A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I started chatting with this guy online on Thursday. I messaged him first and thankfully the messages have not stopped since and he has been the one to initiate conversation since the first message.I hate over thinking these situations but I am worried that he won't ask to meet me and I really really want to meet him.I have asked guys out first before but usually it backfires on me later on down the road and I don't know. There is something extra satisfying about your crush actually asking you out first. Yeah I have a crush on him. I am attracted to him.Should I give it a week? Am I worrying too much for no good cause? Because in my experience when someone isn't into me they won't chat at all. This guy in particular is 39. I am 29 so I don't know. He's older so I'm sure he'll know what he wants. I just hope that he will ask me out because this back and forth texting is tiresome when you actually like a dude.
View related questions:
crush, my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2017):
 You really are over thinking this, it has not even been a week yet off contacting him and already you are worrying, you need to slow down and enjoy chatting to him. You say he is keen to talk to you so that is a great start, remember to keep things slow and steady as not to scare him away.
If you don't want to ask him out then that is okay, wait a while and see what signals he gives off. You say you have a crush on him and you are attracted to him, but you need to remember that you don't actually know him that well yet and you might not get on the best face to face at all so that is why you should slow things down.
I think you are worrying over nothing, if the talking is going good then keep writing to each other, it is okay to drop a few small hints that you would like to meet and see how things go.
A
female
reader, NORA B +, writes (1 November 2017):
While dating sites are one way of making friends or dating,one must be aware that he maybe chatting up..other friends.So give it time,find out all you can about him after all you do not know the guy at all.IT would be wiser to let him ask you out...that way you will not be putting yourself in the line of being rejected.There is no need to worry at all.Best thing to do is..Slow down.Remember it takes two....if he asks you great....Be safe at all times.If he does not ask you....no big deal.As you stated you are over thinking the situation.Best wishes NORA.B.
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (31 October 2017):
 Honestly? I would say if HE doesn't ask to meet you after a month.... then he ISN'T really interested in more than someone to chat with.
That doesn't mean YOU can't drop a hint or two, like when talking about favorite restaurants, food, travel or whatnot you can mention a good place to eat in a "neutral" location (if you know where he is from or just near you).
While you might feel like you are "crushing" on him accept that you DO NOT know this guy. Texting back and forth for a few days doesn't mean much in the bigger picture. So I think you need to "get a grip" and slow your roll.
Or you will come off as desperate.
...............................
|
