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writes:My boyfriends parents hate me! they tried to tell him lies about me and saying stuff they knew will hurt him. when they realised he didn't buy anything they were saying they decided to keep him away from me which means holding him hostage, then they took his phone and stuff so he can't contact me but he tried everything I talk to talk to me. Later on he contacted me when he got his phone back and that caused him so much trouble because he physically got hurt by his parents.What should I do they really hate me and he wants to spend his future with me? I mean how are we gonna have a future if his parents really hate me and I don't want something bad to happen to him. Also I forgot to tell you I'm a black girl and he's Cypriot Turkish. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice again im starting to realise that my relationship won't go anywhere if his parents hate me all I'm saying I'm going to give it a try and see where it goes if it's good it's good if it's bad it's bad.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 January 2013):
 OP, if you are not Muslim, but HE is, that's exactly the problem, according to his parents. Don't take this too lightly , in some ( note I said SOME ) Muslim communities that's an unsormountable hurdle, kids are not even allowed to make friends outside their religion, imagine dating .
It's going to be all uphill , and it gets worse the older you get, and the more serious the threat of a permanenet relationship becomes. Not saying this to discourage you- just so that you do not illude yourself that " it will get better with time " .
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer they really help I think I'm gonna try and work this relationship and yes I know I isn't like the movies but I have to try I know I'm young and I may not know a lot about relationships but I nights as well try than give up plus he's made so many sacrifices for me and impinge will be like throwing a book in his face so YH I'm going to try and work this relationship. Plus I'm not Muslim
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): Are you Muslim OP? it could be that you're not, it also could be that they want him to marry in his race. This is not unusual for Turkish parents at all. They see their kid having a relationship outside of their community and they see it as them bringing dishonour on their family.
Also he's a bit young to be talking about spending his future with you.
You will not be able to make his parents like you, so it's up to him to decide whether he stays with you or not against his families wishes.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (21 January 2013):
 His parents don't sound all the ticket to me tbh. You said he got hurt, did they beat him? Because if so you can report them to the police.
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