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writes: i grew up with my husband as teenagers when we were 16 he moved away.i never saw him for about 37 years , we both had spouses and children but seperated, when we met after all those years we fell for each other very quick got married 3 1/2 years later been together 4 1/2 years now.he changed my life around i go on holidays cruises hotels caravanning etc he bought out my ex and bought my house .renewed in and out .im well impressed. he had a horrible upbringing said he never felt loved from his parents or wife n children.i tel him every day i love him prob about 20 times shows my affection towards him and vice versa. problem is he keeps asking me how much i love. would i cheat on him, do i fancy other men , would i ever go back with my ex etc etc etc i feel he dont trust me, i never look at other men nor am i interested in anyone but find it uosetting when i feel he dont trust thing is i lived with my ex husband 23 years he was exactly the same? i was seperated for 13 years when MY EX CHEATED ON ME, then met this one..any suggestions please its getting me stressed out. i do really love him to bits.....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 October 2017):
 He is insecure and has low confidence, it seems he can't believe his luck that you love him. As cute as that is off course it is going to be draining and upsetting for you to have to keep reassuring him.
He obviously has issues from his past, do you think it would benefit if you both spoke to a therapist? He needs to deal with his past issues and learn to let someone love him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 October 2017):
 Talk to him about HOW he thinks people show love, tell him HOW you show love.
Try this one with him:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/
And consider reading the book together. It might help him DEFINE "love" easier in a much simpler and less fantastical and grandiose way.
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