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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Dear aunts and unclesI recently entered a long distance relationship and I'm worried. The thing is, I'm scared, really scared. I've been in a long distance relationship before but the distance wasn't so great you know? Now I'm so much more further away from my boyfriend (I know I won't see him often) and I'm afraid that this relationship won't work out because of the distance and time apart. I'm not worried about him cheating or being untrustworthy because he is the sweetest, most caring guy I've ever met and I really do love him (I haven't really loved anyone like I love him). I really don't want to lose him and he feels the same way, I know this because he is constantly telling me that he really loves me and doesn't want to lose me and that he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. I think that's quite sweet and I love that the feeling is mutual. We're both virgins and are saving ourselves for marriage so I know that it isn't about sex. We haven't even kissed because I moved away before we could get the chance to. He says he knows its true love because we haven't even kissed and he loves me so much. My question is: am I being reasonable fearing the distance between us? Or should I just suck it up and try to forget about it? Its really bothering me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 January 2013):
 LDRs are hard. LDRs for teens and young 20 somethings are nearly impossible.
You will learn that just because a person SAYS something does not make it true (except in the case of a man saying he just wants FWB that’s ALWAYS true). He can SAY he loves you, that does not mean he does.
You are very reasonable in fearing the distance. I would stay FRIENDS with him (and in time even that will fade)….
LDRs need these things:
Communication
Honesty
Trust
MONEY (to afford the travel)
TIME (to travel to see each other)
A plan to end the distance.
I doubt at 16/17 you have the ability to see each other REGULARLY.
I did an LDR we were 2 hours apart by car. I had the time and MONEY to go see him every weekend for a year. A round trip every weekend ran with wear and tear on my car and gas and tolls around 75 dollars. EVERY time I went to see him. My GF and her husband do this 3 weeks out of the month and he takes the train. THEY get up at 5 am and it’s nearly 100 dollars round trip. IT’s VERY VERY HARD.
How often will you be able to see him? Less than every month?
Best to let it go.
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