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*nnaHartley
writes: Hi, So I've recently been partying a lot more, fairly common for someone my age. Anyway, last night, I got very very drunk and ended up kissing a boy. Now this may seem like a really silly question but my issue is that I can't stop thinking about him. I managed to find him on social media and we did follow eachother. I just don't know whether to pursue this further to to leave it as a drunken kiss at a party. I also don't remember much of the night or him, but I just can't stop thinking about him. Help! Thanks so much, Anna x
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reader, femmenoir +, writes (2 November 2017):
Firstly, you shouldn't get drunk, because it really does affect/impair you judgement.
The fact that you did what you did, was simply because you were intoxicated.
Does this make sense?
If you hadn't drunk and gotten drunk, then you'd never have kissed him, certainly not prior to getting to know him properly.
No sober, rational, logical and mature person would ever kiss somebody they know nothing about.
You can't get him out of your head, because you remember the kiss, however, it really is all a fantasy state for you right now, because the way in which that kiss occurred was jaded by alcohol.
Whether or not the boy remembers you, well who knows.
As the other Aunt's have advised, reach out to him via social media, start over again, get to know him properly without being intoxicated and see where it takes you.
The other factor here is, you're so very young.
At your age i'd seriously advise you to give guys a break for a few years and really focus on your education, before things really get out of control for you and for your life.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (26 October 2017):
Partying is normal at your age, but don't get drunk - it makes you vulnerable and negatively affects your health. Trust me; it's not worth it.
As for the guy, you've been caught up in the moment. There were no feelings, no interest, just alcohol. Get to know him first because, right now, he's a fantasy.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (25 October 2017):
If you are looking for a boyfriend then rule number one don't kiss while being drunk. Following each other on social media doesn't mean anything. He may remember you he may not. If you want to take things further with him then write him a message and suggest hanging out with each other when sober. Other than that the only advice I can give is if you like someone don't kiss them while drunk take your time and get to know them.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 October 2017):
Next party? Don't drink so much.
Following each other on social media means squat. But if you reached out with an "invite" and he accepted then perhaps he is interested in getting to know YOU - the REAL person not just the drunk girl at the party he kissed.
So why not try and have a conversation with him? You have ACCESS to his social media so it shouldn't be hard to see if you have things in common, hobbies, likes and dislikes, music, sports and then try and see if he wants to talk.
He might be a total A-hole once you get to know him and he might be a decent guy... You won't know unless you try and GET to know him.
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