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writes:Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I cannot picture myself with a husband. I don’t really even like kissing men, too stubbly! But sex with a man really turns me on! As does gay porn (man on man). I feel more turned on with men than women, but more romantically attracted to women. I don't know if perhaps this is because I am more comfortable with women, always have been, even as friends. Men are men, football beer and boobies! But women will talk about your desires and fears.Linking on from this, I’ve been with men, not loads (5) ranging from random hook ups to planned hook ups, but I still always feel nervous when I’m doing it, like for instance when I'm receiving oral, I shake, I'm not cold, I am, if anything, very turned on and enjoying the moment but shaky! This never happens with women.Do you think my shaking is linked to feeling more comfortable with women? And is bisexuality so complex that I can have no romantic feelings towards men in anyway, but still want to 'shag their brains out' ?Thanks!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 November 2017):
 I wouldn't worry about labeling your sexuality, it is not black and white and not everyone feels the same just because they are attracted to both sexes. I get why you probably feel frustrated and confused. But only you can decide how to move forward in your life in terms off a relationship. If you are more romantically connected with women then what is stopping you having a relationship? Is it the urge to have sex with men? If so then maybe you are not ready for a relationship or maybe an open relationship is what you need. Don't rush in to anything and just take your time getting to know people. Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with and if you find yourself unhappy then talk to a therapist.
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (30 October 2017):
 You are who you are, you feel as you feel and i believe that with time, all your current confusion regarding your sexuality and your preferences will finally reveal themselves.
For now, try not to overthink everything and simply take a day at a time and do whatever takes your fancy.
I'm no expert, however, from what you describe, it sounds as though you are bisexual, however, you feel more comfortable from a general sense with women.
Men seem to fulfill your sexual urges/desires, whereas women fulfill your emotional side moreso.
There is no normal/abnormal here, just as there's no black and white.
You could be shaking with men, because although you're very turned on, you may be nervous and that's because you still haven't quite figured things out.
You're still quite young and you require many more years to mature and know exactly what you want for the long term.
Give yourself time and i would even recommend chatting with a professional about all your inner feelings surrounding the topic of sex and sexuality.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (29 October 2017):
Sexuality is not nearly as black and white as most people think. What you like is what you like, and ultimately you should find a way to accept it and incorporate it into your life.
You may want to look for a romantic relationship with a woman, but to satisfy your itch for men, have either an open relationship or occasional threesomes.
I'm not gay at all, but I had a friend who's girlfriend was very turned on by gay porn and she even offered to pay us to sleep together with her there. Didn't do it, of course.
Find a woman like that and you can have the best of both worlds.
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