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writes: Help!I've been asked by a lady friend to join her to a play this Saturday. I like her and my gut tells me the feeling is mutual. I want a relationship with this woman. What must I do to make my intentions clear? Do I take her to dinner after the show or something? The last time I asked a girl out was in school and it lasted a really long time, and I have just gotten back into the game.I have very little idea as to how to go about this as an adult. Please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2017):
 Well all the signs are looking good, you like her, she asks you out to see a play with her and you also feel she likes you. So we just need to get the ball rolling. Ask her does she want dinner or drinks before or after the play and most off all relax and enjoy yourself. The key is showing interest in her, being relaxed, and most important be yourself. If you feel comfortable you can drop a few hints that you like her and would like more dates. Don't come on to strong at first though, just take your time and enjoy it.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (26 October 2017):
 Try not to worry too much and don't be too hard on yourself.
This lady friend obviously likes you and wishes to spend some of her time with you.
This says a lot about her interest in you, because most women wouldn't wish to spend their time with somebody they've no real interest in.
You can both enjoy the play together and afterward, you can even ask her if she'd like to join you for a bite, a drink and a chat.
This way, you can find out even more about each other and it can be somewhere that's a bit less noisy and a bit more intimate.
All you need to do is to be yourself and to show genuine interest in her company.
Smile, have fun and always be respectful, no matter what the outcome.
If you wish, you can pre-plan and find somewhere to take her for a bite, or you can stick to spontaneity and choose a place together after the play.
With the latter, it's a nice way of taking a leisurely stroll together, whilst having a chat and looking for somewhere nice to eat/drink.
Do not ever feel too pressured about where to go to eat or even what to eat.
So long as it's a nice, clean and comfy venue, you'll both have a great time.
This doesn't mean that you shouldn't spoil and pamper each other in the near future, however, for a first date and until you both know where you stand, just keep it simple and have fun.
Get to know and see the "real her" and allow her to get to know and see the "real you".
If you want to be extravagant, by all means do, however, if you want to keep things simple, then that's fine too.
Have a great time and enjoy yourselves!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (26 October 2017):
 The fact she has asked you to join her to see a play bodes well, so ask her if she fancies a bite to eat or a drink afterwards. You will have just been to see a play so you will be able to discuss what you thought of it, then move on to whatever subject comes up. Show interest in her. Ask her questions about herself.
If all goes well, thank her for a lovely evening and suggest another outing. She has made the first move by inviting you to the play.
Good luck.
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