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30-35,
*isahorn_1
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. We are very much in love, but have encountered our fair share of problems with other females (singles sites, and an "online affair," but no physical cheating to my knowledge) in the past. He is 4 years older than me, and has already completed his university degree.I am considering going back to school for two years, and he would like to travel to Australia or Europe for 3months. I worry that if he travels that he might be tempted and possibly cheat on me. Am I right to be upset that he would screw off for 1/4 of the year to travel the world and then come back to me when it's convenient? Should I worry about the possibility of cheating, or should I just trust that it won't happen? I shouldn't try to hold him back from something he wants to do, right?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 November 2009):
Double M has some good points here. He was willing to forget about you quite quickly to go travelling, and he has been on single'd sites and has had an online affair as well. All important things to consider here. I wonder if you would be better off letting him go his own way and for you to find someone else who you can trust, and who actually does love you.
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reader, generalist  +, writes (7 November 2009):
i guess your relationship is yet to reach a level where the mutual trust plays important role...that means you are still to understad him..try and at times cross check whats he does when you are not there?
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reader, sighingsoftly  +, writes (7 November 2009):
How close are you? I had the same problem of an "online affair" but he told me himself about it and then I read everything. But my point is that you yourself know how honest he can be...an online affair (depending on how serious it was) may just be a confusion. Besides has he cheated you with otther woman? hoe honest is him? Consider those points. Besides if he really loves you and you are really meant to be he wont really cheat on you...they most important thing would be to communicate often and well try not to get in fights over meaningless stuff while you are apart.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 November 2009):
 Well, you are the one who knows him. How would we know what he might do? But we must wonder, why would he not take you with him? Why is he so willing to be without you for three months? And why wouldn't he worry about what YOU might do while he is gone?
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