just that its accepting yourself too.
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