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writes:Why are my exes upset because I have moved on with my life?Ok my first ex I was with him for 6years but I have been knowing him for 22 years.He wants to come back and be with me to be controlling ,abusive,the whole nine yards.My second ex was a drug user,abusive the whole nine yards I was with him for some years on and off because he could not get his life together now I have moved to another state they are angry with me .I keep in contact cause I have children by both of these men.But they can't seem to take my decision of leaving them alone for good.How can I make them understand that love doesnot live here anymore? Help:0
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reader, so4chaotic +, writes (26 January 2013):
Take record of how many times they call you or try to see you then call police for restraining order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): You can't because it's not about love OP, it's about control. You moving to another state gives them less control over you and that makes them angry. Simple as that.
OP there are not many women out there at your age that will allow men like them in their lives, being able to control a woman as they have with you is rare so they'll fight to keep that. It's nothing to do with love, it's all about control and you can't convince them otherwise because not only do you not seem to understand what it is but they're never going to like not having control over you.
OP you using the kids as an excuse as to why you contact them is bullshit.
I have more than one single mother friend and the ones who don't want the father in their life but still let them see the kid only discuss things kid related, those guys don't get to talk about feelings or anything other than things to do with the child. It's very easy to keep an emotional distance from people even if you have kids with them, but you don't do that, so don't complain about this when you stay feeding it.
You keep calls, texts etc. to kids only. If they try to talk about other things, even if they ask how you're doing you just ignore them or hang up.
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