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*assandra123
writes:In September I lost my virginity to a friend of a friend who'd recently broken up with a girlfriend. Since then we've slept together a few more times. My friend has informed me that he's 'enjoying being single' and doesn't want a serious relationship. Whenever I sleep with him he always insists he doesn't want to lead me on or continue sleeping with me because he likes me and could see it leading into a relationship. I think i'm starting to fall for him but feel like there's no point telling him this because he doesn't want a relationship. Also I don't want to make things awkward between me and my friend because he's a mutual friend. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2013): I would stop it because your only going to fall for him more and get your heart broken . And it would make it him feel weird.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (21 January 2013):
 Yes, you have a bunch of "virginity loss bond hormone chemicals" coursing through your body and brain now that are turning you from an intelligent logical person into a dribbling mess ready and willing to be used and used and then discarded like rubbish.
Take charge and end the arrangement. There will be other guys out there who want to cherish you, but you'll find none of them as long as you're a sex toy for someone who didn't and never will deserve your virginity in the first place.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 January 2013):
 You should stop sleeping with him. I don't understand how people put so much importance on avoiding awkwardness, over protecting your own feelings. Just say you still want to be friends with him but you won't go to his place anymore. It has to be a public place, and with other mutual friends there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2013): You do nothing because you won't tell him. Then you continue to sleep with him in the hope he'll end up wanting a relationship only to be stung when you figure out he only wanted a rebound fling and now he's done with you.
OP is your age really 30's? I don't mean that in any kind of derogatory way, it just surprizes me someone your age could be so blind to the obvious.
"'enjoying being single' and doesn't want a serious relationship"
Hello! Can't be more clear than that about your chances OP.
"insists he doesn't want to lead me on or continue sleeping with me"
And yet he does, hmmm now what could this guys game be, I wonder. He says he doesn't want to lead you on but he is, he says he doesn't want to sleep with you but he does sleep with you. And he says all this after you sleep with him, how strange. Hmmm. Something's afoot methinks.
OP the guy is using you as a casual rebound lay, his friend is the only honest one and told you he doesn't want a relationship. He then is contradicting himself, and lying. Says he likes you to sleep with you then covers his ass with the "I don't want to lead you on shit."
Cassandra, you're this guys fuck toy and won't ever be anything else. You got stung on the rebound. It happens. But we both know you're just going to continue on with him and hope.
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reader, cupidlover89 +, writes (21 January 2013):
He is using you. He will never be with you. He is probably just passing time until his ex comes back. Which explains why he is telling everyone that he is not getting serious with anyone. He doesn't want his ex to hear he is unavailable. Cut it off
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